Swinger's House Party

Free Swinger's House Party, Saturday, March 14, 2009

we host many parties
let meet for fun
we are outgoing and enjoy others
OK we are hosting a house party on March 14th
Fondue and box game night .. Nut and Bolt game if we get enough will Partisapents
Its a No pressure No means No party
We have a hot tub and room for 3 couples to spend the night
We will have fondue pots and towels and ice and bedding
YOU BRING YOUR OWN MEAT , dish or snack
Please bring you own toys, booze and personal items
please bring an ice breaker game if YOU have one
there are couple areas to play at our place
please RSVP because we are not posting this party and are only inviting a few couples

hope to have 5 to 10 couples join us with a couple to spend the night
there our hotels near if you want to stay there

we are hoping the night turns from mild to wild
party starts at 6pm March 14th and goes tell we cant go any more

if you want to stay at our home please let us know

if you would like to come early on saturday you welcome we
will be doing last minute things to get ready for the party are welcome just let us know .

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Single Men Are Not Swingers

Soap Box - Single Men Are Not Swingers
Toni and Glen

Hi Guys, I just stumbled across your site by accident but what a surprise. We are "Internet Veterans" and have been around these boards since 1996. I've never seen one as comprehensive covering so many areas of the lifestyle. I'm sure you have been commended many times, please add one more to the list!.

I read each article from top to bottom and went away knowing a little more than I did before I got here, that's not the norm with most of these sites. I do have one comment I wanted to make only because you seem to have a sincere and committed interest in the lifestyle and I think you can appreciate all views, weather you agree or not.

I agreed with 95% of everything you say, and that's a pretty good percentage considering the volume of information. I had a problem with the "single male" aspect, may it's a regional thing but here in Florida the large majority of couples do NOT entertain single men. We have had two local "lifestyle clubs" (You are right "Fuck Clubs" is not a word we need to be using) close their doors on Friday nights, Why? On Friday's single men were admitted, on Saturdays they were forbidden. They closed due to lack of business, and the only reason there was no business was directly attributed to single men. (This fact is openly discussed on Saturday's when the places are a mob scene.)

My personal feelings are this; I don't recognize single men as "swingers" (Like they care what I recognize LOL) In many of your articles you discussed the many facets of the lifestyle that go far beyond the sexual aspect, and much of it was all based around a "couple relationship" the sharing and communication between TWO individuals. I could not agree more. In my "humble" opinion a single man in the lifestyle is not a swinger, he just a single man that is horny, and although I'm not a physiologist, nor do I play one on TV, I think these are men who can't deal with women on a full time, adult level. So they spend their lives in pursuit of a quick two hour affair. I can't recall how many ads/profiles I've read where a single male is looking for a female partner we can swing with, and whine how hard they are to find? I would think they would want to find a partner period, and if somewhere down the road the relationship gravitated to swinging fine. With these men sex is their primary focus, not a relationship. I know there are exceptions to every rule, but my from what I've seen personally what I've described is the rule, not the exception.
You brought out some great points about the lifestyle, it's acceptance, and how others might view it based on terminology, as well as other aspects. The only time being in the lifestyle ever makes me feel uncomfortable is when I'm leered at, or approached by a single man and made to feel like a cheap whore. (Not to count the hundreds of offensive e-mail I've received, figuring many of these creeps are just fools out to bother people) I truly feel that single men are the thorn on the lifestyle rose. Hey that's it, I'll put the soapbox back under the bed and again say thanks for the many informative articles.

Rhonda Tampa, Florida

From Toni and Glen
Hello Rhonda,

I agree with you that many couples do not relate to single men as swingers, per se. However many couples do include single men in their activities, and thus help to enhance their relationship.

I do agree with you that many single men are just in it for sex. There is no denying it. But there is room for many single men in this lifestyle for those couples who seek them out. You could consider them more like another "tool" for enjoyment. No different than that of a vibrator, massage oil, and the like. Some couples do use other "equipment" to enhance their relationship, and singles (that includes single females) can be a viable part.
It's not for you, and that's OK.

No one single activity defines our lifestyle. It runs the whole gammut... some people like chocolate, while others like bananas. It's all a matter of taste. To dictate a "specific" definition as to what defines a swinger, and who we should "play" with would limit our freedom, and in the far reaches of time, invite "Talibanism".

Just our two cents...

Toni and Glen

Hi There!!!

As such, I know I'm an anomaly: a male who, while not single, swings singly, with full disclosure to (and permission of) his partner. I have had much fun within the Metro Milwaukee swinging community, because I have always acted within the guidelines you so eloquently express in your "Advice to Single Males".

