Swingers' Chatter

Games to break the ice

2011-11-09T14:13:00.000-08:00

This game was posted on FriendshipExpress.org recently.

How do you like to get things going when you meet a couple? It's sorta awkward at times so here is a naughty Jenga game for swingers. It's worked out so well at breaking the ice and putting everyone at ease that we now have 2 versions , Tame , and Advanced.

We started out by taking a Jenga game and numbering the blocks. That way no one will see "suck all the cocks in the room for 30 seconds" on your Jenga pieces lol

Here's the tasks to go with the numbered blocks that we came up with. The coolest part is that you can make up your own so it fits your personal style.

Dirty Jenga

1-Remove one piece of clothing from the person of your choice (without the help of the person taken from).

2-Remove one piece of clothing from the person of your spouse’s choice (without the help of the person taken from).

3-Have someone remove one piece of your clothing .

4-Do a body shot off the person of your choice.

5-Do 10 naked jumping jacks.

6-Give another person a 1 minute massage.

7-last person to get their mouth on a nipple must remove 1 piece of clothing—

1, 2 ,3 GO !!!

8-Perform a dare from the person directly across from you.

9-Everyone in the game remove 1 piece of clothing except you.

10-Expose a “private” part for 1 round.

11-Choose a player of opposite sex and swap underwear and try on !!!

12-Remove 1 piece of clothing.

13-Remove 1 piece of clothing from each member of opposite sex (without the help of the person taken from).

14-All players do a shot !!!

15- All players remove one piece of clothing.

And Level 2>>>>>

Bambi Bait's Foursome Tango Tower

(If "wood" is required to perform the selected task, your spouse will be your fluffer.)

Knock the tower over: The group picks a task for you.

1. Do a hands only exploration of someone without touching their private part.

2. Stimulate a member of the opposite sex without touching them with your hands or mouth.

3. Fondle someone's breasts or chose someone to fondle yours for a round.

4. Orally pleasure all member's of the opposite sex.

5. Dare your spouse to do something, if they decline they must allow the group to decide their punishment.

6. Manually stimulate someone for one round.

7. Lick/Nibble someone's ear or other body part .

8. Take a picture with someone in the position of your spouse's/partner's choice.

9. Do the "Naughty" with the person of your choice ... BUT first roll the dice to determine the number of strokes allowed.

10. Girls: pose for the cameraman of your choice (3 shots) Boys: pick a girl to pose for you (3 shots).

11. Lick the favorite body part of another for 1 minute.

12. Be pleasured in the manner of your choosing by 2 people for two minutes.

13. For your viewing pleasure, command the other three people to perform the three-way sex act of your choice.

14. Guys- Have the other guy tell you what to do with HIS wife.

Girls- Have the other girl tell you what to do with HER husband.

15. Roll a die: For the rest of the night if you say the assigned word (or the word with any of its suffixes) you must kiss the nearest person of the opposite gender's private part: 1 Nipple 2 Cock 3 Play 4 Swing 5 Lick 6 Suck.

Let us know if how you enjoyed the game and did it help you to break the ice.

Wisconsin Minnesota Swinger's Halloween Party

2011-09-30T02:47:00.000-07:00

It’s time for the mother of all swinger's Halloween Dance and Party, Saturday, October 29, 2011!!! Get your favorite costume and prepare to boogie all night! This is the time of All Hallows Eve, the time to be ghoulishly sexy, spectacularly spooky & everything in between!!!

It's a Halloween Total Bar Take Over Bash!!!

A SPECIAL VENUE

This is not just a bar; it's more like a night club and restaurant. You'll have a wide array of menu food items to satisfy any taste. It's located on in downtown Danbury, just east of Hinckley and we'll have this fantastic place all to ourselves from 9pm to 2:30am in the morning. For those who have been to one of our Danbury Bar Take Over events, it's at the same place as the last time. For privacy, the exact location will be sent to you with your confirmed reservation.

SPECIAL RATE

The cost to attend is only $12 per person, when you register online by midnight, Wednesday, October 26.

This Halloween Bash is less than two blocks from the St. Croix Casino-Danbury (formerly known as the Hole In The Wall). You have a choice of staying at the Lodge (the older motel) for only $47 per night or at the brand new casino hotel at $100 per night. We are urging you to call today andget a room for Saturday, October 29 because rooms go fast. The phone number for the casino is 1-800-238-8946. You can ask for the new hotel or the Lodge. So get a room and prepare to Stay and Play all night long.

OPEN TO COUPLES AND SINGLES!!!

After you have added your names to list of those attending, please visit SexyHalloween.com to complete your reservation and get exact location or call 320-245-6803/763-250-1122.

See YOU There!!!

Swinger's Jokes

2011-09-30T02:42:00.000-07:00

Three couples – one elderly, one middle-aged, one young and newly wed – apply for membership in a church. The pastor informs them that the requirement for new parishioners is that they abstain from sex for two weeks. The couples agree and go their separate ways.

After two weeks, they return. The pastor asks the elderly pair if they were able to abstain for two weeks. "No problem at all, Pastor," replies the old man.

"Congratulations!" says the pastor. "Welcome to the church." He turns to the middle-aged couple and asks if they were able to abstain for two weeks.

"It was difficult," replies the husband. "By the end of the second week, I had to sleep on the couch, but we did it."

"Congratulations on overcoming temptation," says the pastor. "Welcome to the church." He then turns to the newlyweds and asks if they were able to abstain for two weeks.

"At first it was no problem," says the husband. "But one day my wife was reaching for a can of corn on the top shelf, and she dropped it. When she bent over to pick it up, I was overcome with lust and took advantage of her right there."

"You understand, of course, that this means you will not be welcome in our church," says the pastor.

"We know," says the young man. "We're not welcome at the supermarket anymore either."

Frenchman ordered to pay ex-wife £9,000 for not having sex after marriage

2011-09-13T14:32:00.000-07:00

A reluctant husband has been sued for £9,000 by his wife for failing to have sex with her for 'a period of several years'.

The 51-year-old Frenchman, named only as Jean-Louis, neglected his matrimonial duties to wife Monique in Nice, who sued him for 10,000 euros (£8,700) and took her divorce case to an Appeal Court.

The court in Aix-en-Provence heard that the couple had been married for 21 years and raised two children on the French Riviera.

But the strains of work and illness prevented Jean-Louis from fulfilling his matrimonial duties, his advocate pleaded.

Announcing her decision the judge quoted the French civil and penal code, which requires both parties in a marriage to respect ‘lifelong community’ requiring them by law to have sexual relations.

Whereas sexual abstinence in a couple, together with violence and infidelity, are cited regularly in hundreds of divorce claims in France, it is extremely rare for a husband or wife to pay financial damages for specifically failing to satisfy sexually.

The last similar case in France dates back to the year 2000.

In recent years the traditional image of the French lover par excellence has taken a battering from statistics.

The country that put the ‘French’ in front of kiss and purports to speak ‘la langue de l’amour’ is in the process of losing its libido, it would seem.

A survey by the French Institute of Public Opinion questioned 1,000 adults and found that 76% of them ‘suffer relationship problems that due to a poor sex life.

Half of those also polled said they had 'no desire' to make love.

More than a third of French women confessed to citing headaches, fatigue or ‘not in front of the children’ as excuses for saying no. One in six men admitted similar excuses.

Figures show that one in three traditional French marriages ends in divorce.

Growing numbers of French couples are opting for civil solidarity pacts known as PACS .

PACS, contractual agreements also available to same sex partners, were introduced by the government of Lionel Jospin in 1999 and were signed by 700,000 couples during the first ten years of the new legal arrangement.

The new deal has become so popular in France that the expression ‘être pacsé’ is used as often as ‘être marié’ to mean ‘having tied the knot’.

Source

4th of July Swinger's Party and Campout

2011-06-10T03:10:00.000-07:00

Our events are held at Two Creeks Campground, the only lifestyle community with a physical address in the Midwest (see 2creeks.com for details) near Sandstone/Hinckley area. We have about 120 lifestyle friendly residents who have a trailer/lot as this fantastic facility. The sign up list here does not reflect the amount of people who are at Two Creeks at any given time. Depending on the weekend, we’ll have from about 60 to 500 people in attendance. So don’t let this list here sway you from attending. Come on out meet the friendliest lifestylers in the nation. We are more than just a weekly event; we are a thriving community of like minded people.

Come celebrate your right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness with Minnesota's sexiest neighbors, July 1 - 4, 2011. There will be a dance and/or karaoke each night at the Bare's Den; you can socialize in other members' hot tubs, sun, fish, float on the creeks, or do whatever you like. This is a clothing optional event! Bring a dish to share and your party attitude. Tubing, canoeing, fishing, four wheeling and more are just minutes away. Whatever you decide to do during the day, the party will continue at Two Creeks with dances on Friday and Saturday nights. On Saturday, plan on joining us for a potluck dinner at 6pm at the Picnic Pavilion. Enjoy a weekend of fun in the sun and party the way you deserve to - naked!!!

On Friday the July 1st, we'll have the Meet and Greet Dance. Come dressed any way you like and let the fun begin. On Saturday night, it's the Celebration of Freedom Dance. Let' face it, we live in the land of the free, home of the brave. So let's celebrate it; come dressed in your sexiest and wildest red, white and blue outfit and you could win the grand prize, or if you like, dress however you feel comfortable. After all, it's a celebration of freedom!!!

It doesn't matter where you are in this lifestyle; you can be a newbie or a veteran; you can be curious or wild. This event is for you. We'll have people who are swingers, curious, bi-sexual, into fetish, BDSM, voyeurs, exhibitionists, nudists and others who just like the freedom that this campground has to offer. As you're well aware, all attendees must be over the age of 21, and absolutely no children are allowed at this event. It doesn't matter where you are on your journey, come on out! You'll be accepted, and you'll have fun.

So come join us at this totally secluded, 100 acre clothing-optional campground, 100 miles north of Minneapolis/St. Paul, nestled between the Nemadji and the St. Croix State Forests, just east of Sandstone, Minnesota for a Liberty Weekend Party that will be unforgettable.

The environment will give you the freedom that you want. You can express yourself in whatever manner you desire, as long as it's not forced or coerced upon others.

After you've added your name to the list of those attending, please visit AttractionUSA.com to complete your registration and get directions or call 320-245-6803.

Meet Swingers Today

2010-12-11T21:33:00.000-08:00

How long have you been in the swinging lifestyle? How often do you swing? Did you come across fun loving swingers? The experience is complete unless and until you come across couples you take you to the extreme level of satisfaction. A couple who understands your needs and fulfills them completely. You need to meet several couples until you get the couple who can satisfy your sexual libido.

If you are a busy person with no spare time to socialize, then you can increase your network through online communities like FriendshipExpress.org. All you need is a personal computer or a laptop that has the internet accessibility. Now, create an account on a reliable swinger community. Make sure that the owner of the website is a lifestyle member. You can socialize with people through this medium and catch up for the swinger activities.

Party hoppers can join a swinger club to meet lifestyle members. It is a common getaway for swinger couples. You can meet people with similar swinger choices. It is a safe setting for swinger activities as swinger clubs give membership after verifying the identity of the concerned swinger. Hence, it is safer than online communities that have several fake profiles at disposal.

