Respect in Swinging

By Toni and Glen, http://FriendshipExpress.com

Respect!!! Not very difficult to do for most of us. Be nice to your family; say please and thank you; don’t piss in your neighbors rose bushes, etc. Pretty basic huh? Well it also lends credence to the Swinger Community.

I know you, like myself have come upon people who, for some reason don’t seem to understand the meaning of respect (see Webster’s Dictionary if you don’t know the meaning). It is not something that is only a problem with single men. It, unfortunately is sometimes a problem with single ladies, couples, and even some club owners!

It’s unfortunate that some people have the idea that just because you are a swinger that you are automatically public (or is that pubic) property. It’s horrible to hear from club leaders that have the “stereotypical single male mentality”. I say “stereotypical” because not all single men are bad. I am referring to the club owners who in their writing are crystal clear in their lack of respect for women; to the couples who force themselves on new people to satisfy their “craving for fresh meat”, because they know that these new attendees are not fully comfortable as yet, saying no, and also to club owners who have no respect for other people and their property and think they are above others just because they are club owners!

We must understand that not everyone is at the same level in the Swinger Community as we may be. When first meeting someone, they may not welcome a wide open, sloppy kiss or your hands all over their bodies. This goes for men as well as ladies. This may even go for someone you may have known for awhile. Learn to read and react to signals. If a woman rears back as you come into her face with your mouth wide open and your tongue wagging in circles, it’s a good idea to close your mouth and give her a nice kiss on the cheek or lips. Just because you want your tongue down their throat doesn’t mean they want it there!!! RESPECT!!!

Being a Club Owner, we find occasion to meet lots of people. Some of these people have had experiences where they had to have sex with the club owners to attend their functions. This is NOT right. Everyone deserves respect! If a club owner forces him or herself on you, with the attitude that you have to “do” them, you’re in the wrong club, get out FAST!!!!

I recently ran across the most disgusting piece of so-called literature I have seen since this person last wrote an article. Women were referred to as “pussy”, “hoe”, etc. The sad fact is that is came from a club owner! Now those in their club may understand this useless bantering, but to those who are not in this “Pussy and Hoe Klan”, this is very disturbing. We all sometimes play sexual games with name calling, but just imagine a new person coming in to this arena and hearing something like this. They do not understand; they are new and nervous and need to be treated with… here’s the word again… RESPECT!

We all have our own jokes that we share with close friends that may not be “politically correct”, but if you are in the public eye, you need to remember that what you say can be taken literally by someone new.

Ladies and gentlemen, never forget what it was like to be new—the butterflies in your stomach, not knowing if someone is interested or not— getting signals crossed because you just don’t understand how the game is played. If you see a couple clutching to each other or a single with that bewildered look in their eyes, don’t see it as an opportunity to take advantage of them. Talk to them as people, let them know it is OK to be nervous and do what you can to help. Yes, you are a swinger and it is OK to make an invitation, but don’t make them feel as if it is mandatory. , whether it is straight, bisexual, B/D, R/P etc., we can treat each other with RESPECT and still enjoy the wondrous beauty that this Community provides.