Duncanville files countersuit over swingers club

Duncanville files countersuit over swingers club
Duncanville calls Cherry Pit a nuisance, asks judge to close it
12:00 AM CST on Wednesday, January 9, 2008

By ELIZABETH LANGTON / The Dallas Morning News elangton@dallasnews.com

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The city of Duncanville wants a judge to declare the Cherry Pit swingers club a public nuisance and close it down.

Jim Trulock, who runs the club in his home, sued the city Dec. 12 over a new ordinance that bans sex clubs. Duncanville filed its answer Monday and countersued Mr. Trulock.

On weekends, the 59-year-old and his partner, 29-year-old Julie M. Norris, turn their home near Cedar Ridge Drive and Interstate 20 into the Cherry Pit, where guests can mingle, dance and have sex.

The City Council unanimously adopted the ordinance in November. City officials say they were acting in response to complaints about the Cherry Pit.

The ordinance classifies sex clubs as a public nuisance. City officials also contend that the Cherry Pit is an unlicensed sexually oriented business operating in a residential area. Mr. Trulock denies that the club is a business; he has said he accepted donations but didn't have a cover charge.

Mr. Trulock's "use of the premises as a sex club is detrimental to the health, safety and welfare of the citizens of the city of Duncanville," the city's filing says. Mr. Trulock "does not have any policy or measures in place to safeguard against the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, and thus the activities at the premises pose a risk to the public health."

Mr. Trulock's attorney, Ed Klein, said the city is trying to regulate private acts in a private home. The ordinance violates his client's privacy and due process rights, he said.

Mr. Klein also contends that the ordinance is so broad and vague that it could criminalize the sexual behavior of almost everyone in Duncanville.

The city's countersuit asks that the court order the Cherry Pit to close and fine Mr. Trulock $1,000 a day if he refuses. A judge has not set a hearing on the request.

City officials have cited Mr. Trulock four times for violating the new ordinance, as well as the city's sexually oriented business and zoning ordinances. Mr. Trulock is fighting the citations in municipal court.

County takes aim at swingers

County takes aim at swingers
New definitions of sex businesses means regulation could follow.
By DAVID DECAMP, Times Staff WriterPublished January 23, 2008

http://www.sptimes.com/2008/01/23/Pasco/County_takes_aim_at_s.shtml

NEW PORT RICHEY - One by one, people opined Tuesday about the proposed stricter definitions for sexually oriented businesses in Pasco, avoiding the impetus for the discussion like it was an elephant in the room.

Or in this case, like it was a Port Richey swingers club named Club Elite.
"I think we all know what the issues are," former Port Richey Mayor Mark Abbott told the County Commission. "Just make the wise decisions."

After a short public hearing with the commentary ranging from nudist resorts to community morality, the County Commission voted 5-0, with little debate, to approve the new definitions.
The blush-inducing language includes new definitions to better identify what constitutes a "sexually oriented business," a distinction that means the county can regulate where the establishment is located. The proposed definitions identify exposure of specific body parts and specific sexual activities.

But nobody on Tuesday mentioned Club Elite, which is above a bakery, a deli and a dentist in a U.S. 19 commercial strip. Its Web site openly promotes its activities for swingers, though its attorney has said Club Elite is not a sexually oriented business - legally speaking.

After it opened last year, neighbors complained and authorities investigated. But they said they couldn't shut down the club under Pasco's code unless something illegal was seen.
The code limits new adult businesses to industrial areas, but the county has to prove a business is sexually oriented before it can be restricted.

When the new definitions were unveiled in December, county officials acknowledged they were targeted at Club Elite. But this month, assistant county attorney Kristi Wooden and County Commissioner Jack Mariano, whose district includes the club, wouldn't say so. Wooden only said Tuesday the changes allowed the county to enforce its ordinance.

Nor would Commission Chairman Ted Schrader or other officials say they were keeping quiet to perhaps avoid legal stickiness over passing a law that singles out a specific business.

And while Schrader acknowledged the public knowledge of Club Elite, the explicit nature of the new definitions made a discussion inappropriate, he said afterward.

"Fortunately, we didn't have to go into detail," he said.

Wooden and Commissioner Pat Mulieri stressed that the new definitions of prohibited activities would not apply to nudist communities and resorts, which are allowed in county code.