However, your behavior plays a crucial role in your swinging endeavor. You need to act politely and respect the demands of your swinger mate. Your lifestyle practices should be safe and convenient. Speak to your swinger partner and make sure he/she is comfortable with you. Remember, swinging is a pleasure only if the people who are involved, swing without any emotional or sexual issues.

Moreover, you shouldn’t limit yourself to a particular activity. Try to experiment with activities and learn new methods of sexual pleasure. Meet maximum swingers and swing with them. The more you swing, the more are chances of achieving satisfaction and meeting the perfect swinger mate. So, take full advantage of the opportunities and grow your swinging network beyond cast, creed, religion and geographical region.

Porn mogul plans hotel chains where guests stay for free... so long as they agree to have sex sessions broadcast on the web

2010-11-07T16:13:00.000-08:00

A porn mogul is planning a chain of hotels where guests stay for free - if they allow their sex sessions to be broadcast live on the web.

Swedish businessman Berth Milton Jr says he plans to open 100 of the shocking sex hotels in hotspots around the world.

Milton, the son of the man credited with creating hardcore porn in the 1960s, believes the amateurish sex sessions will be a gold mine.

Although guests will stay for free, he reckons porn lovers will pay to watch members of the public having sex.

'The numbers are astonishing,' insisted Milton, calculating that a single hotel could generate $43.8 million a year in subscription fees from voyeurs watching from computers around the world.

He believes his sex hotels will work because they will be so graphic - and also believes people will look back and see his plans as the start of something massive.

To read more, click here.

Total Bar Take Over Halloween Bash, Danbury, Wisconsin, Saturday, October 30, 2010

2010-09-29T14:15:00.000-07:00

Looking for a fun swinger's Halloween Bash? Are you a swinger from Minneapolis, Saint Paul, Wisconsin, Thunder Bay or Wisconsin?

If your answer is yes, then visit SexyHalloween.com for details about this event, Saturday, October 30, 2010 at a local bar in Danbury, Wisconsin.

Couples and singles are welcome to attend.

Residents in Pasco county protest swingers party

2010-02-03T07:01:00.000-08:00

Residents in Pasco County are protesting swinger's party at a local nudist resort. The county board met recently to discuss this issue.

Pink Passion Party, Friday - Sunday, February 12 - 14, 2009

2009-12-10T20:02:00.000-08:00

Yes, Virginia - A Pink Passion Total Hotel Take Over Party, Friday 12 - 14, 2010, Virginia, MN
Event Date - Friday, February 12th, 2010
click here for more information and for ordering instructions

Please click on photo above for more details or call 320-245-6803

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Swinger's Christmas Food Shelf Drive and Dance

2009-11-08T06:36:00.000-08:00

In This Holiday Season, We Are Fortunate To Be Out Partying. In the Spirit of the Holiday Season, let's use our partying and having fun to include those less fortunate than us, Saturday, December 5, 2009, 7pm to 12am, near the Mall of America in Bloomington.

While enjoying the season, and meeting fun people, you'll be able to help the needy to have a fantastic Holiday Season!!! By bringing a non-perishable item to donate to charity (or donate $5), your name will be entered in the drawing to win a FREE entrance to either SwingStock, July 14 - 18, 2010, $100 off the Pink Passion Couples Only Retreat, February 12 - 14, 2010 or $400 off a one year lease at Two Creeks Campground, May 1 to October 31, 2010.

Bring as many nonperishable food items as you can or monetary donation to contribute to a MN Food Shelf. Last year we donated hundreds of pounds of food to charity. We would like to top that this year, so bring your generous hearts, check books, and many non-perishable food items as possible. So get in your holiday spirit, come out, meet great friends, make new ones, feel good about yourself, and help us stock the food shelves.

As a way of saying thank you, we are doing with style, with a dance to include a sumptuous hors d'oeuvres and many fun like-minded people. That's right for only $15 per member*, your night includes a dance and a sumptuous selection of food to fuel your soul for the excitement to come.

Also because this is being held in a hotel, we are encouraging you to get a room. Our members will be on a private, secure floor where you'll need a pass key to enter that floor either from the elevator or the stair. It's only $80 per night with our group when booked by December 1, 2009 (after December 1, this rate is available on a space available basis) and includes breakfast for up to two people. Details about our group block will be sent to you when you register. So get a room, relax and don't worry about driving after the party.

This event will start at 7pm with orientation for new attendees, followed at 8pm with the dance and hors d'oeuvres. This will go until 12am in the morning. As usual, there will be an After Hours Hospitality Suite. So, register today, and tell all your friends to come join you.

We'll have all types of people in attendance, from new, to curious; from swingers to non-swingers; exhibitionists to voyeurs; straight to bi-sexual people; people into fetish, BDSM, and the like. Whatever you're looking for, you're bound to find at this event.

For more details and to register online, visit AttractionUSA.com or call 320-245-6803.

Etiquette for swingers

2009-10-25T07:00:00.000-07:00

Being in the swinging lifestyle for a couple decades now, we can tell you that there are no actual formal rules for any given swinger's party. Each host will give you a guideline for their event, but generally if you practice good manners and follow the golden rule, you'll have a wonderful time. Basically the guidelines below are for swingers house parties where sex take place, but it can be applied to social events such as local swingers dances, camp outs and retreats.
A swingers party is a happening where adult couples and select singles meet for an evening of sex in a safe and friendly environment. This can take place at a private residence or at an actual on premise swingers club where a relaxed atmosphere is created with candles, music, finger food and drinks. Be sure to bring condoms with you; some people use them and some people don't. But it's up to YOU to assess the risk of sexual contact and to practice safe sex within your standards.
You have to be over 18 if you want to attend a swinger party, but some hosts will require you to be 21 or older, especially if alcohol is being served. Apart from the age factor, a swingers party is really open to anybody. Swingers come from all different socio-economic backgrounds and take on different facets. Swingers are from all racial persuasions and a mix of ethnicities at an event can lead to a sexually charged party.
The important thing to remember when you are going to a swingers event is that you are a guest and should behave so. You will be ignored by other attendees for misbehaving at swingers parties and may be asked to leave.
It’s always important to greet your host and hostess when you arrive at a swingers party and to thank them afterwards. There will be an area where the host or hostess will greet the guests and encourage them to relax and mingle with the other guests. They will also introduce you to other attendees, especially if this is your first event. By introducing you to new people, you'll stand a better chance of hooking up and have a great night.
Be polite to the other guests of the party or event. If they invite you for a threesome or a gang-bang that you don’t want to partake in then just gently say no thanks. Don’t insult them and never try to force yourself on other adults who don’t want you. Remember that no always means no. If you are in a situation where you are telling another guest no and they refuse to listen, inform the host. It is part of their responsibility to keep all the guests in order and make sure that everyone is having fun.
Every party takes on a life of it's own; with some, there is a lot of small talk; with some, sex starts almost instanteonously. It all depends on the attendees, the mood, and the make up of that swingers group. Sex starts quickly at a party where local swingers are comfortable with each other.
Most adults attend swapping parties to be free sexually and many to build long lasting friendships. Be sure to get names, emal addresses or phone number to keep in touch. The host of the party will not give you that information, so it's up to you to get it. Many people will keep in touch with you after a party and invite you back to their home for a drink, dinner or anything in between. Most swingers value this type of friendship, but there are those you'll never see again. They are just there for the sex only and not interested in being friends with benefits.
Word of mouth is also huge in the swingers community so if you enjoy the party, be sure to let your lifestyle friends know about it.
Safe Swinging to You!!!

Minnesota swinger's Halloween Event

2009-10-05T08:39:00.000-07:00

Swinger's Super Spooky, Super Sexy Halloween
Bash in Bloomington, Minnesota

It’s time for the mother of all swinger's Halloween Dances in Minnesota !!! Get your favorite costume and prepare to boogie all night! This is the time of All Hallows Eve, the time to be ghoulishly sexy, spectacularly spooky & everything in between!!!

A SPECIAL VENUE
Holiday Inn Select is a fresh venue where you don't have to worry about driving back home. We will have our own private room, a wonderful appetizer spread, complete with DJ and our own private bartender!

BUT WAIT THERE IS MORE
This HOT party comes complete with FREE entrance to our private After Hours hospitality suite where the party will continue until the wee hours of the morning.

You can be a part of this groundbreaking phenomenon
for only $30 per member couple, $20 per member single female and $30 per member single male. All swinger's lifestyle clubs and online communities are welcome to attend. Non-members can attend also, please see the reservation form for the rates.

YOU DON’T WANT TO MISS THIS!!!
Want to get a sneak peak at this beautiful party place? Please click here.

ACCOMMODATIONS
Rooms are available for only $80 for a standard room or $99 for a suite for the night. Enjoy a spectacular room complete with FREE in room Wi-Fi, microwave, refrigerator and a 37" LCD TV, and breakfast for two. Details on how to get this room at this spectacular rate will be given once your reservation has been made. So there is no need to drive. Get a room, and come join in the fun.

For more details, to meet local Minnesota Swingers and Wisconsin Swingers and to register online, go to SexyHalloween.com or call 320-245-6803 to register over the phone.

Tantra Workshop at Flesh, August 21 - 23, 2009

2009-08-19T23:47:00.000-07:00

In the spirit of the Two Creeks Flesh Shorts and Bikini Party, August 21-23, 2009, we have a unique opportunity for sensual fun. We have a tantra instructor that will offer a session where you can learn about and experience Tantra and Contact Improvisation. This will be held on Saturday, August 22nd, about 1:00pm

TANTRA: Learn the basics of Tantra,the ancient art of physical and spiritual ecstasy. Learn how to increase yours and your partner's pleasure during sex and how to unleash your sexual power in your daily life. Workshop will include fun partner and solo exercises and will conclude with a "puja", that is, a circle within a circle of men and women who perform short intimate rituals together before changing partners. The exercises are designed to aid in: increasing physical, sexual, emotional and spiritual intimacy with yourself and others, ejaculation control for men, female ejaculation, multiple orgasms, how to connect more deeply with your with your partner(s), with your own body, and with the divine inherent in us and all others in the universe around us.

CONTACT IMPROVISATION (clothing optional): Rolling, sliding and gliding against your partner, flowing with the points of contact between your bodies, Contact Improvisation is a way of dancing using your partner's weight as a moving counter balance and support for your body. Contact Improvisation means paying close attention to your partner's movements and responding in each moment without a plan but with the joy of just letting go of your mind and letting your body take over. Usually done in a fully clothed environment, Contact Improvisation becomes even more sensuous and playful when done with little or no clothing.

So get register today for Flesh Shorts and Bikini Party and come experience Tantric sensuality and love, by going to AttractionUSA.com or register over the phone by calling 320-245-6803.

Swinger's Hump Day - Midweek Party in Minnesota

2009-06-30T07:22:00.000-07:00

Many of us can't come out on Friday or Saturday because we work weekends; many of you have asked for a week day party so that you can get out and have some fun with like minded people. Well, here it is - the Hump Day Social - A Mid Week Party for those that can. Please go to AttractionUSA.com for the date and registration information.

