Meet Swingers Today

How long have you been in the swinging lifestyle? How often do you swing? Did you come across fun loving swingers? The experience is complete unless and until you come across couples you take you to the extreme level of satisfaction. A couple who understands your needs and fulfills them completely. You need to meet several couples until you get the couple who can satisfy your sexual libido.

If you are a busy person with no spare time to socialize, then you can increase your network through online communities like FriendshipExpress.org. All you need is a personal computer or a laptop that has the internet accessibility. Now, create an account on a reliable swinger community. Make sure that the owner of the website is a lifestyle member. You can socialize with people through this medium and catch up for the swinger activities.

Party hoppers can join a swinger club to meet lifestyle members. It is a common getaway for swinger couples. You can meet people with similar swinger choices. It is a safe setting for swinger activities as swinger clubs give membership after verifying the identity of the concerned swinger. Hence, it is safer than online communities that have several fake profiles at disposal.

However, your behavior plays a crucial role in your swinging endeavor. You need to act politely and respect the demands of your swinger mate. Your lifestyle practices should be safe and convenient. Speak to your swinger partner and make sure he/she is comfortable with you. Remember, swinging is a pleasure only if the people who are involved, swing without any emotional or sexual issues.

Moreover, you shouldn’t limit yourself to a particular activity. Try to experiment with activities and learn new methods of sexual pleasure. Meet maximum swingers and swing with them. The more you swing, the more are chances of achieving satisfaction and meeting the perfect swinger mate. So, take full advantage of the opportunities and grow your swinging network beyond cast, creed, religion and geographical region.

Etiquette for swingers

Being in the swinging lifestyle for a couple decades now, we can tell you that there are no actual formal rules for any given swinger's party. Each host will give you a guideline for their event, but generally if you practice good manners and follow the golden rule, you'll have a wonderful time. Basically the guidelines below are for swingers house parties where sex take place, but it can be applied to social events such as local swingers dances, camp outs and retreats.

A swingers party is a happening where adult couples and select singles meet for an evening of sex in a safe and friendly environment. This can take place at a private residence or at an actual on premise swingers club where a relaxed atmosphere is created with candles, music, finger food and drinks. Be sure to bring condoms with you; some people use them and some people don't. But it's up to YOU to assess the risk of sexual contact and to practice safe sex within your standards.

You have to be over 18 if you want to attend a swinger party, but some hosts will require you to be 21 or older, especially if alcohol is being served. Apart from the age factor, a swingers party is really open to anybody. Swingers come from all different socio-economic backgrounds and take on different facets. Swingers are from all racial persuasions and a mix of ethnicities at an event can lead to a sexually charged party.

The important thing to remember when you are going to a swingers event is that you are a guest and should behave so. You will be ignored by other attendees for misbehaving at swingers parties and may be asked to leave.

It’s always important to greet your host and hostess when you arrive at a swingers party and to thank them afterwards. There will be an area where the host or hostess will greet the guests and encourage them to relax and mingle with the other guests. They will also introduce you to other attendees, especially if this is your first event. By introducing you to new people, you'll stand a better chance of hooking up and have a great night.

Be polite to the other guests of the party or event. If they invite you for a threesome or a gang-bang that you don’t want to partake in then just gently say no thanks. Don’t insult them and never try to force yourself on other adults who don’t want you. Remember that no always means no. If you are in a situation where you are telling another guest no and they refuse to listen, inform the host. It is part of their responsibility to keep all the guests in order and make sure that everyone is having fun.

Every party takes on a life of it's own; with some, there is a lot of small talk; with some, sex starts almost instanteonously. It all depends on the attendees, the mood, and the make up of that swingers group. Sex starts quickly at a party where local swingers are comfortable with each other.

Most adults attend swapping parties to be free sexually and many to build long lasting friendships. Be sure to get names, emal addresses or phone number to keep in touch. The host of the party will not give you that information, so it's up to you to get it. Many people will keep in touch with you after a party and invite you back to their home for a drink, dinner or anything in between. Most swingers value this type of friendship, but there are those you'll never see again. They are just there for the sex only and not interested in being friends with benefits.

Word of mouth is also huge in the swingers community so if you enjoy the party, be sure to let your lifestyle friends know about it.

Safe Swinging to You!!!

