Women and swinging!

How many of us ladies came up to our partners one day with a copy of a swinger’s magazine and said “honey, doesn’t this look fun? Let’s get into Swinging!!!’ I didn’t think so. As my husband Glen and I have always said over the years... for the most part, it is the man that brings up the issue, but it is the woman who keeps the couple involved. After we go through thinking that we are not loved, not sexual enough or that he is just a dog, we discuss it further.

Why do we go through this? Well to start, women are not brought up to know the beauty of sex! We were blessed with these soft, sensuous, wonderfully sensitive bodies and then told the feelings they give us are bad. We were told not to enjoy them with each other and not even with ourselves (can you smell the fire and brimstone?). We were brought up that sex is only for procreation and/or when our husband comes home drunk or just demands sex. (Of course, not all men are like this, I am using this as an example.) Aren’t you glad you don’t have to live like that?!

Acceptance of ourselves and our bodies is a process of UNLEARNING all the negative gobbledegoop we were taught. We had to learn that sex is not something to be ashamed of and that those wonderful tingling sensations are good and NORMAL. If we find ourselves admiring another man or woman and the vibration starts, don’t worry, we are not possessed by Satan; we are feeling a normal human reaction. Yes, it’s OK to admire that gorgeous guy across the room. In fact, you can talk to him, dance with him and take it as far as you like.

The wonderful thing is that once we have gone though the myriad of changes, we find that we experience a freedom of unparalleled boundaries!!! We no longer see it as our partners not being happy with us, but as a growth experience for both of us. Our partners probably notice a change also. Women who were shy and timid, slowly come out of their shells and become more confident and assured of themselves. Your personal sex lives get even steamier as you talk about the possibilities and later the experiences you have. This Community empowers women!

Of course, we sometimes find that our partners get a little mixed up as we blossom. Usually the men come into swinging with visions of nubile nymphs, all calling his name. The fact is that most men cannot compete with women. Most men can only cum so much and then they have to rest. Whereas, women can be multi-orgasmic! You may be at a party and he is spent and you are still ready to rumble! There he sits, with a limp dick and hurt feelings because you may not be ready to go. Compromise and discuss your partners feelings, because, this is a feeling he probably did not anticipate having. Grow together!! Communicate! Communicate!! Communicate!!!

Ladies, you are the glue that holds this community together! You don’t believe it?! Picture a swinger’s dance, house party, or convention without women.... Now we are not saying this for you to put on a crown and armor, declare yourself Zeena, Queen of the Penis and tell your partner to feed you grapes (unless you both enjoy it, if that’s the case, may we suggest unseeded grapes)! It’s just a fact!!! This is a Queen’s Court. You, as a woman, have the opportunity to live, laugh and UNLEARN all of the negative things we were taught as children.

So ladies… don’t feel as if you were dragged into this community by some bizarre horny toad of a man who is only out for himself. Remember, he was caring enough to mention this to you. Married “single” swingers, if you would only take the time to caringly discuss this issue with your wives, you may not have to sneak out of the house with a lie. We say “may” because nothing is absolute and this lifestyle is not for everyone. But if you communicate with your partner and show her that this is not just for you, but for her also, you could be on your way to a wondrous journey together. No hiding, no shame, no lies, no guilt! Think about it! The truth will give you freedom.

Yes, the man is usually the one who brings up the subject, that is because men are brought up less sexually repressed than women. But it is the woman, who ultimately has the final say. Embrace this power ladies. Do not use it to hurt, use it to enhance. We live in a wonderful world filled with beautiful people. Sex is normal, sex is good. Once you take those small steps to sexual freedom, you will find your partner and you experiencing a journey together that is unparalleled by anything that the “straights” enjoy. The total freedom to enjoy the mutual satisfaction of another person if you so desire. The warmth, the mental stimulation and the red hot passion. It’s all there for us, just waiting for us to conjure the love and understanding that we all have. Breathe it in and enjoy life!!!

I will close with this joke…
At 7pm a husband brings his wife to a swing party, kicking and screaming. At 7am, the next morning, the woman is dragged from the swing party, kicking and screaming!

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What is The Swinging Lifestyle?

WHAT IS THE SWINGING LIFESTYLE?
By Shirley SezS. & R. Productions

The Swinging Lifestyle is as Multifaceted, as life and people are? It's Basic belief is that EVERYONE, has the right to live, love and enjoy themselves sexually;---providing there is MUTUAL CONSENT between adults. This is the only area, that we all think alike!!! It is from this pointion, we all differ about what the Swinging Lifestyle means to us and on what level, we choose to enjoy it's benefits.

The Swinging Lifestyle has been in existence since time began. Because on it's most basic level, the word "swinging" is only a board term meaning; the sharing of sexual pleasure with a person or persons we are not legally married to!!! In this context; most of the people in the world today, ARE swinging, whether they realize it or not!!!