Because it's a Mid Week Party on a Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday, we don't know how many people will be in attendance. It could be your chance to relax by yourself, with just a few or a bunch of people.

With the Hump Day Social - A Mid Week Party there might be impromptu dances, bloody Mary bars, singing over an open fire or a private tryst with one or more people. It’s whatever the your mood is! It will all depend on who is in attendance.
So come on out to the number one lifestyle friendly community in the Midwest. It’s not a KOA or some uptight, restricted naturist or nudist campground with kids. It’s a place for free spirited adults over the age 21, to let loose and be your own beautiful self.

The Hump Day Social - A Mid Week Party is whatever you make it to be!!!

The daily rate is only is $20* per site for up to two people for staying Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. Camping in your tent, RV, Travel Trailer, etc., is FREE. Electric hookup is $15 per day and water hookup is only $5 extra per day. If you wish to camp on a weekend, please visit AttractionUSA.com for the current rate.

For details on registering, please visit AttractionUSA.com or call 320-245-6803 to register over the phone.

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In Touch, May 15 - 17, 2009 in Minnesota

2009-05-09T08:05:00.000-07:00

Come join us at the In Touch Lifestyle Weekend, Friday - Sunday, May 15- 17, 2009 at Two Creeks Community, just East of Sandstone for a party with like-minded people.

In Touch defined is a way of sharing, keeping abreast of information and in this lifestyle of being affectionate and warm; lifestyle is defined as a way of life or style of living that reflects the attitudes and values of a person or group.

Well the definitions above describe this weekend party. This is your weekend to share, get up to date information, and be affectionate and warm in a lifestyle which is uniquely you. It’s a time for everyone in attendance to reflect the fun attitudes that you have towards life and others.

Come out and let your hair down with other adults, all over the age of 21 in an atmosphere that’s conducive to your reality; come out and being In Touch with your fantasies by sharing it with others in the Lifestyle who cares and appreciate your very being; that is: whatever your desire, as long as it’s not forced or coerced there is bound to be someone or a group that will help you realize it.

This party weekend is opened to everyone regardless of your experience; you can be a newbie to a veteran; you can be curious or be wild. Nothing is expected of you; there is no pressure to do anything. Just be yourself. If you want to just lie around, do it! If you want to be wild and naughty, then do it! Wanna go for a walk nude? You can do it! Remember, there are no children allowed at this adult’s only community. It’s all adults just like you.

For more details and to register online, please visit AttractionUSA.com or call 320-245-6803 to register over the phone.

Cinco de Mayo Stay and Play Swinger's Party

2009-04-14T09:55:00.000-07:00

Cinco de Mayo International Swingers Weekend Campout in Minnesota Come celebrate your heritage at the Cinco de Mayo International Weekend Party and Campout at the Season Opener weekend at Two Creeks, just North of the Twin Cities near Sandstone, MN, Friday - Sunday, May 1 - 3, 2009.

Real Campers swingers event hosted by Attraction in Minnesota This weekend, we'll celebrate not just being an American, but also our backgrounds. We'll celebrate not just Cinco de Mayo, but all nationalities. We are asking everyone to come share your stories about your heritage; fly your ancestral flag; come share your traditional food/dish at the Potluck on Saturday.

We expect all types of people to be in attendance; we expect many nationalities and countries to be represented. So whatever your background ... i.e. Latino, Scandinavian, French, Jamaican, English, African-American, Irish, East Indian, Native American (etc., just to name a few), come share and party with us; we suggest that you wear a traditional outfit, or something that's unique to you and your background. Also, bring a dish to share... for example - we know that Jamaican Jerk Chicken will be a part of the potluck dinner on Saturday. What will you be bringing?

Oh yeah - did we mention that this will also be a swinger's event? What better way to celebrate May than with friends from all backgrounds. This weekend event will be held at a private, secluded, 100 acre, clothing-optional campground just north of Minneapolis. You can just come in for the dances on Friday and/or Saturday night, or you can camp all weekend long. This event is whatever you make it to be. Details and location will be sent to you via email after you've reserved your space.

This event is as little as $17.50 per person if coming as a couple (add $5 after Wednesday, April 29, 2009).

For more details and to register visit AttractionUSA.com or call 320-245-6803 to register over the phone.

Swinger's House Party

2009-03-09T01:44:00.000-07:00

Free Swinger's House Party, Saturday, March 14, 2009

we host many parties
let meet for fun
we are outgoing and enjoy others
OK we are hosting a house party on March 14th
Fondue and box game night .. Nut and Bolt game if we get enough will Partisapents
Its a No pressure No means No party
We have a hot tub and room for 3 couples to spend the night
We will have fondue pots and towels and ice and bedding
YOU BRING YOUR OWN MEAT , dish or snack
Please bring you own toys, booze and personal items
please bring an ice breaker game if YOU have one
there are couple areas to play at our place
please RSVP because we are not posting this party and are only inviting a few couples

hope to have 5 to 10 couples join us with a couple to spend the night
there our hotels near if you want to stay there

we are hoping the night turns from mild to wild
party starts at 6pm March 14th and goes tell we cant go any more

if you want to stay at our home please let us know

if you would like to come early on saturday you welcome we
will be doing last minute things to get ready for the party are welcome just let us know .

For details, visit FriendshipExpress.com.

About Swingers and Swing Lifestyles

2009-02-28T16:39:00.000-08:00

There are many myths and misconceptions around swing lifestyles (or simply "swinging"). Just what is swinging about and who are the so so-called swingers?

Swinging can be defined as the act of sharing yourself and your spouse with another couple, or other couples, with the full knowledge of all involved. It is the participants of this lifestyle who are referred to as swingers.

There quite a few myths and misconception about swinging and swingers. One common misconception is that swinging is the definition of swinging as "wife swapping." This definition is inaccurate in that it does not explain to explain the full range of sexual activities that swinging encompasses. It also gives the impression of a male-favored activity, which too is inaccurate as swinging involves full participation of both partners.

Another common misconception is that swingers are older couples who are bordering on being perverted. The swing lifestyle is composed of people of all ages, including ordinary next-door types who exemplify marital happiness.

In fact, one of the requirements for people seeking to join a swinger's group or party is that the couple must be reasonably happy in their marriage. The reason for this is that swinging should not be used as an escape from or alternative to an unhappy relationship.

Most people find it inconceivable that one would allow his/her partner to have casual sex with another person, stranger or not. But to swingers, this is an acceptable form of social recreation.

Swing lifestyles and activities are as broad and varied as are swingers. They include:

1. Soft swinging: Also known as soft swap, this is doing everything with another person except sexual intercourse. Usually they will stop at the last minute and switch back to their original partner. At this point they might choose to have sex with their own partner in front of the other people. Most first-time swingers begin this way.

2. Open swinging: This is when the couples swap (know as full swap) and actually have sexual intercourse in the same room or on the same bed. This includes threesomes, orgies, exhibitionism, voyeurism and anything in between.

3. Closed swinging: Usually a full swap, but sexual intercourse takes place in separate rooms. This is for those who feel the need for more freedom or don't like interruptions. This type of swing is mainly practiced by the more experienced couples, as a higher degree of trust is essential.

Why do they do it? Why would anyone want to be a swinger? Well, the reasons are as varied as the couples themselves.

One reason is the need to explore sexual fantasies without having to "cheat" on one's partner. Maybe they just want variety in their sex lives, or good old fun. The couple may have married too young and never had a chance to "sow their wild oats." And so on.

Does this mean that the couples never feel any jealousy? This is the biggest hurdle to overcome, especially in the beginning. Not all couples go through with it. A number of those who stick with it say that jealousy actually makes them even more sexually charged up, as well as creates deeper interest in their mates.

Some swingers claim that it is the actual giving or "letting go" in order to make the partner happy that is the essence of this lifestyle.

Obviously, not all couples can be swingers (this writer is not one) and this article is not about asking you to become one. As with anything else, swing lifestyles do carry certain liabilities and risks, which are subject of another article.

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Single Men Are Not Swingers

2009-02-21T22:50:00.000-08:00

Soap Box - Single Men Are Not Swingers
Toni and Glen

Hi Guys, I just stumbled across your site by accident but what a surprise. We are "Internet Veterans" and have been around these boards since 1996. I've never seen one as comprehensive covering so many areas of the lifestyle. I'm sure you have been commended many times, please add one more to the list!.

I read each article from top to bottom and went away knowing a little more than I did before I got here, that's not the norm with most of these sites. I do have one comment I wanted to make only because you seem to have a sincere and committed interest in the lifestyle and I think you can appreciate all views, weather you agree or not.

I agreed with 95% of everything you say, and that's a pretty good percentage considering the volume of information. I had a problem with the "single male" aspect, may it's a regional thing but here in Florida the large majority of couples do NOT entertain single men. We have had two local "lifestyle clubs" (You are right "Fuck Clubs" is not a word we need to be using) close their doors on Friday nights, Why? On Friday's single men were admitted, on Saturdays they were forbidden. They closed due to lack of business, and the only reason there was no business was directly attributed to single men. (This fact is openly discussed on Saturday's when the places are a mob scene.)

My personal feelings are this; I don't recognize single men as "swingers" (Like they care what I recognize LOL) In many of your articles you discussed the many facets of the lifestyle that go far beyond the sexual aspect, and much of it was all based around a "couple relationship" the sharing and communication between TWO individuals. I could not agree more. In my "humble" opinion a single man in the lifestyle is not a swinger, he just a single man that is horny, and although I'm not a physiologist, nor do I play one on TV, I think these are men who can't deal with women on a full time, adult level. So they spend their lives in pursuit of a quick two hour affair. I can't recall how many ads/profiles I've read where a single male is looking for a female partner we can swing with, and whine how hard they are to find? I would think they would want to find a partner period, and if somewhere down the road the relationship gravitated to swinging fine. With these men sex is their primary focus, not a relationship. I know there are exceptions to every rule, but my from what I've seen personally what I've described is the rule, not the exception.
You brought out some great points about the lifestyle, it's acceptance, and how others might view it based on terminology, as well as other aspects. The only time being in the lifestyle ever makes me feel uncomfortable is when I'm leered at, or approached by a single man and made to feel like a cheap whore. (Not to count the hundreds of offensive e-mail I've received, figuring many of these creeps are just fools out to bother people) I truly feel that single men are the thorn on the lifestyle rose. Hey that's it, I'll put the soapbox back under the bed and again say thanks for the many informative articles.

Rhonda Tampa, Florida

From Toni and Glen
Hello Rhonda,

I agree with you that many couples do not relate to single men as swingers, per se. However many couples do include single men in their activities, and thus help to enhance their relationship.

I do agree with you that many single men are just in it for sex. There is no denying it. But there is room for many single men in this lifestyle for those couples who seek them out. You could consider them more like another "tool" for enjoyment. No different than that of a vibrator, massage oil, and the like. Some couples do use other "equipment" to enhance their relationship, and singles (that includes single females) can be a viable part.
It's not for you, and that's OK.