Minnesota swinger's Halloween Event

Swinger's Super Spooky, Super Sexy Halloween
Bash in Bloomington, Minnesota

It’s time for the mother of all swinger's Halloween Dances in Minnesota !!! Get your favorite costume and prepare to boogie all night! This is the time of All Hallows Eve, the time to be ghoulishly sexy, spectacularly spooky & everything in between!!! A SPECIAL VENUE Holiday Inn Select is a fresh venue where you don't have to worry about driving back home. We will have our own private room, a wonderful appetizer spread, complete with DJ and our own private bartender! BUT WAIT THERE IS MORE This HOT party comes complete with FREE entrance to our private After Hours hospitality suite where the party will continue until the wee hours of the morning. You can be a part of this groundbreaking phenomenon for only $30 per member couple, $20 per member single female and $30 per member single male. All swinger's lifestyle clubs and online communities are welcome to attend. Non-members can attend also, please see the reservation form for the rates. YOU DON’T WANT TO MISS THIS!!! Want to get a sneak peak at this beautiful party place? Please click here. ACCOMMODATIONS Rooms are available for only $80 for a standard room or $99 for a suite for the night. Enjoy a spectacular room complete with FREE in room Wi-Fi, microwave, refrigerator and a 37" LCD TV, and breakfast for two. Details on how to get this room at this spectacular rate will be given once your reservation has been made. So there is no need to drive. Get a room, and come join in the fun. For more details, to meet local Minnesota Swingers and Wisconsin Swingers and to register online, go to SexyHalloween.com or call 320-245-6803 to register over the phone.

Tantra Workshop at Flesh, August 21 - 23, 2009

In the spirit of the Two Creeks Flesh Shorts and Bikini Party, August 21-23, 2009, we have a unique opportunity for sensual fun. We have a tantra instructor that will offer a session where you can learn about and experience Tantra and Contact Improvisation. This will be held on Saturday, August 22nd, about 1:00pm

TANTRA: Learn the basics of Tantra,the ancient art of physical and spiritual ecstasy. Learn how to increase yours and your partner's pleasure during sex and how to unleash your sexual power in your daily life. Workshop will include fun partner and solo exercises and will conclude with a "puja", that is, a circle within a circle of men and women who perform short intimate rituals together before changing partners. The exercises are designed to aid in: increasing physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual intimacy with yourself and others, ejaculation control for men, female ejaculation, multiple orgasms, how to connect more deeply with your with your partner(s), with your own body, and with the divine inherent in us and all others in the universe around us.

CONTACT IMPROVISATION (clothing optional): Rolling, sliding and gliding against your partner, flowing with the points of contact between your bodies, Contact Improvisation is a way of dancing using your partner's weight as a moving counter balance and support for your body. Contact Improvisation means paying close attention to your partner's movements and responding in each moment without a plan but with the joy of just letting go of your mind and letting your body take over. Usually done in a fully clothed environment, Contact Improvisation becomes even more sensuous and playful when done with little or no clothing.

So get register today for Flesh Shorts and Bikini Party and come experience Tantric sensuality and love, by going to AttractionUSA.com or register over the phone by calling 320-245-6803.

Swinger's House Party

Free Swinger's House Party, Saturday, March 14, 2009

we host many parties
let meet for fun
we are outgoing and enjoy others
OK we are hosting a house party on March 14th
Fondue and box game night .. Nut and Bolt game if we get enough will Partisapents
Its a No pressure No means No party
We have a hot tub and room for 3 couples to spend the night
We will have fondue pots and towels and ice and bedding
YOU BRING YOUR OWN MEAT , dish or snack
Please bring you own toys, booze and personal items
please bring an ice breaker game if YOU have one
there are couple areas to play at our place
please RSVP because we are not posting this party and are only inviting a few couples

hope to have 5 to 10 couples join us with a couple to spend the night
there our hotels near if you want to stay there

we are hoping the night turns from mild to wild
party starts at 6pm March 14th and goes tell we cant go any more

if you want to stay at our home please let us know

if you would like to come early on saturday you welcome we
will be doing last minute things to get ready for the party are welcome just let us know .

For details, visit FriendshipExpress.com.