Swingers make love, not war, at Vimy Ridge

TU THANH HAFrom Tuesday's Globe and Mail

January 22, 2008 at 2:23 AM EST

Exhibitionism. Cruising in the woods. Swinging couples.

The Canadian National Vimy Memorial in northern France has become a gathering place for some French citizens looking for kinky sex.

Monday, a French couple appeared at the courthouse in nearby Arras on charges of sexual exhibitionism at the First World War memorial.

Another woman, who describes herself as being 35, appears on an “amateurs” website, which features 10 photos of her in various states of undress, which she boasts were snapped at the Vimy monument.

On the first picture, the woman, in a miniskirt and showing her bra, is leaning against a stone rampart where the names of missing First World War Canadian soldiers are etched.

The rest of the explicit pictures accompany the woman's flashing episode, which she said concluded with her having sex with two men.

On another website, the monument's parking lot is described as a place for cruising and for swingers.

A spokesman for Veterans Affairs Minister Greg Thompson said the Canadian government hopes Monday's court appearance will send a message.

“At this point, our participation in the French legal system will be enough of a deterrent,” said Richard Roik. “Inappropriate behaviour will not be tolerated.

”The memorial's size and remote location might explain its popularity with sexual thrill-seekers.

About two hours drive north of Paris, the site sprawls across an isolated area, removed from any neighbouring villages and still crisscrossed by trenches and gullies.

On asexyblog.com, a French site that advertises “naughty places” and “swingers' meeting places,” Vimy is one of several listed locations.

Driving directions to Vimy are given in one posting from Jan. 8, guiding aficionados to the memorial's parking lot.

“There's cruising in the woods behind the parking lot. In the evening it's directly in the parking,” the site says. “Watch out in the evening, there are also swinging couples.”

According to the local paper La Voix du Nord, the man and woman who appeared in court Monday are in their 40s and had been charged in October.

The married couple was identified by a police unit specializing in cyber-surveillance, even though the woman's face had been electronically smudged.

The couple's court hearing unfolded behind closed doors. A ruling is expected on Monday.

La Voix du Nord noted the thoughtlessness of people indulging in sex acts on such hallowed grounds.

“In the minds of Canadians, the historical site of Vimy nearly marks the birth of their country. If we dare sully the memory of those soldiers who died during World War I, it's the whole country that we sully,” the paper said on its website Monday.

The four-day battle at Vimy in 1917 cost 3,598 Canadian lives and left thousands wounded, marking a coming of age for Canada's military.

Swingers sex club planned for Woolloongabba

by http://www.questnews.com.au/article/2008/01/16/23807_latest_news.html

WOOLLOONGABBA: A swingers' club is operating four nights a week out of a converted garage without planning approval.

Couples International, with four bedrooms and a bondage area, opened at 5 Holden St in August 2006.

In November last year club owners Bryan and Leesa Horn submitted an application for a ``BYO nightclub-style venue’’ after a visit from Brisbane City Council.

They had operated a similar club at 5 Hubert St, Woolloongabba.

If the council does approve the club, the Horns said it would be a first for Queensland. The couple claimed there were ``house parties’’ in Brisbane, including one at West End and one at Calamvale, that operated without approval.

Despite their failure to lodge a development application until November, the Horns said they would rather operate in a regulated environment.

`` We’re keen to make a real success of the business and to do that you need the i’s dotted and the t’s crossed,’’ Mr Horn said.

The Horns won’t face objections from their immediate neighbours, who said the club’s late-night hours helped reduce property damage at night and traffic congestion during the day.

The couple argued the club enhanced relationships for confident and self-assured couples by providing a spark.

``The idea that people have of the lifestyle is one that’s been promoted by 60s movies, dirty picture magazines and the cliche of keys in the bowl . . . in 15 years I’ve never seen any of those things,’’ Mr Horn said.

Councillor Catherine Bermingham (East Brisbane) declined to comment for legal reasons. The cuncil is still assessing the application.

What do you think? Should Couples International receive Council approval to operate a swingers’ club in Woolloongabba? Email your thoughts to letters@southeastadvertiser.com.au

Oh My God, I did it!

by Toni and Glen

http://SexySwingClubs.com

So you’ve made the move! You’ve decided you want to meet other couples and you have had your first experience. You look in the mirror and wonder what your partner sees.

You think to yourself… “have I changed? Am I still a good wife, mother, lover etc.? My partner watched me “do the nasty” to someone else last night! How does he see me? Am I a slut? Am I a bad person, does he still love me?”