No one single activity defines our lifestyle. It runs the whole gammut... some people like chocolate, while others like bananas. It's all a matter of taste. To dictate a "specific" definition as to what defines a swinger, and who we should "play" with would limit our freedom, and in the far reaches of time, invite "Talibanism".

Just our two cents...

Toni and Glen

Hi There!!!

As such, I know I'm an anomaly: a male who, while not single, swings singly, with full disclosure to (and permission of) his partner. I have had much fun within the Metro Milwaukee swinging community, because I have always acted within the guidelines you so eloquently express in your "Advice to Single Males".

I must say I disagree with Rhonda. Yes, many single men are NOT swingers. But, a few, like myself, am. I focus on friendships FIRST. Am I a horny devil? YES! But I need friends, too, and far better to make friends with folks who understand what libido is. :) If nothing sexual happens, you've still made a friend, and that's far more valuable than anything else.
Best of luck, love and lust to you both!

AldousPolyamorous Hedonist,Madison, WI

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A Swingers Community In Splinters

2009-01-31T20:09:00.000-08:00

The Lifestyle
A Community In Splinters?
By Shelly and Dan of Alternative Travel

Since returning a few weeks ago from Conclave, a swinger's convention in Chicago, we have had time to evaluate the information we shared at the club owner’s meetings and keynote address. We would like to share what we felt was the general consensus among attendees.

The club owner’s meeting addressed some issues that have come up regarding the right’s of loving couples to assemble in Pennsylvania. A bill currently before the Pennsylvania state legislature is causing shudders throughout the lifestyle It call for the closure of all couples clubs whose purpose is to promote or meet for sex. This is putting it simply without the legal wording contained within the bill. Those who have the most to fear are the on-premise clubs. The opinion was that it may well be passed and then fought over the courts. Once a bill is passed it will end up in an ongoing battle for years. The court may also render a decision that other states may follow, using the Pennsylvania bill as a landmark for other cases.

On the other side of the room, a call was put forth that we need to clean up our act and take the emphasis of the lifestyle off sex. We must eliminate focusing our information on sexual activity alone. Instead, we need to promote our social activities. We all know why we go to clubs and what our expectations are. Do we really need to broadcast our intent to the community at large? I think not.

Toni and Glen of Club H, the keynote speakers, said what we have felt for years. They said that this lifestyle needs to clean up its act and present a positive image. The lifestyle has a responsibility to avoid negative press and to focus attention away from our sexual activities, much like the gay and lesbian community did many years ago. They received a standing ovation from 300 couples and mutual agree among most of the participants.

The lifestyle community needs to realize that we are under assault from political and religious groups. We make ourselves very easy targets. Most of us are unwilling to fight for the right to assemble, and our foes know it! If you think this is idle speculation, you’re wrong! It is real and our clubs are definite targets. First on their his list are the on-premise swing clubs, which are considered to be the bath houses of our lifestyle. There are enough community standards being violated and it’s easy to use local laws to close and prosecute. Any anyone on the club premises who’s even partially disrobed goes along for a ride in the paddy wagon. Sure, we can fight it after the fact and probably win! That is if you have enough money and lawyers. And, after you’re booked, identified, fingerprinted and written up in your local paper, complete with mug shots. Scary? You bet it is!

Off premise (dance/social) clubs need to protect themselves as well. Keep your patrons dressed! There plenty of time to party after the ball. Don’t provide them ammunition by loading the pistol yourself. Use common sense, and of course your “big” head to think with not your “little” one! Some clubs will tell you anything they think you want to hear. Take it with a grain of salt because it’s your ass that’s on the line.

Most club owners at the Conclave meeting were very much in favor of presenting a positive image while some seemed like they could care less. They wanted nothing to disrupt their operations. The sad part for those who do not take it seriously is that they are putting others in jeopardy. They may, in due time, not have an operation, nor the dollars to defend themselves in a court of law. For some of you this might seem scare or extreme, and in a way it is. Remember... if you are not in violation of any laws, community standing, not attracting unwanted negative attention, you have less to be concerned about.

Look around at the changes going on. There are a lot of positive things taking place that will benefit all of us in the long run. Many clubs are changing attitudes and their focus. Clubs are organizing together to fight the oppression that’s being threatened. We take these groups very serious and are preparing to fight them with our own resources. We don’t have big war chests that they have, but we’ve mounted campaigns though donations to selective civil liberties groups. If we continue to operate as a splintered and divided community, we make ourselves easy targets and sitting ducks. There’s no need to be divided. That is what the other side wants us to do. Let’s not do it to ourselves.

Winter Meltdown Swinger's Dance, Saturday, January 17, 2009

2009-01-08T07:20:00.000-08:00

Who: You're invited
What: Winter Meltdown Stay and Play Party
Where: Minneapolis Gateway Hotel north of downtown Minneapolis
When: Saturday, January 17, 2009, 7pm to 1am
Cost: Only $15 per member*/$25* for non member
Includes: Food and Fun People

It may be cold outside, but MPC has an All Clubs Party so hot, you will forget about the snow until the next morning! This terrific dance is held in a beautiful hotel which will allow you to party the night away and not have to drive at all until the next day. This fabulous party includes sumptuous hors d’oeuvres served until gone, and many fun like-minded people. You’ll be able to meet swingers from all over the Midwest; we are also expecting attendees from several other states. Meet other party people, dance, flirt and have a great time. Because it’s held in a hotel, if you meet someone of interest, you can take it to the next level. Whatever you’re comfortable with, even going back to your hotel room as often as you like, by yourself or with a new found friend or friends.

This event will start at 7pm with swinger's orientation for new attendees. At orientation, we will give you information on the lifestyle and the dance. This will be followed at 8pm with hors d’oeuvres served until gone. The dance music will start at 9pm and will go until 1am in the morning. Since your rooms and the party are at the same place, you can imagine the fun after parties that will happen! So, register today, and tell all your friends to come join you.

For more details and to register for this party, please visit WinterMeltDownParty.com or call 320-245-6803. Just adding your list to the list of attendees is not registering, you must go to the link above or register over the phone.

*Add $5 after midnight, Wednesday, January 14, 2009. If you're a paying member of FE, then you're a member.

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Swinger's New Year's Eve Gala Affair

2008-12-16T21:11:00.000-08:00

If you are a swingers living in Minnesota, Wisconsin, Iowa or even Lower Ontario, come check out the hottest New Year’s Eve Party around, Wednesday, December 31, 2008, 7pm to 1am. We expect sensual revelers from all over to be in attendance. For more details about grand event, visit http://GalaAffair.com .

Britain on top in casual sex league

2008-12-11T19:49:00.001-08:00

According to an article in a local British newspaper, "BRITISH men and women are now the most promiscuous of any big western industrial nation, researchers have found."

It would have been interesting to find out how many of them actually have multiple partners at the same time and would consider themselves swingers.

Nevertheless the paper went on to report that British men maybe more promiscuous than men.

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Get your girlfriend into swinging

2008-12-04T10:58:00.000-08:00

I just came across this book that tells you how to get your girlfriend into swinging. It probably could work for you wife also if you're interested in the swingers lifestyle. To read more, please click here.

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Iowa fans busted having sex

2008-11-26T03:42:00.000-08:00

According to several newspaper articles, Iowa fans attending a game at the Metrodome in Minneapolis recently were busted having sex in the bathroom. To read more about the story, click here.

What's going on in Cap d'aAge?

2008-11-26T03:19:00.000-08:00

According to news reports, swingers clubs in the infamous nudist colony of Cap d'Adge may be at odds with traditional naturists. It's purported that there is an investigation started by French investigators about arson in the once peaceful, nudist colony.

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Free Sunday Social Party in Hinckley, Sunday, November 30, 2008

2008-11-17T21:32:00.000-08:00

That’s right; it’s that time again for the Sunday Social, Sunday, November 30, 2008, 8pm to Midnight at a local bar in Hinckley. This is a fun time to join us to sing Karaoke, laugh, and meet great people (also they have food available). There is absolutely no charge to attend this gathering if you are a member of AttractionUSA.com or FriendshipExpress.com. Just go to FriendshipExpress.com add your name to the list of people attending, show up, look for us and let the party begin.

Hotels in the area are the Grand Casino Hinckley Hotel, Grand Hinckley Inn and the Grand Northern Inn. All of these hotels are within one block to a mile from this local bar and they will shuttle you to the Lounge. The number to make reservations with Grand Casino is 800-468-3517.

If you have any questions, please drop us a note, if not, we’ll see you there!

Swingers Passion Valentine Fantasy Party, Saturday, February 14, 2009

2008-11-11T20:04:00.001-08:00

Even though this is a Valentine's Passion Party, you can wear whatever color that turns you on; many ladies like to wear Red, then that's fine with us. The mixture of Pink, Red, Black and White Outfits will add elegance and class to the evening.

We'll start the night out with Orientation for new attendees at 7pm followed by a sumptuous hors d'oeuvres and social at 8pm and then the dance from 9pm to 1am. Because this event is for couples and ladies only, we'll have an after hours Valentine's PJ/Lingerie Party from 1am to 5am (or until the last person leaves). So wear that cute Valentine's teddy, nightie, lingerie or pajama and let the evening happen.

This fantastic event will be held a lovely hotel in just north of downtown Minneapolis. Rooms are available at a reasonable rate of only $80 per night, so there is no need to worry about driving back home; you may get comfortable and have a fun night with long time friends and lots of new one.

For more details and to register, visit PinkPassionParty.com.

Swingers visit Hedonism II in Jamaica, March 2009

2008-11-04T04:28:00.000-08:00

Xtimacy 2009, where ecstasy and intimacy come together, is the place to be this March! Are you looking for a fun week with red, hot hedonists just like yourself? Or, are you looking for a week where you can walk around, tan, and lay around nude ALL week? Are you looking for a sensual island where you can meet many fun, real players? Or, are you looking for a week of vacation where you can eat, drink, snorkel, scuba dive, without paying any additional fee?, Or are you simply looking to be "Wild and Wicked" time? If your answer is yes to any of the above, then Hedonism II is for you.

Come join your friends from FriendshipExpress.com, Northhaven Campground, SwingLifestyle.com, SDC.com, SexySwingClubs.com, DJ Island, Club H, MPC, Bi Ladies Club, Two Creeks Campground and other lifestyle venues at Xtimacy 2009 - A Ms No Swimsuit event - for a Wild and Wicked Week .

Everyone who comes to this event will be a judge and get to vote for Ms. No Swim Suit Worldwide. That's right, you'll have the opportunity to mingle with some of the lifestyle's hottest ladies from all across America as they compete in this pageant, nude and baring all. These women are in the lifestyle and enjoy flirting with the judges (that's you), so that they can get your vote and be crowned Ms. No Swim Suit Worldwide.

Spend 7 nights and 8 days with other fun loving people, baring it all on the nude beach, lounging in the huge outdoor Jacuzzi, romping/playing at their Outrageous Torrid Toga Party, participating in group games, activities, trips, parties, swingers activities and more. This will be the vacation you will need a vacation from!!! Plan your vacation Today!!

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Judge issues injunction against so called Super Bowl of Swingers Party

2008-10-31T21:00:00.000-07:00

A Superior court just has canceled the controversial Flesh and Fantasy Halloween Ball, billed on the Internet as the super bowl of swingers' parties.