The word "Swinging" derived from a Minister, who told his congregation, there were weird people who were swinging back and from bed to bed, in thesame manner as Monkeys. He seemed to think the people we spoke about were doing something new, different and weird but he was very wrong!Even in Jesus' time it was the common and acceptable behavior for the wealthy and powerful to have many wives, concubines and slaves for their sexual pleasure!!! Several women rulers availed themselves of their power also, by keeping an Equal number of male slaves and consorts to satisfy their sexual needs and desires too. So, what is being considered as new and weird conduct in our present unenlightened sexually controlled and somewhat puritan thinking work has been considered normal and even acceptable conduct for many people civilization and religions since time began!!!

Most European & Asian countries: Africa, Iran, Egypt, China and Japan, were among those that have lived in this manner for centuries and some still are today! In France, during Queen Marie's time; wild orgies were the norm, until she lost her head for being a Taker instead of a Giver! Just maybe, that was then people started to assume that when you lost you head over sex it was dangerous or wrong!

In the recent past, we had many free thinkers, who were outspoken about their belief in their right to enjoy their sexuality. It is also well known that many of our world leaders -- even those of the religious community have openly or secretly enjoyed their sexuality while trying to deny us the same rights and opportunities.

Old Ben Franklin was known to be a free thinker and nudist, while enjoying his sexuality in a manner we would call swinging. In fact, in today's moral mud slinging climate, this brilliant statesman would not be allowed to hold any Government offices of positions he held. The moral majority today, would've hung him out to dry, just as they did Gary Hart!!! Today, people are only considered worthy of being world leaders if they can almost be considered for sainthood!!! In many cases it's just that they have been sneaky or secretive enough to keep their true natures from being known.

Many of our movie stars are known for the sexual games they play, on and off screen, but most people just laugh and secretly envy them and talk badly about their neighbors if they are acting in a similar manner. It is normal for people to hate, deride, and judge anyone who has claimed their right to enjoy their sexuality in any manner they have chose not to regardless of their own hidden desires!!!

In the last twenty years, some sexual rights were established in the courts of the land, proving the fact, a persons sexuality should be their own business. But in the last five years, many of these same rights have received a battering by the vocal moral majority!!! It's just not our business anymore, what we do in the privacy of our homes and bedrooms. It has become the business of the federal state and local governments organized religions and even your next door neighbor! The swinging lifestyle, as we know it today; has evolved, grown and changed during the last 60 years. My parents were approached, when I was just a baby; to go to small home parties involving wife swapping with many of their neighbors and good friends. Most of them belonged to a very restrictive religion, which considered divorce a sin. so as a way to keep their vow, "Till death do us part" -- they had decided to forget about "cleave unto each other only!!" Daddy naturally thought it was a great idea, but Mom objected and thought she had refused it for both of the, but Daddy claimed all his sexual rights without her.

For many years, the small Home Party situations was the only way people enjoyed swinging and they were restricted to couples only. This was a very much mail-dominated society at that time, so it was definitely considered wife swapping. The attitude was: you can swing with my wife, it I can swing with your's? It's a fact, many people & clubs haven't progressed past this restrictive attitude today! Only for the last few years, have some clubs allowed Female or Male singles.
Organized On & Off Premise Swing Clubs have only come into being during the last 0-20 years, being modeled after Sandstone; an alternative lifestyle community in California The video they produced is still being rented in many local video stores, but this Style setting club today, denies being part of the Swinging Community?!!

Today, on & off premise swing clubs are in most states and countries of the world. The National Association, formed by Club Owners and Swing Magazine Publishers;, host many widely varied functions: Conventions, Camp-outs, Cruises, Tours and Fun Weekends. These give everyone a change to meet, exchange information a large number of subjects, especially any laws or medical concerns, which may affect people's ability and right to enjoy their sexuality and the swinging lifestyle.

When a person attends these functions, they are able to learn that the majority of the participants are definitely not the Dregs of the Universe, as the general public has been led to believe they are? In fact, just the opposite is true!!! The swinging lifestyle is only 10-20% as they've been depicted by the media, while the higher majority of them are highly intelligent, successful, community leaders and almost always the type of person you would love to have for a friend or neighbor. They're the lovers of the universe, showing love, consideration and caring. They only want to be left alone to enjoy their friends, as they each desire!

They believe in their right to enjoy their sexuality, in private, in their own homes or organized swing clubs, plus grant their mates, other people, their sexual rights too. They learn how to show love to themselves and to their friends. They're secure in their personal lives and in their sexuality, so they don't feel the need to try to control anyone else's lives or sexuality. They have a natural outlet for their sexual desires, with consenting adults, so are less likely to inflict them on their own children or any unwilling victims.

Committed couples, who have acknowledged themselves as swingers and have come into the swinging lifestyle, so they may act as each others best friend and continue to have totally truthful relationships, rather than lie to each other and have secret affairs. I personally consider it strange that the people in our world today are more understanding of secret affairs, than they are an alternate lifestyle that advocates, demands and requires total truth!!!