As Glen and I have always said… it is usually the man who brings the woman in the lifestyle and it is the woman who keeps the couple in the lifestyle. You need to ask yourself a few questions. Did you enjoy meeting new people? Did you enjoy the socialization? Did you enjoy the sex? When you looked over at your partner while in the embrace of another did you feel like you were on the beginning of a wondrous journey together?

Take another look in the mirror. You are still the same person. You are still a good wife/partner/lover. You embarked on a trip to paradise together. That feeling of uncertainty is the beginning of the “Unlearning Process”. Do you remember when you were just a child? That funny tingling feeling began to emerge. Depending on your upbringing, you were coming of age, sick or possessed by Satan. It’s usually harder on young girls because there is always the fear of an unwanted teen pregnancy or the terror of being labeled the neighborhood slut! At any rate you are made to feel that it is something to be hidden. Because you are unsure of this new person budding through, it should be something dealt with using the utmost delicacy, however, it is not a situation most adults are comfortable in discussing and you probably did not get the answers to your many questions; either because you were too ashamed to ask them or your parents were to afraid to answer them.

And here you are a woman full grown. You may have had sexual experiences before you met your partner, you may have not. You have been brought up that “good girls” only have one partner. “Good girls are not sexually open. Those that are get negative labels pinned on them. Keep looking in the mirror.

If monogamy is supposed to be the “norm”, why do you find yourself forcing not to look at that handsome stranger in the grocery line? Why does your partners eyes waver when a lovely lady walks by? Why is there such a high rate of divorce in the US? If it’s so normal, why does society have to drill it in our heads that this is how we are to be? Because it’s not We are sexual creatures, it cannot be denied! To deny yourself pleasure because of an uptight anal society makes no sense. Those limp dicked, non vaginal bureaucrats only want you to be as miserable as they are. They want to control what is good and what is not. While I agree that there are certain laws that are put in place to protect, there are so many that make no sense at all! Authorities spend unnecessary time and money bothering swing clubs, when there are rapists, murderers and child molesters operating freely!

So what should you do if you feel happy and complete after your encounter? Share that feeling with your mate. Ask him/her how they felt about it. Discuss the erotic feeling it brought, it will probably land you both in bed reliving the experience or making your own experience.

On the other hand. If you feel bad, you should do the same thing. Discuss it with your partner. What exactly made you feel bad. Was it the experience itself (was your swinging partner not what you expected sexually?) Was it that you felt uncomfortable with your partner seeing you this way? Or are you still “unlearning” that “good girls do”? Let you partner know these feelings. Come totally clean “Honey, I felt uncomfortable when I saw you watching us”. Honesty truly is best, even if it makes the hearer uncomfortable. Talk about what you can do to make it better the next time. Some things get better as you do it more, some things make require adjustments. As long as you both are comfortable with any changes, it’s all good!