County officials scrambled into court this morning successfully arguing for a temporary restraining order against tonight's bash saying last year's party entailed a host of illegal activities, naked women and a traffic nightmare.

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Cherry Pit Trial in Texas

2008-10-29T08:30:00.000-07:00

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Jurors have found a Duncanville man accused of operating an unlicensed sexually oriented business from his home guilty on all 10 counts.

It's been fascinating following this story on this so called swingers club in Texas.

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Swingers in Egypt?

2008-10-28T14:11:00.000-07:00

Swinger's New Year's Eve Party in Minnesota

Egyptian police have arrested a senior civil servant and his wife accusing them of swapping sex partners with other couples, local media reports say.

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Wife swapping in Italy

2008-08-06T10:30:00.000-07:00

Think twice before you accept a dinner invitation from a loving Italian couple when holidaying in Italy, for along with dinner you might be served an offer to swap your partners.

From what is being reported by La Stampa newspaper in Italy, a quarter of all Italian couples regularly take part in wife swapping.

According to their article titled, 'The Lunch Time Swingers', almost 500,000 Italian couples are officially swapping partners at private sex clubs, and thousands more doing it in a more ad-hoc fashion in car parks, specially designated beaches or even cemeteries.

The report said that wife swapping had increased at a dizzying rate everywhere, and a major reason behind this predilection can be attributed to the internet which has apparently stripped away the taboos.

To read more, visit here.

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Two First Timers (And Lifestyle Virgins!) Visit To Two Creeks

2008-07-09T13:11:00.001-07:00

As we took the Sandstone exit for our first visit to Two Creeks, we were both excited and nervous. The 18 miles out into the country seemed to last forever; the fireflies dancing before our headlights competing with the butterflies in our stomachs.

Brand new to The Lifestyle, we were attracted to Two Creeks by the fun, lively events advertised. This weekend was to be no different - described as “Trailer Trash” and our ‘new’ vintage camper seemed to fit the bill.

On arriving, we met Toni and Glen and were warmly directed to our campsite. Glen patiently helped us back into our home for the weekend, though the Friday night dance was already underway and undoubtably required his time.

With a fire circle, ice, wood, electricity and water close by, we were soon settled in. Did we have the courage to leave the safety of our camper and venture out to the Bare’s Den? What should I wear? What should we do? Were we too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too poor, too...? Catchy dance music lured us - I grabbed a bunch of glow bracelets and laser lights for ice breakers - and we made our way to the soft lights of the pavilion.

Within minutes some of the friendliest people we had every met came up to warmly, but not pushily, greet us. Everyone had a laugh with the glow jewelry, and my partner and I danced together more than we had in ages.

The next day, we toured the grounds, met more great people, and decorated our campsite for the “Trashiest Lot” contest. We potlucked our kabobs with other campers, finding that food not only tastes better outdoors, but when shared with new friends.

Always enjoying a chance to be silly and wear a costume, we had a blast at the next night’s dance and karaoke. The getups were hilarious, and even more was the witty, tongue-in-cheek attitude of all involved. (Or maybe tongue in... Oh, never mind!)

Prizes were awarded, with some taking home the coveted Marker-On-Wood-Plank awards. After the party ended, we invited folks to our campsite for an acoustic singalong, the familiar tunes rising up towards a sky peppered with stars. What a perfect end to a weekend!

But we were in for one more surprise - people did not pack up and leave on Sunday morning, but stayed on, drinking coffee or libations, setting up a chaise lounge “Nude Roadblock”, and regaling each other with funny stories from the night before.

As at other events during the weekend, lots of the women were taking full advantage of the soft summer sun with their tops off. While both my partner and I had much enjoyed this beautiful sight, did I have the courage to do it too? Before I could talk myself out of it, I pulled off my tank top, laying it close by in case of some imaginary emergency.

Before we left, we had arranged to leave our camper at Two Creeks for the entire summer, and many of our new friends were kind enough to “Welcome Us Home”. On later visits, we have been privileged to meet other first timers, and try to extend to them same “Two Creeks Welcome” that we enjoyed.

Now, the 18 miles from Sandstone still seem long, but only from anticipation of the wonderful times ahead, right down the road. And - I’m not sure if I ever did find that tank top again!

by TrailerTrash nickname on FriendshipExpress.com

Swingers have rights too...

2008-06-30T18:57:00.000-07:00

Come join us at a Swinger's All Club Bike Weekend Party, August 15 - 17, 2008

Swingers have rights, too
RICHARD POLLARA

June 30, 2008

Toronto -- I woke up last week to find our club Menage a Quatre (an on-premise swingers club) in the middle of a media firestorm. Toronto councillor Mark Grimes had convinced city council to pass a resolution requiring city staff to look for ways to shut us down. Never mind that the licences we hold were legally obtained; never mind that our club is so discreetly located that, unless you know the exact location, you wouldn't know the club existed.

To read more about this article, click here.

Suspected swing club in Florida under scrutiny

2008-04-24T09:09:00.000-07:00

The Hunt Club, a reported swinger’s club in Melbourne, FL is under scrutiny by the local authority. According to reports by a local news media, the Hunt Club operates out of Melbourne’s Oak Grove Acres subdivision. Many of the neighbors have voiced opposition to such activities.

Obama’s Success Linked to Swinger’s Club

2008-04-10T17:53:00.000-07:00

Obama’s Success Linked to Swinger’s Club

by BOB HANNAFORD of TESSNBOB

Author's Note: We would never publicly identify anyone that has ever attended any of our events, but the information in the following article was already made very public.

It's funny how things affect other things. Sometimes a simple occurrence can influence a bigger occurrence. Then that influences an even bigger occurrence... and so on and so forth until the effect is huge. This is what happened when one particular couple decided to check out our swinger club. Who would have known at the time the set of events that this visit would start in motion... events which may very well ultimately be felt around the world.

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Orlando Swinger Party Upsets Soccer Parents

2008-04-10T17:32:00.000-07:00

Some teenage soccer players and their parents saw more sights than they wanted when they stayed at a hotel where about 200 swingers were having a New Year's party.

Paul Camporini brought his wife, seventh-grade daughter and eighth-grade son from Safety Harbor and said he had to "delicately explain to my Catholic school children that swingers change partners during the evening."

"My biggest gripe is that the hotel had two distinctly different groups under the same roof," said Camporini, 49. "A soccer team and middle-aged swingers should not have been booked together."

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72 Year host of swingers party plead guilty

2008-03-11T21:36:00.000-07:00

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PORTSMOUTH — A 72-year-old man who was warned by the city to cease hosting his long-running "swingers" parties pleaded guilty Tuesday to assaulting a tenant of his Cutts Street triplex.

This senior citizen pleaded guilty to a misdemeanor count of simple assault, admitting that on Jan. 12, 2007, he hit one of his tenants during a dispute sparked by media attention to the property due to the bi-weekly sex parties.

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Six people arrested at swingers party in Wichita

2008-03-10T22:52:00.000-07:00

Five women and one man were arrested for performing sex acts just after midnight Sunday at a west Wichita club. Click to read more.

Frequently asked swinger's questions

2008-03-05T11:46:00.000-08:00

Question: What sort of people are Swingers?

Answer: Swingers are interested in sexual adventure. Since the desire for sexual gratification is inherent to the human race, Swingers come from all walks of life, in all shapes and forms. She may be that attractive blond on the beach, or he may be your doctor, or they may be the couple next door.

Question: How do I approach my partner about Swinging?

Answer: There are two ways to go. The first is frank discussion - if your partner is able to verbalize his or her sexual desires, then talking and finding out the facts together may lead you to the decision that is best for your overall happiness. If it is difficult to find out exactly what your partner thinks, a less subtle approach may be better. Try exposing your partner to the idea of Swinging through verbal fantisizing during lovemaking, viewing pornographic movies and magazines that portray multiples, becoming platonic friends with Swingers, etc. By contacting local Swingers Clubs, you will be able to find out about discos and hotel lounges that are meeting places for couples interested in Swinging. A visit for dinner and drinks may lead to contacts and discussions that may spark your partner's interest in a new form of sexual adventure!

Question: I think I am interested in a Swinging experience, but am not 100% sure. This makes me a little uncomfortable, what should I do?

Answer: Research the topic more in depth. Once all the facts are in front of you, the decision will be a little easier. Like anything else in life, the first time may be a little uncomfortable because you have not participated in the activity before and do not know what to do. This is perfectly normal. Contact a local Swingers Club and explain your interests. You will more than likely be speaking with someone who knows exactly where you are coming from because he (she) was in your position at one time. They should be able to offer advice, contacts to speak with or meet, and places where you can go to socialize with Swingers on a platonic basis. This should give you exposure to the Swing Scene without any sexual involvement on your part.

Question: I want to be very discreet in my activities. What are the different ways to make contacts with other individuals / couples interested in Swinging?

Answer: Established Swingers Clubs are very professional and discreet in their conduct. Otherwise, they would not exist for more than a week. Other alternatives are Swinger publications and contact magazines / newsletters, computer bulletin board services for Swingers, Introduction Services, conventions and special events, travel agencies and resorts that cater to the sexually adventurous, and telephone contact organizations that offer voice mail advertisement and responses as well as chat lines.

Question: How can I maintain my privacy while corresponding with other Swingers?

Answer: You should be able to maintain a P.O. Box at a local post office for a nominal fee. In this way, you can remain anonymous at your leisure. Swinging activities can take place at third party locations: Swingers Clubs, hotels, resorts, private homes, etc., attend a swinger's event such as SwingStock or join an online site such as FriendshipExpress.com.

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Sex Swingers As Seen By Naomi Harris

2008-02-25T09:27:00.000-08:00

Sex Swingers As Seen By Naomi Harris

Most Europeans see the United States under the ultra-conservative administration of George W. Bush as a prudish country, where millions of citizens are outraged by a fleeting glimpse of singer Janet Jackson’s nipple during a live TV broadcast, where there is an ongoing struggle to ban the teaching of Darwin’s theory of evolution in schools, where exhibitions featuring provocative works are censored, and where a growing number of young people voluntarily maintain sexual abstinence before marriage. However, there exists a different United States – a country of a flourishing pornographic industry, a United States of sex clubs behind whose doors the wildest erotic dreams are made reality, a United States of millions of swingers, people who swap sexual partners and voluntarily have sex in front of an audience at a variety of parties and camps.