I must say I disagree with Rhonda. Yes, many single men are NOT swingers. But, a few, like myself, am. I focus on friendships FIRST. Am I a horny devil? YES! But I need friends, too, and far better to make friends with folks who understand what libido is. :) If nothing sexual happens, you've still made a friend, and that's far more valuable than anything else.
Best of luck, love and lust to you both!

AldousPolyamorous Hedonist,Madison, WI

Join in on the discussion, send your thoughts to toni.and.glen@tfexp.com

A Swingers Community In Splinters

The Lifestyle
A Community In Splinters?
By Shelly and Dan of Alternative Travel

Since returning a few weeks ago from Conclave, a swinger's convention in Chicago, we have had time to evaluate the information we shared at the club owner’s meetings and keynote address. We would like to share what we felt was the general consensus among attendees.

The club owner’s meeting addressed some issues that have come up regarding the right’s of loving couples to assemble in Pennsylvania. A bill currently before the Pennsylvania state legislature is causing shudders throughout the lifestyle It call for the closure of all couples clubs whose purpose is to promote or meet for sex. This is putting it simply without the legal wording contained within the bill. Those who have the most to fear are the on-premise clubs. The opinion was that it may well be passed and then fought over the courts. Once a bill is passed it will end up in an ongoing battle for years. The court may also render a decision that other states may follow, using the Pennsylvania bill as a landmark for other cases.

On the other side of the room, a call was put forth that we need to clean up our act and take the emphasis of the lifestyle off sex. We must eliminate focusing our information on sexual activity alone. Instead, we need to promote our social activities. We all know why we go to clubs and what our expectations are. Do we really need to broadcast our intent to the community at large? I think not.

Toni and Glen of Club H, the keynote speakers, said what we have felt for years. They said that this lifestyle needs to clean up its act and present a positive image. The lifestyle has a responsibility to avoid negative press and to focus attention away from our sexual activities, much like the gay and lesbian community did many years ago. They received a standing ovation from 300 couples and mutual agree among most of the participants.

The lifestyle community needs to realize that we are under assault from political and religious groups. We make ourselves very easy targets. Most of us are unwilling to fight for the right to assemble, and our foes know it! If you think this is idle speculation, you’re wrong! It is real and our clubs are definite targets. First on their his list are the on-premise swing clubs, which are considered to be the bath houses of our lifestyle. There are enough community standards being violated and it’s easy to use local laws to close and prosecute. Any anyone on the club premises who’s even partially disrobed goes along for a ride in the paddy wagon. Sure, we can fight it after the fact and probably win! That is if you have enough money and lawyers. And, after you’re booked, identified, fingerprinted and written up in your local paper, complete with mug shots. Scary? You bet it is!

Off premise (dance/social) clubs need to protect themselves as well. Keep your patrons dressed! There plenty of time to party after the ball. Don’t provide them ammunition by loading the pistol yourself. Use common sense, and of course your “big” head to think with not your “little” one! Some clubs will tell you anything they think you want to hear. Take it with a grain of salt because it’s your ass that’s on the line.

Most club owners at the Conclave meeting were very much in favor of presenting a positive image while some seemed like they could care less. They wanted nothing to disrupt their operations. The sad part for those who do not take it seriously is that they are putting others in jeopardy. They may, in due time, not have an operation, nor the dollars to defend themselves in a court of law. For some of you this might seem scare or extreme, and in a way it is. Remember... if you are not in violation of any laws, community standing, not attracting unwanted negative attention, you have less to be concerned about.

Look around at the changes going on. There are a lot of positive things taking place that will benefit all of us in the long run. Many clubs are changing attitudes and their focus. Clubs are organizing together to fight the oppression that’s being threatened. We take these groups very serious and are preparing to fight them with our own resources. We don’t have big war chests that they have, but we’ve mounted campaigns though donations to selective civil liberties groups. If we continue to operate as a splintered and divided community, we make ourselves easy targets and sitting ducks. There’s no need to be divided. That is what the other side wants us to do. Let’s not do it to ourselves.

Winter Meltdown Swinger's Dance, Saturday, January 17, 2009

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Swinger's New Year's Eve Gala Affair

If you are a swingers living in Minnesota, Wisconsin, Iowa or even Lower Ontario, come check out the hottest New Year’s Eve Party around, Wednesday, December 31, 2008, 7pm to 1am. We expect sensual revelers from all over to be in attendance. For more details about grand event, visit http://GalaAffair.com .

Britain on top in casual sex league

According to an article in a local British newspaper, "BRITISH men and women are now the most promiscuous of any big western industrial nation, researchers have found."

It would have been interesting to find out how many of them actually have multiple partners at the same time and would consider themselves swingers.

Nevertheless the paper went on to report that British men maybe more promiscuous than men.

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