101 Signs That You're A Swinger

1. You are wearing wristbands in most of your vacation photos.
2. Half of the numbers on your cellphone are listed only by screen names.
3. You are running out of reasons to tell your coworkers why you can't go out with them this weekend.
4. You have over 100,000 frequent flyer miles on Air Jamaica.
5. You know most of your friends' names only as couples (Rich and Joy, Frank and Jen) but you don't know their last names.
6. You go to a convention with three huge suitcases, yet are wearing the same outfit when you return as you did when you left.
7. You had already seen pictures of your friends naked before you ever met them in person.
8. You position the computer screen in your home office in such a way that your children can't possibly sneak up on you.
9. You can't remember the last time you had pubic hair.
10. Before traveling somewhere on business or to visit relatives you look up couples in the area.
11. You worry about explaining to the neighbors why 10 couples show up on a Saturday night carrying over night bags and don't leave until Sunday afternoon...
12. You never open your garage door until you're in the car with the doors closed.
13. Your gynecologist wonders why you're asking for birth control when he knows that your husband has had a vasectomy.
14. Your hot tub has never had a bathing suit worn in it.
15. Your sex toy collection costs more than your china set.
16. Your wife has a shirt that says: "I Like Girls Too."
17. You have a strippers pole in the middle of your den.
18. You giggle at the golf course when someone asks if they can join your foursome.
19. The last thing you typically do at a party is search for your wife's thong.
20. You've hugged your friends goodnight while naked.
21. You hear the word "Playmate" and your first thought is not "Playboy"
22. The word "slut" has become a term of endearment.
23. You carry lube as often as lipstick.
24. Your choice in new carpeting is heavily based on which type won't give you rug burns.
25. You've taken your Liberator with you to a dinner party.
26. The term Vanilla isn't just a flavor to you anymore.
27. You have a full-length mirror in your bedroom... On your ceiling.
28. You are constantly encouraging your kids to spend the weekend at friends' houses.
29. You don't think twice about wearing a short skirt, high heels and fishnets when there is three feet of snow on the ground.
30. Your wedding reception has an after party.
31. You go to Las Vegas, but never gamble or leave the hotel.
32. You panic when your friend's digital camera goes missing.
33. You've invited friends over and watched porn.
34. You've invited friends over and made porn.
35. You've watched someone do a tequila shot off of your wife's bare ass.
36. Your friends know what brand of condom you prefer.
37. You wake up in the morning and find that half of the cloths on the floor don't fit you or your wife.
38. Your kids think it's normal for adults to have sleepovers.
39. A hot tub is considered a necessity not a luxury.
40. You believe in Unicorns... Because you've actually ridden one.
41. You leave the kids at home when you go to the toy store.
42. You've taken photos of yourself with your head out of frame; And it was on purpose.
43. You can't decide which of your three naughty schoolgirl outfits you should wear this weekend.
44. You always keep a supply of condoms, lube and clean hand towels by your bed... And your guest bed... And your couch in the living room.
45. The employees fight to take your order at the One Hour Photo.
46. You frequently use the term "Friends of friends" when explaining how you know certain people.
47. You know which of your outfits looks best under a black light.
48. You have an entire closet devoted just to themed outfits.
49. You place a want ad that reads: "Wanted: Reliable babysitter who is willing to stay till sunrise and doesn't ask any questions."
50. You ask the sales man at the furniture store which type of upholstery best repels semen stains.
51. The staff of Hedonism resorts sends you birthday cards.
52. You come home with that, "There's Something About Sally" hairstyle.
53. The babysitter wonders why you are always already wearing your full-length coat when she arrives.
54. In the gym shower you're the only guy with shaved balls.
55. You know the most flattering angle at which to photograph your genitals.
56. Half of your vacation photos were taken in your hotel room and the other half you can't show to your family.
57. You have a free place to stay in almost all the fifty states and several cities in Europe.
58. You've closed your e-mails with "Bi Bi".
59. You can expertly identify the tactile differences between every type of breast implant ever created.
60. On Christmas, there are certain presents that can't be opened in front of your family.
61. You know exactly which of your friends are allergic to latex.
62. Your vanilla friends ask why they are never invited to your parties.
63. The movie "Swingers" was a huge disappointment to you.
64. It's an unwritten law that you can't call any of your friends on Saturday or Sunday until at least 3 p.m. so you don't wake them up.
65. You've become especially good at operating your digital camera with one hand.
66. At your "normal" parties no one can go into the basement because you're afraid someone will notice the sex-swing.
67. Your grandson discovers the "swing" and he wants to know why it isn't outside.
68. You're constantly afraid that visiting relatives will pop-in one of your home videos that you forgot to hide.
69. You make bets with other swinger friends about how long it will take to corrupt your cute vanilla girlfriend.
70. You're in a public place and you swear you hear someone shout your screen name.
71. Before introducing them to your visiting family, you pull your friends aside and say, "OK, here's how we know each other..."
72. You start having withdrawals after two days without internet access.
73. When someone asks where you're staying on your trip to Cancun, you pretend that you can't remember the name of the resort.
74. You ask a girlfriend to teach you: "That thing you do with your tongue that my husband enjoys so much."
75. In the middle of sex with your spouse, you ask someone else to take over for a minute while you go to the restroom.
76. You are more concerned about a pimple on your privates than on your face.
77. You come back from vacation and you have a tan, but no tan lines.
78. The first thing you do checking into a hotel is to ask for a lot of extra towels.
79. All the men bring their wives to your bachelor party.
80. Making it an early night means getting home before 3 a.m.
81. You've handed out business cards to people, but the cards have nothing to do with your occupation.
82. Your sexual fantasies never last very long... Because they keep coming true!
83. You are hanging around vanilla friends and you absentmindedly squeeze their butts.
84. You erase your computer's browser history and cache every time you leave your office.
85. You buy lap dances for your wife... And vice versa.
86. You own a double-headed dildo.
87. You're still smiling on Monday morning about something you did on Saturday night.
88. You're at the market, and the only things in your basket are condoms, breath mints and Red Bull.
89. On vacation you set aside time to stage a bunch of photos that are acceptable to show to your family.
90. After 25 years, people still ask if you're newlyweds.
91. You've had sex with more people since you've been married than you did when you were single.
92. Going to vanilla bars ranks right up there with a root canal.
93. The only time you go out with your vanilla friends is when you're on your period.
94. Your husband has lipstick on his collar and he smells like another woman's perfume and it brings a smile to your face.
95. On Monday morning you are glad to go back to work so you can get some rest.
96. You spend the whole week before your parents arrive calling all you friends telling them not to call your answering machine while your parents are in town.
97. You get really tired of not making it to McDonalds before they quit serving breakfast Sunday morning (on your way home).
98. You have an entire external hard-drive devoted to nothing but your party photos.
99. You spouse is having an orgasm, while you are busy in the other room discussing the stock market.
100. You spent twice as long on your online profile than you did on your resume.
101. If you are reading this and laughing because many of these describe you...That's a pretty good sign that you are a swinger!