It is this part of America that the thirty-four year old Canadian photographer Naomi Harris depicts in her cycle Swingers, which is to be brought out in book form in 2008 by the renowned Cologne publishers Taschen, with a foreword by the famous US artist Richard Prince. In 1997 Naomi Harris, a graduate of art and psychology at York University in Toronto, enrolled in a nine-month course of photojournalism and photographic documentary at the International Center for Photography in New York, and since that time she has lived in America’s largest city, where she makes a living largely from photographic work for a variety of periodicals – her pictures have been published for instance in the New York Times Magazine, Newsweek, People, Sports Illustrated, Out, and Vanity Fair; in 2001 she was short-listed for the Eugene Smith Award. Alongside work on commission she also pursues her own work, mostly portraits and documentary projects. Among the best of those is her cycle Haddon Hall, capturing the inhabitants of a hotel of that name in Miami Beach, who are spending their retirement years under the Florida sun. Her sharply colored images are unflinching in showing the wrinkled skin, thick layers of make-up and affected smiles, and yet the cycle does not come across as sarcastic or mocking, since the artist’s sympathy for these people who do not give in to infirmity and old age, instead wanting to enjoy life to the full, is palpable.During her sojourns in Miami Beach, which she revisited over the course of two and a half years, Harris began taking photographs at the local nudist beech, becoming alive to the fact that even the most banal activities when conducted by people stripped of their clothes often look comical. This she later confirmed in her most extensive cycle so far, Swingers. The exchange of sexual partners and group sex at various swingers parties, swingers conventions, or Miss Swingers USA or Canada, are more widespread than most local citizens suspect – according to the North American Swing Association there are around three million swingers in America. Many of those live neither in Manhattan nor in Hollywood, but in somnolent suburbs, among regular, middle class folk. As Naomi Harris describes them thus – they are your schoolteachers, your doctors, your bank clerks, your cops. They are not perverts or porn stars. You pass them every day in the supermarket, on the highway, in an airport, in the post office line. These very same inconspicuous and ordinary people every now and then leave their kids at home and set out on wild parties and weekend revelries, where they realize their sexual longings with a number of different partners.Looking at these people, often neither young nor attractive, as captured by Naomi Harris in situations evoking scenes from porn films, we may ask how is it possible that the photographer ever gained their consent to be photographed and even have the images published. Though most swingers are possessed with a powerful degree of exhibitionism, many – and in the vast majority the younger ones – in fact refused to be photographed. Sander-like in composition, the portraits of the people in the center of the image staring directly into the camera are reminiscent of the photographs of Diane Arbus, incidentally an artist whom Naomi Harris holds in great respect. The people in front of the camera believe they look attractive and dignified, while in fact they strike the viewer as bizarre, grotesque, and often also desperately lonely. This impression is frequently assisted by their ridiculous costumes, designed to gain attention at theme-oriented parties. Even more absurd, however, are the images of various sexual acts, in which the artist pointedly juxtaposes parallel actions (e.g., a supine woman is being orally aroused, while another woman looks on, cleaning her teeth), or action and environment (sexual revelry in a swimming pool with a floating plastic duck). The people in front of the camera know that it is there, yet they ignore its presence; so great is the trust that Naomi Harris has succeeded to win, and so scant is their sense of shame, overridden by their pride in their sexual prowess and ability to carry out the wildest of fantasies. The visual qualities of Swingers also play an important role, with their imaginative use of color and natural lighting, as well as compelling composition, which often present but a fragment of the dramatic action, leaving wide open space for imagination. Naomi Harris claims that in her photographs she does not want to pass judgment, merely to document this fast growing yet so far little publicly presented phenomenon of contemporary American life, so full of sexual gymnastics, and so devoid of eroticism.

Vladimír Birgus FOTOGRAF 10/2007

Man Sues Swinger Web Site

2008-02-24T13:35:00.000-08:00

St. Mary's County Spouse Sues 'Swinger' Web Site
Posted on: Friday, 8 February 2008, 09:00 CST

By Ben Mook

A St. Mary's County man is seeking $200,000 in damages from the owners of an adult "swingers" Web site and three of its customers over the posting of sexually explicit pictures of his wife.

The lawsuit was filed Friday in U.S. District Court in Greenbelt by Harvey S. Jacobs of Jacobs and Associates in Rockville. Jacobs' client, identified in court papers only as T.M., is seeking damages from the owners of this adult website and three "Doe" users of the site for defamation and false light invasion of privacy.

According to the lawsuit, Jacobs' client lives in St. Mary's County and has been married for 22 years. T.M. recently learned that sexually explicit photos of his wife had been posted to adult Web site adultfriendfinder.com. The lawsuit alleges the photos appear as part of the profiles of three users of the site, identified in the lawsuit by their screen names only.

For more details visit here.

Women and swinging!

2008-02-22T18:32:00.000-08:00

How many of us ladies came up to our partners one day with a copy of a swinger’s magazine and said “honey, doesn’t this look fun? Let’s get into Swinging!!!’ I didn’t think so. As my husband Glen and I have always said over the years... for the most part, it is the man that brings up the issue, but it is the woman who keeps the couple involved. After we go through thinking that we are not loved, not sexual enough or that he is just a dog, we discuss it further.

Why do we go through this? Well to start, women are not brought up to know the beauty of sex! We were blessed with these soft, sensuous, wonderfully sensitive bodies and then told the feelings they give us are bad. We were told not to enjoy them with each other and not even with ourselves (can you smell the fire and brimstone?). We were brought up that sex is only for procreation and/or when our husband comes home drunk or just demands sex. (Of course, not all men are like this, I am using this as an example.) Aren’t you glad you don’t have to live like that?!

Acceptance of ourselves and our bodies is a process of UNLEARNING all the negative gobbledegoop we were taught. We had to learn that sex is not something to be ashamed of and that those wonderful tingling sensations are good and NORMAL. If we find ourselves admiring another man or woman and the vibration starts, don’t worry, we are not possessed by Satan; we are feeling a normal human reaction. Yes, it’s OK to admire that gorgeous guy across the room. In fact, you can talk to him, dance with him and take it as far as you like.

The wonderful thing is that once we have gone though the myriad of changes, we find that we experience a freedom of unparalleled boundaries!!! We no longer see it as our partners not being happy with us, but as a growth experience for both of us. Our partners probably notice a change also. Women who were shy and timid, slowly come out of their shells and become more confident and assured of themselves. Your personal sex lives get even steamier as you talk about the possibilities and later the experiences you have. This Community empowers women!

Of course, we sometimes find that our partners get a little mixed up as we blossom. Usually the men come into swinging with visions of nubile nymphs, all calling his name. The fact is that most men cannot compete with women. Most men can only cum so much and then they have to rest. Whereas, women can be multi-orgasmic! You may be at a party and he is spent and you are still ready to rumble! There he sits, with a limp dick and hurt feelings because you may not be ready to go. Compromise and discuss your partners feelings, because, this is a feeling he probably did not anticipate having. Grow together!! Communicate! Communicate!! Communicate!!!

Ladies, you are the glue that holds this community together! You don’t believe it?! Picture a swinger’s dance, house party, or convention without women.... Now we are not saying this for you to put on a crown and armor, declare yourself Zeena, Queen of the Penis and tell your partner to feed you grapes (unless you both enjoy it, if that’s the case, may we suggest unseeded grapes)! It’s just a fact!!! This is a Queen’s Court. You, as a woman, have the opportunity to live, laugh and UNLEARN all of the negative things we were taught as children.

So ladies… don’t feel as if you were dragged into this community by some bizarre horny toad of a man who is only out for himself. Remember, he was caring enough to mention this to you. Married “single” swingers, if you would only take the time to caringly discuss this issue with your wives, you may not have to sneak out of the house with a lie. We say “may” because nothing is absolute and this lifestyle is not for everyone. But if you communicate with your partner and show her that this is not just for you, but for her also, you could be on your way to a wondrous journey together. No hiding, no shame, no lies, no guilt! Think about it! The truth will give you freedom.

Yes, the man is usually the one who brings up the subject, that is because men are brought up less sexually repressed than women. But it is the woman, who ultimately has the final say. Embrace this power ladies. Do not use it to hurt, use it to enhance. We live in a wonderful world filled with beautiful people. Sex is normal, sex is good. Once you take those small steps to sexual freedom, you will find your partner and you experiencing a journey together that is unparalleled by anything that the “straights” enjoy. The total freedom to enjoy the mutual satisfaction of another person if you so desire. The warmth, the mental stimulation and the red hot passion. It’s all there for us, just waiting for us to conjure the love and understanding that we all have. Breathe it in and enjoy life!!!

I will close with this joke…
At 7pm a husband brings his wife to a swing party, kicking and screaming. At 7am, the next morning, the woman is dragged from the swing party, kicking and screaming!

We welcome your feedback. You can write to us at toniglen@friendshipexpress.com or visit our other blog ToniGlen.com. While you're at it, a good way to meet swingers is to visit http://friendshipexpress.com/ .

What is The Swinging Lifestyle?

2008-02-21T08:46:00.000-08:00

WHAT IS THE SWINGING LIFESTYLE?
By Shirley SezS. & R. Productions

The Swinging Lifestyle is as Multifaceted, as life and people are? It's Basic belief is that EVERYONE, has the right to live, love and enjoy themselves sexually;---providing there is MUTUAL CONSENT between adults. This is the only area, that we all think alike!!! It is from this pointion, we all differ about what the Swinging Lifestyle means to us and on what level, we choose to enjoy it's benefits.

The Swinging Lifestyle has been in existence since time began. Because on it's most basic level, the word "swinging" is only a board term meaning; the sharing of sexual pleasure with a person or persons we are not legally married to!!! In this context; most of the people in the world today, ARE swinging, whether they realize it or not!!!

The word "Swinging" derived from a Minister, who told his congregation, there were weird people who were swinging back and from bed to bed, in thesame manner as Monkeys. He seemed to think the people we spoke about were doing something new, different and weird but he was very wrong!Even in Jesus' time it was the common and acceptable behavior for the wealthy and powerful to have many wives, concubines and slaves for their sexual pleasure!!! Several women rulers availed themselves of their power also, by keeping an Equal number of male slaves and consorts to satisfy their sexual needs and desires too. So, what is being considered as new and weird conduct in our present unenlightened sexually controlled and somewhat puritan thinking work has been considered normal and even acceptable conduct for many people civilization and religions since time began!!!

Most European & Asian countries: Africa, Iran, Egypt, China and Japan, were among those that have lived in this manner for centuries and some still are today! In France, during Queen Marie's time; wild orgies were the norm, until she lost her head for being a Taker instead of a Giver! Just maybe, that was then people started to assume that when you lost you head over sex it was dangerous or wrong!

In the recent past, we had many free thinkers, who were outspoken about their belief in their right to enjoy their sexuality. It is also well known that many of our world leaders -- even those of the religious community have openly or secretly enjoyed their sexuality while trying to deny us the same rights and opportunities.

Old Ben Franklin was known to be a free thinker and nudist, while enjoying his sexuality in a manner we would call swinging. In fact, in today's moral mud slinging climate, this brilliant statesman would not be allowed to hold any Government offices of positions he held. The moral majority today, would've hung him out to dry, just as they did Gary Hart!!! Today, people are only considered worthy of being world leaders if they can almost be considered for sainthood!!! In many cases it's just that they have been sneaky or secretive enough to keep their true natures from being known.

Many of our movie stars are known for the sexual games they play, on and off screen, but most people just laugh and secretly envy them and talk badly about their neighbors if they are acting in a similar manner. It is normal for people to hate, deride, and judge anyone who has claimed their right to enjoy their sexuality in any manner they have chose not to regardless of their own hidden desires!!!