About Swingers and Swing Lifestyles

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Single Men Are Not Swingers

Soap Box - Single Men Are Not Swingers
Toni and Glen

Hi Guys, I just stumbled across your site by accident but what a surprise. We are "Internet Veterans" and have been around these boards since 1996. I've never seen one as comprehensive covering so many areas of the lifestyle. I'm sure you have been commended many times, please add one more to the list!.

I read each article from top to bottom and went away knowing a little more than I did before I got here, that's not the norm with most of these sites. I do have one comment I wanted to make only because you seem to have a sincere and committed interest in the lifestyle and I think you can appreciate all views, weather you agree or not.

I agreed with 95% of everything you say, and that's a pretty good percentage considering the volume of information. I had a problem with the "single male" aspect, may it's a regional thing but here in Florida the large majority of couples do NOT entertain single men. We have had two local "lifestyle clubs" (You are right "Fuck Clubs" is not a word we need to be using) close their doors on Friday nights, Why? On Friday's single men were admitted, on Saturdays they were forbidden. They closed due to lack of business, and the only reason there was no business was directly attributed to single men. (This fact is openly discussed on Saturday's when the places are a mob scene.)

My personal feelings are this; I don't recognize single men as "swingers" (Like they care what I recognize LOL) In many of your articles you discussed the many facets of the lifestyle that go far beyond the sexual aspect, and much of it was all based around a "couple relationship" the sharing and communication between TWO individuals. I could not agree more. In my "humble" opinion a single man in the lifestyle is not a swinger, he just a single man that is horny, and although I'm not a physiologist, nor do I play one on TV, I think these are men who can't deal with women on a full time, adult level. So they spend their lives in pursuit of a quick two hour affair. I can't recall how many ads/profiles I've read where a single male is looking for a female partner we can swing with, and whine how hard they are to find? I would think they would want to find a partner period, and if somewhere down the road the relationship gravitated to swinging fine. With these men sex is their primary focus, not a relationship. I know there are exceptions to every rule, but my from what I've seen personally what I've described is the rule, not the exception.
You brought out some great points about the lifestyle, it's acceptance, and how others might view it based on terminology, as well as other aspects. The only time being in the lifestyle ever makes me feel uncomfortable is when I'm leered at, or approached by a single man and made to feel like a cheap whore. (Not to count the hundreds of offensive e-mail I've received, figuring many of these creeps are just fools out to bother people) I truly feel that single men are the thorn on the lifestyle rose. Hey that's it, I'll put the soapbox back under the bed and again say thanks for the many informative articles.

Rhonda Tampa, Florida

From Toni and Glen
Hello Rhonda,

I agree with you that many couples do not relate to single men as swingers, per se. However many couples do include single men in their activities, and thus help to enhance their relationship.

I do agree with you that many single men are just in it for sex. There is no denying it. But there is room for many single men in this lifestyle for those couples who seek them out. You could consider them more like another "tool" for enjoyment. No different than that of a vibrator, massage oil, and the like. Some couples do use other "equipment" to enhance their relationship, and singles (that includes single females) can be a viable part.
It's not for you, and that's OK.

No one single activity defines our lifestyle. It runs the whole gammut... some people like chocolate, while others like bananas. It's all a matter of taste. To dictate a "specific" definition as to what defines a swinger, and who we should "play" with would limit our freedom, and in the far reaches of time, invite "Talibanism".

Just our two cents...

Toni and Glen

Hi There!!!

As such, I know I'm an anomaly: a male who, while not single, swings singly, with full disclosure to (and permission of) his partner. I have had much fun within the Metro Milwaukee swinging community, because I have always acted within the guidelines you so eloquently express in your "Advice to Single Males".

I must say I disagree with Rhonda. Yes, many single men are NOT swingers. But, a few, like myself, am. I focus on friendships FIRST. Am I a horny devil? YES! But I need friends, too, and far better to make friends with folks who understand what libido is. :) If nothing sexual happens, you've still made a friend, and that's far more valuable than anything else.
Best of luck, love and lust to you both!

AldousPolyamorous Hedonist,Madison, WI

Join in on the discussion, send your thoughts to toni.and.glen@tfexp.com

A Swingers Community In Splinters

The Lifestyle
A Community In Splinters?
By Shelly and Dan of Alternative Travel

Since returning a few weeks ago from Conclave, a swinger's convention in Chicago, we have had time to evaluate the information we shared at the club owner’s meetings and keynote address. We would like to share what we felt was the general consensus among attendees.