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Respect in Swinging

By Toni and Glen, http://FriendshipExpress.com

Respect!!! Not very difficult to do for most of us. Be nice to your family; say please and thank you; don’t piss in your neighbors rose bushes, etc. Pretty basic huh? Well it also lends credence to the Swinger Community.

I know you, like myself have come upon people who, for some reason don’t seem to understand the meaning of respect (see Webster’s Dictionary if you don’t know the meaning). It is not something that is only a problem with single men. It, unfortunately is sometimes a problem with single ladies, couples, and even some club owners!

It’s unfortunate that some people have the idea that just because you are a swinger that you are automatically public (or is that pubic) property. It’s horrible to hear from club leaders that have the “stereotypical single male mentality”. I say “stereotypical” because not all single men are bad. I am referring to the club owners who in their writing are crystal clear in their lack of respect for women; to the couples who force themselves on new people to satisfy their “craving for fresh meat”, because they know that these new attendees are not fully comfortable as yet, saying no, and also to club owners who have no respect for other people and their property and think they are above others just because they are club owners!

We must understand that not everyone is at the same level in the Swinger Community as we may be. When first meeting someone, they may not welcome a wide open, sloppy kiss or your hands all over their bodies. This goes for men as well as ladies. This may even go for someone you may have known for awhile. Learn to read and react to signals. If a woman rears back as you come into her face with your mouth wide open and your tongue wagging in circles, it’s a good idea to close your mouth and give her a nice kiss on the cheek or lips. Just because you want your tongue down their throat doesn’t mean they want it there!!! RESPECT!!!

Being a Club Owner, we find occasion to meet lots of people. Some of these people have had experiences where they had to have sex with the club owners to attend their functions. This is NOT right. Everyone deserves respect! If a club owner forces him or herself on you, with the attitude that you have to “do” them, you’re in the wrong club, get out FAST!!!!

I recently ran across the most disgusting piece of so-called literature I have seen since this person last wrote an article. Women were referred to as “pussy”, “hoe”, etc. The sad fact is that is came from a club owner! Now those in their club may understand this useless bantering, but to those who are not in this “Pussy and Hoe Klan”, this is very disturbing. We all sometimes play sexual games with name calling, but just imagine a new person coming in to this arena and hearing something like this. They do not understand; they are new and nervous and need to be treated with… here’s the word again… RESPECT!

We all have our own jokes that we share with close friends that may not be “politically correct”, but if you are in the public eye, you need to remember that what you say can be taken literally by someone new.

Ladies and gentlemen, never forget what it was like to be new—the butterflies in your stomach, not knowing if someone is interested or not— getting signals crossed because you just don’t understand how the game is played. If you see a couple clutching to each other or a single with that bewildered look in their eyes, don’t see it as an opportunity to take advantage of them. Talk to them as people, let them know it is OK to be nervous and do what you can to help. Yes, you are a swinger and it is OK to make an invitation, but don’t make them feel as if it is mandatory. , whether it is straight, bisexual, B/D, R/P etc., we can treat each other with RESPECT and still enjoy the wondrous beauty that this Community provides.