In the last twenty years, some sexual rights were established in the courts of the land, proving the fact, a persons sexuality should be their own business. But in the last five years, many of these same rights have received a battering by the vocal moral majority!!! It's just not our business anymore, what we do in the privacy of our homes and bedrooms. It has become the business of the federal state and local governments organized religions and even your next door neighbor! The swinging lifestyle, as we know it today; has evolved, grown and changed during the last 60 years. My parents were approached, when I was just a baby; to go to small home parties involving wife swapping with many of their neighbors and good friends. Most of them belonged to a very restrictive religion, which considered divorce a sin. so as a way to keep their vow, "Till death do us part" -- they had decided to forget about "cleave unto each other only!!" Daddy naturally thought it was a great idea, but Mom objected and thought she had refused it for both of the, but Daddy claimed all his sexual rights without her.

For many years, the small Home Party situations was the only way people enjoyed swinging and they were restricted to couples only. This was a very much mail-dominated society at that time, so it was definitely considered wife swapping. The attitude was: you can swing with my wife, it I can swing with your's? It's a fact, many people & clubs haven't progressed past this restrictive attitude today! Only for the last few years, have some clubs allowed Female or Male singles.
Organized On & Off Premise Swing Clubs have only come into being during the last 0-20 years, being modeled after Sandstone; an alternative lifestyle community in California The video they produced is still being rented in many local video stores, but this Style setting club today, denies being part of the Swinging Community?!!

Today, on & off premise swing clubs are in most states and countries of the world. The National Association, formed by Club Owners and Swing Magazine Publishers;, host many widely varied functions: Conventions, Camp-outs, Cruises, Tours and Fun Weekends. These give everyone a change to meet, exchange information a large number of subjects, especially any laws or medical concerns, which may affect people's ability and right to enjoy their sexuality and the swinging lifestyle.

When a person attends these functions, they are able to learn that the majority of the participants are definitely not the Dregs of the Universe, as the general public has been led to believe they are? In fact, just the opposite is true!!! The swinging lifestyle is only 10-20% as they've been depicted by the media, while the higher majority of them are highly intelligent, successful, community leaders and almost always the type of person you would love to have for a friend or neighbor. They're the lovers of the universe, showing love, consideration and caring. They only want to be left alone to enjoy their friends, as they each desire!

They believe in their right to enjoy their sexuality, in private, in their own homes or organized swing clubs, plus grant their mates, other people, their sexual rights too. They learn how to show love to themselves and to their friends. They're secure in their personal lives and in their sexuality, so they don't feel the need to try to control anyone else's lives or sexuality. They have a natural outlet for their sexual desires, with consenting adults, so are less likely to inflict them on their own children or any unwilling victims.

Committed couples, who have acknowledged themselves as swingers and have come into the swinging lifestyle, so they may act as each others best friend and continue to have totally truthful relationships, rather than lie to each other and have secret affairs. I personally consider it strange that the people in our world today are more understanding of secret affairs, than they are an alternate lifestyle that advocates, demands and requires total truth!!!

Non-swingers are enjoying their sexuality, just as swingers are except they are lying to their mate's about it and deliberately making their marriages unhappy to justify their actions and soothe their guilt! They haven't learned that truth and honesty enables myou to not suffer emotional and infidelity or guilt!!

Only about 10% of the people enjoying the swinging lifestyle have mentally and emotionally accepted their sexuality enough to be completely open about being involved in it! Some try to keep this fact secret due to the fears about how this knowledge would affect their lives, family relationships and careers. While other's hide the truth because they refuse to admit even to themselves they are swingers. This is why many don't attend organized clubs. They try to tell themselves that as long as they only to go small home parties with friends, they are not really swingers!!!

The couples who have been able to admit, they enjoy the swinging lifestyle, attend the major functions the lifestyle offers. This helps them to grow, learn and get past their fears, while the closet swinger has denied themselves this opportunity due to their fear.

If I could sum up, what the swinging lifestyle really is and isn't, I would have to say that depends totally upon the needs, desired and attitudes of each individual who enters it. If you desire only more and better opportunities for sex that's possible! If you lonely and want good friends too, who will love and car about you while you enjoy going to dinner, dancing, camping and Fishing, that is possible! If you want to meet people from all over the world to visit and visit you, that is possible!!! So just as in every other facet of life, swinging is what you make of it, nothing more, or nothing less.

SHIRLEY SEZ: ... WE ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING NEW OR DIFFERENTWE ARE JUST DOING IT BETTER!!!

Dream Pleasure Tours Teams with "Wild on E!"

2008-02-19T17:20:00.000-08:00

Dream Pleasure Tours Teams With "Wild on E!"

For Ms. No Swim Suit Contest

NEWPORT BEACH, CALIFORNIA, February 19, 2008 - Dream Pleasure Tours announced today that it is partnering with E! Networks and Tom's Tours for the filming of the 2008 Ms. No Swim Suit Contest.

From March 9 to March 15, 2008 the Ms. No Swim Suit contest is being held at the fabulous Hedonism II Resort located at the tip of famous Negril Beach, Jamaica, considered to be one of the world's premier warm water vacation destinations. Twelve dynamic female contestants representing social clubs and travel organizations from around the U.S. vie for the 2008 Ms. No Swim Suit crown.

Unlike conventional pageants in which a panel of stuffy biased judges pick the winner, at the Ms. No Swim Suit Contest everyone vacationing at the resort may cast their ballot for the lady of their choice. Consequently the entire week is filled with activities designed to allow the lovely contestants to win the favor of visitors, including Naughty School Girl Night, the evening Bareware Competition, the Naked Fashion Show, Pajama Night, Mardi Gras Night, Toga Party Night, and the Dance Finale. At this pageant, flirting with the judges is not only accepted, it's encouraged!

Gary Booth, director of communications and club/resort relations for Dream Pleasure Tours, said, "If you've never been to any of the Hedonism resorts-well it's all in the name so expect an experience unlike anything you've ever had. With a location like this, and an event like the Ms. No Swim Suit contest, it was bound to attract media attention. And it did! E! Network's hot show "Wild on E!" will be on location shooting all the action. If you can't get down to the resort for this once a year event, check it out on E!-but remember, put the kids to bed first! When we say 'No Swim Suit' we meant it."

Hedonism II and its group of affiliated resorts, known as SuperClubs®, along with Tom's Tours have been staging the Ms. No Swim Suit Contest since 2000. Hedonism II is an all inclusive up scale resort that caters to those vacationers looking for the ultimate in pleasure. From the moment Hedonism II's gates opened twenty-five years ago, it's been the most widely recognized, and notorious, resort in the world. Words really can't quite describe the thrill of actually being there. It's the ultimate guilty pleasure, only without the guilt. A real life Garden of Eden. Tom's Tours specializes in vacations to adult oriented travel destinations.

About Dream Pleasure Tours

Dream Pleasure Tours is as an event and tour company specializing in tours and events that are designed to entice the senses and stimulate our guest's deepest desires. Our guests are seeking to combine the ambience of luxury with the enchantment of a dreamscape. They throw off the constraints of everyday life and enter a world unlike anything they've ever experienced. Setting passion and sensuality free they leave the labels behind. Dream Pleasure Tours-making fantasy a reality for open minded fun loving people. To find out more about Dream Pleasure Tours, visit us at http://www.dreampleasuretours.com/ or call 888-662-1522.

Snappy Answers: Swingers Sex and Sexy Drinks

2008-02-17T08:59:00.000-08:00

Snappy Answers runs every Saturday afternoon. Send your questions, be they tough or trivial, to snappyanswers@torontoist.com.

At work the other day a co-worker stated he was off to Club Wicked. Can you tell me how they get away with "sex" in that club? I understand he stated it was because it is registered as a "private club" but would like to know more.
I'm sure one of your "roving reporters" would love to take this on!
—SL

Dear SL,
They get away with it, quite simply, because it's legal. In 2005, the Supreme Court ruled that since consensual sex in a private club does no harm to Canadian society, it should not be considered criminal. (Your wife, however, may feel differently.)

If you'd like to know more about the actual "sex" in this "private club" (which, incidentally, is Ontario's only on-premise swingers establishment), we suggest you do your own "roving." If you're a single guy, you'll have to bring a female date—preferably not a first date, as that might end in a very early goodnight slap.

Swinger's News Headlines

2008-02-15T07:00:00.000-08:00

Swingers converging on Niagara Falls (click here for more details)

cnews.canoe.ca — Sexyboots, as she prefers to be called, admits she will be committing adultery in Niagara Falls this weekend.

An interview with swinger (read more)

How long have you been swingers? GIRL: Well, it was really early, actually. GUY: Yeah, I don't think we were dating more than three months before we had a threesome. And even then, it wasn't awkward. We brought up the idea kind of as a ...

Fire Marshal Calls Alleged Lenoir Swingers Club A Death TrapWSOCtv.com (read more) -

Charlotte,NC,USALENOIR, NC -- A suspected swingers club in Lenoir may be shut down for some time after the building that houses it failed a fire inspection on 24 violations ...

Swingers are regular people too

2008-02-10T19:22:00.000-08:00

By MATTHEW TIMMERMAN
2/10/2008 -

To each their own, that’s what I was taught by my elders when growing up. When others begin to attempt to take away your own right to express yourself, that’s when you take up arms.

Where would our country be if our neighbors tried to keep tabs about what we did and how we did it? By now if you don’t know what I’m writing about, you haven’t been keeping up with the latest in local news.

All too often lately when I open up my morning paper, I’m bombarded with news about “The Badd Kitty Club” and the “crusade” to remove the “filth” from the town of Sheridan, where I personally was raised all my life. I couldn’t help but notice the neighbor’s claims such as fearing for the safety of her child around “those people” and her property value going down. I’d personally like to ask a few questions about these claims and make a few things publicly known.

First of all, I’d like to let it be known that I am not a swinger by any means, but I do support the right to their own lifestyle just as anyone else. Now to the neighbor, if I may address your concerns: You say you’re worried about your child’s safety with “those people” around. I do believe you compared the swinger lifestyle to pedophiles, which I find to be a disturbing, disgusting and a plain ignorant statement. If you’re worried about your child being abducted and exploited in the club, last I knew, capable parents shouldn’t let their children outside to play at 9 or 10 o’clock a night, when the Badd Kitty Club’s parties start for the most part. Next, about your property values dropping because of a club next to your house, let me ask, what would you do if it were a different alternative lifestyle club next door to you such as a lesbian club? Well, you probably wouldn’t have to worry about your son being abducted and sexually abused. Would you campaign against them and say you don’t want “those people” next door to your house? Are you really so closed-minded that you brand anything you don’t agree with “smut” and “disgusting?”

Swingers have been around for longer than you probably assume. Just because the club caters to swingers, doesn’t mean it’s any different than Mr. And Mrs. John and Jane Doe, the 40-year-old couple down the street who throw swingers parties without your knowledge.

As for the signs on your front yard, I noticed that you have erected a new sign and placed it on a tree.

You’re worried about “the club” taking your property value down the tubes, yet you have poorly made signs, basically taking cheap shots at nice, undeserving people who do something you just so happen not to agree with. How ironic is that? I personally think you need to take a good long look at what you’re doing and wonder “why am I doing this.” Are you doing it for your personal fame or are you doing it to give the club even more free publicity? A crusade? I call it defamation, slander and all around mudslinging.