Non-swingers are enjoying their sexuality, just as swingers are except they are lying to their mate's about it and deliberately making their marriages unhappy to justify their actions and soothe their guilt! They haven't learned that truth and honesty enables myou to not suffer emotional and infidelity or guilt!!

Only about 10% of the people enjoying the swinging lifestyle have mentally and emotionally accepted their sexuality enough to be completely open about being involved in it! Some try to keep this fact secret due to the fears about how this knowledge would affect their lives, family relationships and careers. While other's hide the truth because they refuse to admit even to themselves they are swingers. This is why many don't attend organized clubs. They try to tell themselves that as long as they only to go small home parties with friends, they are not really swingers!!!

The couples who have been able to admit, they enjoy the swinging lifestyle, attend the major functions the lifestyle offers. This helps them to grow, learn and get past their fears, while the closet swinger has denied themselves this opportunity due to their fear.

If I could sum up, what the swinging lifestyle really is and isn't, I would have to say that depends totally upon the needs, desired and attitudes of each individual who enters it. If you desire only more and better opportunities for sex that's possible! If you lonely and want good friends too, who will love and car about you while you enjoy going to dinner, dancing, camping and Fishing, that is possible! If you want to meet people from all over the world to visit and visit you, that is possible!!! So just as in every other facet of life, swinging is what you make of it, nothing more, or nothing less.

SHIRLEY SEZ: ... WE ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING NEW OR DIFFERENTWE ARE JUST DOING IT BETTER!!!

Dream Pleasure Tours Teams with "Wild on E!"

Dream Pleasure Tours Teams With "Wild on E!"

For Ms. No Swim Suit Contest

NEWPORT BEACH, CALIFORNIA, February 19, 2008 - Dream Pleasure Tours announced today that it is partnering with E! Networks and Tom's Tours for the filming of the 2008 Ms. No Swim Suit Contest.

From March 9 to March 15, 2008 the Ms. No Swim Suit contest is being held at the fabulous Hedonism II Resort located at the tip of famous Negril Beach, Jamaica, considered to be one of the world's premier warm water vacation destinations. Twelve dynamic female contestants representing social clubs and travel organizations from around the U.S. vie for the 2008 Ms. No Swim Suit crown.

Unlike conventional pageants in which a panel of stuffy biased judges pick the winner, at the Ms. No Swim Suit Contest everyone vacationing at the resort may cast their ballot for the lady of their choice. Consequently the entire week is filled with activities designed to allow the lovely contestants to win the favor of visitors, including Naughty School Girl Night, the evening Bareware Competition, the Naked Fashion Show, Pajama Night, Mardi Gras Night, Toga Party Night, and the Dance Finale. At this pageant, flirting with the judges is not only accepted, it's encouraged!

Gary Booth, director of communications and club/resort relations for Dream Pleasure Tours, said, "If you've never been to any of the Hedonism resorts-well it's all in the name so expect an experience unlike anything you've ever had. With a location like this, and an event like the Ms. No Swim Suit contest, it was bound to attract media attention. And it did! E! Network's hot show "Wild on E!" will be on location shooting all the action. If you can't get down to the resort for this once a year event, check it out on E!-but remember, put the kids to bed first! When we say 'No Swim Suit' we meant it."

Hedonism II and its group of affiliated resorts, known as SuperClubs®, along with Tom's Tours have been staging the Ms. No Swim Suit Contest since 2000. Hedonism II is an all inclusive up scale resort that caters to those vacationers looking for the ultimate in pleasure. From the moment Hedonism II's gates opened twenty-five years ago, it's been the most widely recognized, and notorious, resort in the world. Words really can't quite describe the thrill of actually being there. It's the ultimate guilty pleasure, only without the guilt. A real life Garden of Eden. Tom's Tours specializes in vacations to adult oriented travel destinations.

About Dream Pleasure Tours

Dream Pleasure Tours is as an event and tour company specializing in tours and events that are designed to entice the senses and stimulate our guest's deepest desires. Our guests are seeking to combine the ambience of luxury with the enchantment of a dreamscape. They throw off the constraints of everyday life and enter a world unlike anything they've ever experienced. Setting passion and sensuality free they leave the labels behind. Dream Pleasure Tours-making fantasy a reality for open minded fun loving people. To find out more about Dream Pleasure Tours, visit us at http://www.dreampleasuretours.com/ or call 888-662-1522.

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At work the other day a co-worker stated he was off to Club Wicked. Can you tell me how they get away with "sex" in that club? I understand he stated it was because it is registered as a "private club" but would like to know more.
I'm sure one of your "roving reporters" would love to take this on!
—SL

Dear SL,
They get away with it, quite simply, because it's legal. In 2005, the Supreme Court ruled that since consensual sex in a private club does no harm to Canadian society, it should not be considered criminal. (Your wife, however, may feel differently.)

If you'd like to know more about the actual "sex" in this "private club" (which, incidentally, is Ontario's only on-premise swingers establishment), we suggest you do your own "roving." If you're a single guy, you'll have to bring a female date—preferably not a first date, as that might end in a very early goodnight slap.