The club owner’s meeting addressed some issues that have come up regarding the right’s of loving couples to assemble in Pennsylvania. A bill currently before the Pennsylvania state legislature is causing shudders throughout the lifestyle It call for the closure of all couples clubs whose purpose is to promote or meet for sex. This is putting it simply without the legal wording contained within the bill. Those who have the most to fear are the on-premise clubs. The opinion was that it may well be passed and then fought over the courts. Once a bill is passed it will end up in an ongoing battle for years. The court may also render a decision that other states may follow, using the Pennsylvania bill as a landmark for other cases.

On the other side of the room, a call was put forth that we need to clean up our act and take the emphasis of the lifestyle off sex. We must eliminate focusing our information on sexual activity alone. Instead, we need to promote our social activities. We all know why we go to clubs and what our expectations are. Do we really need to broadcast our intent to the community at large? I think not.

Toni and Glen of Club H, the keynote speakers, said what we have felt for years. They said that this lifestyle needs to clean up its act and present a positive image. The lifestyle has a responsibility to avoid negative press and to focus attention away from our sexual activities, much like the gay and lesbian community did many years ago. They received a standing ovation from 300 couples and mutual agree among most of the participants.

The lifestyle community needs to realize that we are under assault from political and religious groups. We make ourselves very easy targets. Most of us are unwilling to fight for the right to assemble, and our foes know it! If you think this is idle speculation, you’re wrong! It is real and our clubs are definite targets. First on their his list are the on-premise swing clubs, which are considered to be the bath houses of our lifestyle. There are enough community standards being violated and it’s easy to use local laws to close and prosecute. Any anyone on the club premises who’s even partially disrobed goes along for a ride in the paddy wagon. Sure, we can fight it after the fact and probably win! That is if you have enough money and lawyers. And, after you’re booked, identified, fingerprinted and written up in your local paper, complete with mug shots. Scary? You bet it is!

Off premise (dance/social) clubs need to protect themselves as well. Keep your patrons dressed! There plenty of time to party after the ball. Don’t provide them ammunition by loading the pistol yourself. Use common sense, and of course your “big” head to think with not your “little” one! Some clubs will tell you anything they think you want to hear. Take it with a grain of salt because it’s your ass that’s on the line.

Most club owners at the Conclave meeting were very much in favor of presenting a positive image while some seemed like they could care less. They wanted nothing to disrupt their operations. The sad part for those who do not take it seriously is that they are putting others in jeopardy. They may, in due time, not have an operation, nor the dollars to defend themselves in a court of law. For some of you this might seem scare or extreme, and in a way it is. Remember... if you are not in violation of any laws, community standing, not attracting unwanted negative attention, you have less to be concerned about.

Look around at the changes going on. There are a lot of positive things taking place that will benefit all of us in the long run. Many clubs are changing attitudes and their focus. Clubs are organizing together to fight the oppression that’s being threatened. We take these groups very serious and are preparing to fight them with our own resources. We don’t have big war chests that they have, but we’ve mounted campaigns though donations to selective civil liberties groups. If we continue to operate as a splintered and divided community, we make ourselves easy targets and sitting ducks. There’s no need to be divided. That is what the other side wants us to do. Let’s not do it to ourselves.

Winter Meltdown Swinger's Dance, Saturday, January 17, 2009

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Swinger's New Year's Eve Gala Affair

If you are a swingers living in Minnesota, Wisconsin, Iowa or even Lower Ontario, come check out the hottest New Year’s Eve Party around, Wednesday, December 31, 2008, 7pm to 1am. We expect sensual revelers from all over to be in attendance. For more details about grand event, visit http://GalaAffair.com .

Swingers visit Hedonism II in Jamaica, March 2009

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Cherry Pit Trial in Texas

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Jurors have found a Duncanville man accused of operating an unlicensed sexually oriented business from his home guilty on all 10 counts.

It's been fascinating following this story on this so called swingers club in Texas.

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Swingers in Egypt?

Swinger's New Year's Eve Party in Minnesota

Egyptian police have arrested a senior civil servant and his wife accusing them of swapping sex partners with other couples, local media reports say.

