Being in the swinging lifestyle for a couple decades now, we can tell you that there are no actual formal rules for any given swinger's party. Each host will give you a guideline for their event, but generally if you practice good manners and follow the golden rule, you'll have a wonderful time. Basically the guidelines below are for swingers house parties where sex take place, but it can be applied to social events such as local swingers dances, camp outs and retreats.
A swingers party is a happening where adult couples and select singles meet for an evening of sex in a safe and friendly environment. This can take place at a private residence or at an actual on premise swingers club where a relaxed atmosphere is created with candles, music, finger food and drinks. Be sure to bring condoms with you; some people use them and some people don't. But it's up to YOU to assess the risk of sexual contact and to practice safe sex within your standards.
You have to be over 18 if you want to attend a swinger party, but some hosts will require you to be 21 or older, especially if alcohol is being served. Apart from the age factor, a swingers party is really open to anybody. Swingers come from all different socio-economic backgrounds and take on different facets. Swingers are from all racial persuasions and a mix of ethnicities at an event can lead to a sexually charged party.
The important thing to remember when you are going to a swingers event is that you are a guest and should behave so. You will be ignored by other attendees for misbehaving at swingers parties and may be asked to leave.
It’s always important to greet your host and hostess when you arrive at a swingers party and to thank them afterwards. There will be an area where the host or hostess will greet the guests and encourage them to relax and mingle with the other guests. They will also introduce you to other attendees, especially if this is your first event. By introducing you to new people, you'll stand a better chance of hooking up and have a great night.
Be polite to the other guests of the party or event. If they invite you for a threesome or a gang-bang that you don’t want to partake in then just gently say no thanks. Don’t insult them and never try to force yourself on other adults who don’t want you. Remember that no always means no. If you are in a situation where you are telling another guest no and they refuse to listen, inform the host. It is part of their responsibility to keep all the guests in order and make sure that everyone is having fun.
Every party takes on a life of it's own; with some, there is a lot of small talk; with some, sex starts almost instanteonously. It all depends on the attendees, the mood, and the make up of that swingers group. Sex starts quickly at a party where local swingers are comfortable with each other.
Most adults attend swapping parties to be free sexually and many to build long lasting friendships. Be sure to get names, emal addresses or phone number to keep in touch. The host of the party will not give you that information, so it's up to you to get it. Many people will keep in touch with you after a party and invite you back to their home for a drink, dinner or anything in between. Most swingers value this type of friendship, but there are those you'll never see again. They are just there for the sex only and not interested in being friends with benefits.
Word of mouth is also huge in the swingers community so if you enjoy the party, be sure to let your lifestyle friends know about it.
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