Frequently asked swinger's questions

Question: What sort of people are Swingers?

Answer: Swingers are interested in sexual adventure. Since the desire for sexual gratification is inherent to the human race, Swingers come from all walks of life, in all shapes and forms. She may be that attractive blond on the beach, or he may be your doctor, or they may be the couple next door.

Question: How do I approach my partner about Swinging?

Answer: There are two ways to go. The first is frank discussion - if your partner is able to verbalize his or her sexual desires, then talking and finding out the facts together may lead you to the decision that is best for your overall happiness. If it is difficult to find out exactly what your partner thinks, a less subtle approach may be better. Try exposing your partner to the idea of Swinging through verbal fantisizing during lovemaking, viewing pornographic movies and magazines that portray multiples, becoming platonic friends with Swingers, etc. By contacting local Swingers Clubs, you will be able to find out about discos and hotel lounges that are meeting places for couples interested in Swinging. A visit for dinner and drinks may lead to contacts and discussions that may spark your partner's interest in a new form of sexual adventure!


Question: I think I am interested in a Swinging experience, but am not 100% sure. This makes me a little uncomfortable, what should I do?

Answer: Research the topic more in depth. Once all the facts are in front of you, the decision will be a little easier. Like anything else in life, the first time may be a little uncomfortable because you have not participated in the activity before and do not know what to do. This is perfectly normal. Contact a local Swingers Club and explain your interests. You will more than likely be speaking with someone who knows exactly where you are coming from because he (she) was in your position at one time. They should be able to offer advice, contacts to speak with or meet, and places where you can go to socialize with Swingers on a platonic basis. This should give you exposure to the Swing Scene without any sexual involvement on your part.

Question: I want to be very discreet in my activities. What are the different ways to make contacts with other individuals / couples interested in Swinging?

Answer: Established Swingers Clubs are very professional and discreet in their conduct. Otherwise, they would not exist for more than a week. Other alternatives are Swinger publications and contact magazines / newsletters, computer bulletin board services for Swingers, Introduction Services, conventions and special events, travel agencies and resorts that cater to the sexually adventurous, and telephone contact organizations that offer voice mail advertisement and responses as well as chat lines.

Question: How can I maintain my privacy while corresponding with other Swingers?

Answer: You should be able to maintain a P.O. Box at a local post office for a nominal fee. In this way, you can remain anonymous at your leisure. Swinging activities can take place at third party locations: Swingers Clubs, hotels, resorts, private homes, etc., attend a swinger's event such as SwingStock or join an online site such as FriendshipExpress.com.


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