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Two First Timers (And Lifestyle Virgins!) Visit To Two Creeks

As we took the Sandstone exit for our first visit to Two Creeks, we were both excited and nervous. The 18 miles out into the country seemed to last forever; the fireflies dancing before our headlights competing with the butterflies in our stomachs.

Brand new to The Lifestyle, we were attracted to Two Creeks by the fun, lively events advertised. This weekend was to be no different - described as “Trailer Trash” and our ‘new’ vintage camper seemed to fit the bill.

On arriving, we met Toni and Glen and were warmly directed to our campsite. Glen patiently helped us back into our home for the weekend, though the Friday night dance was already underway and undoubtably required his time.

With a fire circle, ice, wood, electricity and water close by, we were soon settled in. Did we have the courage to leave the safety of our camper and venture out to the Bare’s Den? What should I wear? What should we do? Were we too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too poor, too...? Catchy dance music lured us - I grabbed a bunch of glow bracelets and laser lights for ice breakers - and we made our way to the soft lights of the pavilion.

Within minutes some of the friendliest people we had every met came up to warmly, but not pushily, greet us. Everyone had a laugh with the glow jewelry, and my partner and I danced together more than we had in ages.

The next day, we toured the grounds, met more great people, and decorated our campsite for the “Trashiest Lot” contest. We potlucked our kabobs with other campers, finding that food not only tastes better outdoors, but when shared with new friends.

Always enjoying a chance to be silly and wear a costume, we had a blast at the next night’s dance and karaoke. The getups were hilarious, and even more was the witty, tongue-in-cheek attitude of all involved. (Or maybe tongue in... Oh, never mind!)

Prizes were awarded, with some taking home the coveted Marker-On-Wood-Plank awards. After the party ended, we invited folks to our campsite for an acoustic singalong, the familiar tunes rising up towards a sky peppered with stars. What a perfect end to a weekend!

But we were in for one more surprise - people did not pack up and leave on Sunday morning, but stayed on, drinking coffee or libations, setting up a chaise lounge “Nude Roadblock”, and regaling each other with funny stories from the night before.

As at other events during the weekend, lots of the women were taking full advantage of the soft summer sun with their tops off. While both my partner and I had much enjoyed this beautiful sight, did I have the courage to do it too? Before I could talk myself out of it, I pulled off my tank top, laying it close by in case of some imaginary emergency.

Before we left, we had arranged to leave our camper at Two Creeks for the entire summer, and many of our new friends were kind enough to “Welcome Us Home”. On later visits, we have been privileged to meet other first timers, and try to extend to them same “Two Creeks Welcome” that we enjoyed.

Now, the 18 miles from Sandstone still seem long, but only from anticipation of the wonderful times ahead, right down the road. And - I’m not sure if I ever did find that tank top again!

by TrailerTrash nickname on FriendshipExpress.com

Suspected swing club in Florida under scrutiny

The Hunt Club, a reported swinger’s club in Melbourne, FL is under scrutiny by the local authority. According to reports by a local news media, the Hunt Club operates out of Melbourne’s Oak Grove Acres subdivision. Many of the neighbors have voiced opposition to such activities.

Obama’s Success Linked to Swinger’s Club

Obama’s Success Linked to Swinger’s Club

by BOB HANNAFORD of TESSNBOB

Author's Note: We would never publicly identify anyone that has ever attended any of our events, but the information in the following article was already made very public.

It's funny how things affect other things. Sometimes a simple occurrence can influence a bigger occurrence. Then that influences an even bigger occurrence... and so on and so forth until the effect is huge. This is what happened when one particular couple decided to check out our swinger club. Who would have known at the time the set of events that this visit would start in motion... events which may very well ultimately be felt around the world.

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Orlando Swinger Party Upsets Soccer Parents

Some teenage soccer players and their parents saw more sights than they wanted when they stayed at a hotel where about 200 swingers were having a New Year's party.

Paul Camporini brought his wife, seventh-grade daughter and eighth-grade son from Safety Harbor and said he had to "delicately explain to my Catholic school children that swingers change partners during the evening."

"My biggest gripe is that the hotel had two distinctly different groups under the same roof," said Camporini, 49. "A soccer team and middle-aged swingers should not have been booked together."

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Sex Swingers As Seen By Naomi Harris

Sex Swingers As Seen By Naomi Harris

Most Europeans see the United States under the ultra-conservative administration of George W. Bush as a prudish country, where millions of citizens are outraged by a fleeting glimpse of singer Janet Jackson’s nipple during a live TV broadcast, where there is an ongoing struggle to ban the teaching of Darwin’s theory of evolution in schools, where exhibitions featuring provocative works are censored, and where a growing number of young people voluntarily maintain sexual abstinence before marriage. However, there exists a different United States – a country of a flourishing pornographic industry, a United States of sex clubs behind whose doors the wildest erotic dreams are made reality, a United States of millions of swingers, people who swap sexual partners and voluntarily have sex in front of an audience at a variety of parties and camps.

It is this part of America that the thirty-four year old Canadian photographer Naomi Harris depicts in her cycle Swingers, which is to be brought out in book form in 2008 by the renowned Cologne publishers Taschen, with a foreword by the famous US artist Richard Prince. In 1997 Naomi Harris, a graduate of art and psychology at York University in Toronto, enrolled in a nine-month course of photojournalism and photographic documentary at the International Center for Photography in New York, and since that time she has lived in America’s largest city, where she makes a living largely from photographic work for a variety of periodicals – her pictures have been published for instance in the New York Times Magazine, Newsweek, People, Sports Illustrated, Out, and Vanity Fair; in 2001 she was short-listed for the Eugene Smith Award. Alongside work on commission she also pursues her own work, mostly portraits and documentary projects. Among the best of those is her cycle Haddon Hall, capturing the inhabitants of a hotel of that name in Miami Beach, who are spending their retirement years under the Florida sun. Her sharply colored images are unflinching in showing the wrinkled skin, thick layers of make-up and affected smiles, and yet the cycle does not come across as sarcastic or mocking, since the artist’s sympathy for these people who do not give in to infirmity and old age, instead wanting to enjoy life to the full, is palpable.During her sojourns in Miami Beach, which she revisited over the course of two and a half years, Harris began taking photographs at the local nudist beech, becoming alive to the fact that even the most banal activities when conducted by people stripped of their clothes often look comical. This she later confirmed in her most extensive cycle so far, Swingers. The exchange of sexual partners and group sex at various swingers parties, swingers conventions, or Miss Swingers USA or Canada, are more widespread than most local citizens suspect – according to the North American Swing Association there are around three million swingers in America. Many of those live neither in Manhattan nor in Hollywood, but in somnolent suburbs, among regular, middle class folk. As Naomi Harris describes them thus – they are your schoolteachers, your doctors, your bank clerks, your cops. They are not perverts or porn stars. You pass them every day in the supermarket, on the highway, in an airport, in the post office line. These very same inconspicuous and ordinary people every now and then leave their kids at home and set out on wild parties and weekend revelries, where they realize their sexual longings with a number of different partners.Looking at these people, often neither young nor attractive, as captured by Naomi Harris in situations evoking scenes from porn films, we may ask how is it possible that the photographer ever gained their consent to be photographed and even have the images published. Though most swingers are possessed with a powerful degree of exhibitionism, many – and in the vast majority the younger ones – in fact refused to be photographed. Sander-like in composition, the portraits of the people in the center of the image staring directly into the camera are reminiscent of the photographs of Diane Arbus, incidentally an artist whom Naomi Harris holds in great respect. The people in front of the camera believe they look attractive and dignified, while in fact they strike the viewer as bizarre, grotesque, and often also desperately lonely. This impression is frequently assisted by their ridiculous costumes, designed to gain attention at theme-oriented parties. Even more absurd, however, are the images of various sexual acts, in which the artist pointedly juxtaposes parallel actions (e.g., a supine woman is being orally aroused, while another woman looks on, cleaning her teeth), or action and environment (sexual revelry in a swimming pool with a floating plastic duck). The people in front of the camera know that it is there, yet they ignore its presence; so great is the trust that Naomi Harris has succeeded to win, and so scant is their sense of shame, overridden by their pride in their sexual prowess and ability to carry out the wildest of fantasies. The visual qualities of Swingers also play an important role, with their imaginative use of color and natural lighting, as well as compelling composition, which often present but a fragment of the dramatic action, leaving wide open space for imagination. Naomi Harris claims that in her photographs she does not want to pass judgment, merely to document this fast growing yet so far little publicly presented phenomenon of contemporary American life, so full of sexual gymnastics, and so devoid of eroticism.

Vladimír Birgus FOTOGRAF 10/2007

What is The Swinging Lifestyle?

WHAT IS THE SWINGING LIFESTYLE?
By Shirley SezS. & R. Productions

The Swinging Lifestyle is as Multifaceted, as life and people are? It's Basic belief is that EVERYONE, has the right to live, love and enjoy themselves sexually;---providing there is MUTUAL CONSENT between adults. This is the only area, that we all think alike!!! It is from this pointion, we all differ about what the Swinging Lifestyle means to us and on what level, we choose to enjoy it's benefits.

The Swinging Lifestyle has been in existence since time began. Because on it's most basic level, the word "swinging" is only a board term meaning; the sharing of sexual pleasure with a person or persons we are not legally married to!!! In this context; most of the people in the world today, ARE swinging, whether they realize it or not!!!

The word "Swinging" derived from a Minister, who told his congregation, there were weird people who were swinging back and from bed to bed, in thesame manner as Monkeys. He seemed to think the people we spoke about were doing something new, different and weird but he was very wrong!Even in Jesus' time it was the common and acceptable behavior for the wealthy and powerful to have many wives, concubines and slaves for their sexual pleasure!!! Several women rulers availed themselves of their power also, by keeping an Equal number of male slaves and consorts to satisfy their sexual needs and desires too. So, what is being considered as new and weird conduct in our present unenlightened sexually controlled and somewhat puritan thinking work has been considered normal and even acceptable conduct for many people civilization and religions since time began!!!

Most European & Asian countries: Africa, Iran, Egypt, China and Japan, were among those that have lived in this manner for centuries and some still are today! In France, during Queen Marie's time; wild orgies were the norm, until she lost her head for being a Taker instead of a Giver! Just maybe, that was then people started to assume that when you lost you head over sex it was dangerous or wrong!

In the recent past, we had many free thinkers, who were outspoken about their belief in their right to enjoy their sexuality. It is also well known that many of our world leaders -- even those of the religious community have openly or secretly enjoyed their sexuality while trying to deny us the same rights and opportunities.

Old Ben Franklin was known to be a free thinker and nudist, while enjoying his sexuality in a manner we would call swinging. In fact, in today's moral mud slinging climate, this brilliant statesman would not be allowed to hold any Government offices of positions he held. The moral majority today, would've hung him out to dry, just as they did Gary Hart!!! Today, people are only considered worthy of being world leaders if they can almost be considered for sainthood!!! In many cases it's just that they have been sneaky or secretive enough to keep their true natures from being known.

Many of our movie stars are known for the sexual games they play, on and off screen, but most people just laugh and secretly envy them and talk badly about their neighbors if they are acting in a similar manner. It is normal for people to hate, deride, and judge anyone who has claimed their right to enjoy their sexuality in any manner they have chose not to regardless of their own hidden desires!!!

In the last twenty years, some sexual rights were established in the courts of the land, proving the fact, a persons sexuality should be their own business. But in the last five years, many of these same rights have received a battering by the vocal moral majority!!! It's just not our business anymore, what we do in the privacy of our homes and bedrooms. It has become the business of the federal state and local governments organized religions and even your next door neighbor! The swinging lifestyle, as we know it today; has evolved, grown and changed during the last 60 years. My parents were approached, when I was just a baby; to go to small home parties involving wife swapping with many of their neighbors and good friends. Most of them belonged to a very restrictive religion, which considered divorce a sin. so as a way to keep their vow, "Till death do us part" -- they had decided to forget about "cleave unto each other only!!" Daddy naturally thought it was a great idea, but Mom objected and thought she had refused it for both of the, but Daddy claimed all his sexual rights without her.

For many years, the small Home Party situations was the only way people enjoyed swinging and they were restricted to couples only. This was a very much mail-dominated society at that time, so it was definitely considered wife swapping. The attitude was: you can swing with my wife, it I can swing with your's? It's a fact, many people & clubs haven't progressed past this restrictive attitude today! Only for the last few years, have some clubs allowed Female or Male singles.
Organized On & Off Premise Swing Clubs have only come into being during the last 0-20 years, being modeled after Sandstone; an alternative lifestyle community in California The video they produced is still being rented in many local video stores, but this Style setting club today, denies being part of the Swinging Community?!!

Today, on & off premise swing clubs are in most states and countries of the world. The National Association, formed by Club Owners and Swing Magazine Publishers;, host many widely varied functions: Conventions, Camp-outs, Cruises, Tours and Fun Weekends. These give everyone a change to meet, exchange information a large number of subjects, especially any laws or medical concerns, which may affect people's ability and right to enjoy their sexuality and the swinging lifestyle.

When a person attends these functions, they are able to learn that the majority of the participants are definitely not the Dregs of the Universe, as the general public has been led to believe they are? In fact, just the opposite is true!!! The swinging lifestyle is only 10-20% as they've been depicted by the media, while the higher majority of them are highly intelligent, successful, community leaders and almost always the type of person you would love to have for a friend or neighbor. They're the lovers of the universe, showing love, consideration and caring. They only want to be left alone to enjoy their friends, as they each desire!

They believe in their right to enjoy their sexuality, in private, in their own homes or organized swing clubs, plus grant their mates, other people, their sexual rights too. They learn how to show love to themselves and to their friends. They're secure in their personal lives and in their sexuality, so they don't feel the need to try to control anyone else's lives or sexuality. They have a natural outlet for their sexual desires, with consenting adults, so are less likely to inflict them on their own children or any unwilling victims.

Committed couples, who have acknowledged themselves as swingers and have come into the swinging lifestyle, so they may act as each others best friend and continue to have totally truthful relationships, rather than lie to each other and have secret affairs. I personally consider it strange that the people in our world today are more understanding of secret affairs, than they are an alternate lifestyle that advocates, demands and requires total truth!!!

Non-swingers are enjoying their sexuality, just as swingers are except they are lying to their mate's about it and deliberately making their marriages unhappy to justify their actions and soothe their guilt! They haven't learned that truth and honesty enables myou to not suffer emotional and infidelity or guilt!!

Only about 10% of the people enjoying the swinging lifestyle have mentally and emotionally accepted their sexuality enough to be completely open about being involved in it! Some try to keep this fact secret due to the fears about how this knowledge would affect their lives, family relationships and careers. While other's hide the truth because they refuse to admit even to themselves they are swingers. This is why many don't attend organized clubs. They try to tell themselves that as long as they only to go small home parties with friends, they are not really swingers!!!

The couples who have been able to admit, they enjoy the swinging lifestyle, attend the major functions the lifestyle offers. This helps them to grow, learn and get past their fears, while the closet swinger has denied themselves this opportunity due to their fear.

If I could sum up, what the swinging lifestyle really is and isn't, I would have to say that depends totally upon the needs, desired and attitudes of each individual who enters it. If you desire only more and better opportunities for sex that's possible! If you lonely and want good friends too, who will love and car about you while you enjoy going to dinner, dancing, camping and Fishing, that is possible! If you want to meet people from all over the world to visit and visit you, that is possible!!! So just as in every other facet of life, swinging is what you make of it, nothing more, or nothing less.

SHIRLEY SEZ: ... WE ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING NEW OR DIFFERENTWE ARE JUST DOING IT BETTER!!!

The 10 Commandments of Swinging!

1. Never attempt to break up a marriage.



2. Always keep dates unless you give ample notice of changing circumstances.



3. Always keep the first meeting on a "no strings attached" basis, but be prepared to swing if it is mutually agreeable or to give an honest answer if something doesn't click.



4. Never, under any circumstances exert pressure on a partner to swing.



5. Restrict discussions of swinging to known swingers and interested persons seeking information.



6. Protect the anonymity of other swingers by refraining from unauthorized "name dropping."



7. Always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance.



8. Do not engage in any unlawful activity that would discredit swingers as a group.



9. Be friendly and warm with your swing partners, but understand that there is a type of emotional involvement, which is properly reserved for a spouse or "primary significant other."



10. Always show respect for the personal attitudes, feelings and "hang-ups" of other swingers.