Remember, I’m not telling you anything you already didn’t know.

Matthew Timmerman is a Sheridan resident.

Christian Sexual Conflicts Traditional Christianityvs. "The Faith Of Christ"

2008-02-06T14:20:00.000-08:00

Christian Sexual Conflicts Traditional Christianityvs. "The Faith Of Christ"
By Bill

"Sex is dirty." - "Sex is wonderful."
"Sex is for marriage only."
"Children aren't sexual."
"Sexual thoughts and fantasies are sinful."
"Sex is an expression of love."
"Sex has nothing to do with 'Christian' love."

The above statements represent some of the many conflicting views about sexualitywith which most of us were raised.

You will recognize that the negative statements are the kind that are used by religionand society to control the sexual lives and attitudes of people. In other words,those who have power over others use such ideas to conform others to some moralstandard that is thought to be absolute. Traditional Christianity has used justsuch ideas for just such purposes.

Christ and the apostles taught that all power structures were to be challenged,not in the sense of political or social anarchy, but in the abolition of the controlof one person over another or any institution over groups of people in the senseof restricting God-given liberties. In these teachings there was an appeal fortransparency in human relationships. This transparency, which really implies bothvulnerability and trust, was to reveal itself in the common bonds of family andsocial relationships.

Jesus challenged both family and social relationship structures, suggesting thatfollowing him would break down traditional allegiances and create new ones.

Today we are seeing the serious breakdown of monogamous marriage and the traditionalnuclear family of European and North American cultures.

For the most part marriage and family practices and structures are the product ofculture, rather than of specific biblical teachings.

In other writings Dave and I have challenged the Christian tradition of monogamy. The breakdown I mentioned above suggests that the time has come for Christiansto seriously reconsider the entire range of marital and sexual teachings that havebeen handed down to us in traditional Christianity. It is time to realize, forexample, that monogamy has never really worked as an exclusive marital/sexual option(we've discussed reasons for this elsewhere) and to seek new structures and bondsthat will better express the vitality and creativity of sexual loving.

Monogamy and a host of other sexual restrictions are the products of a sexuallyrepressive Christianity.

How has this history of sexual repression come about? Various reasons, includingthe body/pleasure-negative traditions of some of the Greek thinkers of the timeof early Christianity, have contributed to this history. In addition, there hasbeen a tendency of Christians to turn the liberating teachings of Christ and theapostles into rules to obey and to be enforced by religious authorities (more powerstructure). The nature of these rules has also tended to reflect small errors ofinterpretation, misplaced emphasis or overemphasis on a particular teaching or aparticular aspect of a teaching and translation or interpretational errors stemmingfrom a moral bias (for example, the tendency to apply the term "porneia",usually translated "fornication" or "sexual immorality" in olderEnglish Bible versions, to every case of sexual intercourse outside of monogamousmarriage; the misinterpretation of the story of Adam and Eve as supporting monogamyand as teaching that nakedness is sinful; interpreting the biblical concepts ofpurity and holiness primarily as calling for abstinence from sexual "contamination").

With the passage of time these small errors and their resulting moralisms have continuallyincreased to the point that the fundamental teachings of Christ have often beenforgotten (for example, loving one another) and the minute and burdensome rulesof Christianity have won the day (for example, the extension of the idea of "fornication"to any kind of premarital sexual contact, from heavy petting to holding hands --really, this is actually frowned upon by some Christians; the sometimes organizedChristian opposition to social nudism --trying to close down nude beaches, etc.).

It is my contention that the general repression of sexuality and the repressionof nonmonogamous loving is not inherent in the Bible, nor was it the intention ofJesus and the apostles to be understood as teaching these views. Yet, it is truethat these ideas are part and parcel of the baggage of traditional Christianity,which has emphasized them to the neglect of love and liberty.

The French writer Jacques Ellul makes a helpful distinction between what he calls"Christianity" and "the faith of Christ". True Christianity(the faith of Christ) he defines as "the revelation and work of God accomplishedin Jesus Christ"; "the being of the church as the body of Christ"(as opposed to the church as religious institution); and "the faith and lifeof Christians in truth and love".

Christianity as tradition he describes as a movement which has virtually abandonedits commitment to the above principles and has degenerated into a moralistic religion,devoid of true love for God and neighbor and obsessed with enforcing a moral codedemanding "chastity, absolute obedience... (and) sacrifice". (The Subversionof Christianity, pp. 11, 17)

It is this perverted version of Christianity which imprisons people in guilt andshame about their bodies and their God-given sexual desires. (This is not to saythat there is no such thing as sexual sin or that we are given license to do anythingwe please at anytime and with anyone in terms of fulfilling sexual desires. Itis to say that Christian love, properly understood, will both live freely in termsof sexual loving and at the same time respect all persons in their relationships,so that fulfillment is accomplished without harming others.) This is not the Christianityof the Bible, that is, the Christianity that Ellul calls "the faith of Christ".

The purpose of Jesus in his life and death was to enable us to fulfill the demandsof the law of God, not by sacrifice and legalistic obedience, but by loving Godand loving our neighbor.

I believe that it is in the intimacy of sexual relationships where this kind oflove can be expressed in a very full way. One of the greatest deformities of trueChristian faith is the collection of teachings that seeks in every way possibleto remove godly love from the sexual experience.

Contrary to this is the simple, yet beautiful, statement of a Christians brotherwho is involved with his family in a sexually loving community in another state:"We believe that sharing sexual pleasure with one another is an extension ofthe love of almighty God."

Obviously, such sharing presents the problem or vulnerability -- the challenge ofopening ourselves to others. Many people are afraid of such openness. I believethat it is only within a loving, caring community, manifesting the kind of lovethat Jesus taught, that sufficient trust can be created to make truly "open"relationships possible.

In a recent newsletter Dave wrote extensively about nudity and that subject wasalso discussed at our first introductory couples' session. It was clear from theresponse at the session that several people were fearful of experiencing nuditywith others. There may be various reasons for such fears, including past religiousand parental teachings and attitudes. These may need to be worked through. ButI believe that the primary issue with nudity is the same as that for sexual openness--vulnerability.

Overcoming this problem in a loving fellowship setting can change a person's lifein a major way -- in terms of body shame and guilt as well as being a preparationfor sexual openness. This is why we emphasize nudity in our materials and groupsession discussions.

The elements of fear and distrust are very significant in terms of all aspects ofthe religious and cultural attitudes toward sexuality.

In other writings Dave and I have discussed how various attitudes and beliefs ofancient peoples have contributed to the understanding of sexuality that is presentin modern Christianity. Much of the content of the sexual belief systems of ancientpeoples derived from superstition, born of ignorance of the working of the humanbody and psyche. The ideas of conception, pregnancy and childbirth were regardedwith a mixture of fear, awe and even worship. The phenomenon of human fertilityand the mystery of sexual bonding were likewise sources of superstitious wonderand little or no practical understanding. Without birth control it had to be assumedthat sexual intercourse would result in pregnancy. All of these elements of lifewere viewed in almost magical ways and indeed witch doctors, soothsayers and thelike were often involved in ritual practices associated with sexual events.

(It might be observed at this point that the availability of many near-foolproofmethods of birth control today opens the way to much greater sexual freedom in generaland should make possible some of the restructuring of marriage and family modelsmentioned earlier. It is worth noting that such restructuring on this basis wouldnot have been possible in the ancient world and indeed would not have been feasibleuntil very recent times. It seems to me that practical/scientific developmentssuch as safe, reliable contraception should make the church rethink the possibilitiesof sexual behavior and patterns. I believe that alert and aware Christians havethe opportunity to explore new and exciting options in these areas.)

It happened that Christianity was born in a culture in which these views of sexualitywere common. Thus, all of Christianity's sexual teachings have been compromisedby such views, almost to the point of continuing to treat sexual phenomena as magical,thus calling for the many controlling taboos.

Today we know that sex is not magic. It may be awe-inspiring, exciting, confusingand even properly regarded as containing elements of mystery. It may be the mostemotionally meaningful aspect of human life. But it is not magic and should notbe treated with the fear and taboos of the past. I believe that traditional Christianityperpetuates these outdated views and we must work to rid ourselves of them in thefellowship of Christian love.

It is these old views that lead to the emotional/spiritual abuse for which manypeople reject this version of Christianity. These views are not characteristic ofwhat Jacques Ellul calls "the faith of Christ".

It is our hope in Liberated Christians that this kind of faith can set us free tolove freely, joyfully and responsibly the way we believe God has made us to love.

'Older sex workers going hungry'

2008-02-06T14:02:00.000-08:00

'Older sex workers going hungry'By SALLY FRENCH - Manukau Courier

Tuesday, 05 February 2008

BEN CAMPBELL/Manukau Courier

CONCERNED: Mamatere Strickland is worried about the growing number of underage prostitutes working in south Auckland.

Underage prostitutes are forcing experienced sex workers to go home hungry.

The young girls are taking business away from women who have been working the streets for years, says the Papatoetoe agency that helps prostitutes over 18 who want to leave the sex industry.

Te Aronga Hou Inaianei co-founder Mamatere Strickland says she has had to ask the Salvation Army to get food parcels for mothers who haven’t "had any luck" because of the number of young girls working.

"It’s a supply and demand issue. The younger the supply, the more competition for the older girls," the former sex worker says.

"I guess part of that mentality is the younger they are, the less likely they are to have infections.
"Older women are going home with nothing. It’s been a sad Christmas for many of them – the competition is just getting too much."

A sting by Counties Manukau police in the past month resulted in 25 men being arrested for buying sex from underage prostitutes.

Fifteen street workers, some as young as 13, were taken off the streets during Operation Capio.
Mamatere says the number of underage prostitutes is rising because of the Prostitution Reform Act. "The act has taken police resources off the street and has therefore sent the message to pimps and gangs that there are opportunities to get away with things," she says.

Underage prostitutes don’t dress up in high-heels, fishnet stockings and miniskirts, she says. The girls wear their normal clothing but punters know they are working because they frequent red-light areas after midnight.

She and her team give out condoms and information packs with guidelines on how to keep safe while working on the street.

Prostitutes are also helped with housing and budgeting advice and are encouraged to seek other employment or take part in educational training courses.

Those who want help for their addictions are referred to drug and alcohol services.
Poverty has a role to play in underage prostitution, Mamatere says.

"People are quick to blame the families, but hang on a minute, we’ve got other influences out there impacting on the children.

"P and other drugs also turn family against family and a lot of loving families out there would be broken-hearted to see that their child has gone down this road to destruction."

But the problem won’t be solved by police removing underage prostitutes from the street.
"It’s not about moving them on. It’s about looking at the social, holistic approach to what’s happening and trying to make change.

"Getting the police to arrest them doesn’t solve the problem, they’ll just come back the next night.

"I don’t know why the government didn’t listen when we tried to tell them what would happen.
"Now we’ve got an epidemic on our hands."

She hopes Operation Capio will let people know south Auckland is not a paedophile haven for men picking up "our" children.

Swinging's their thing...

2008-02-06T13:20:00.000-08:00

By MIKE STROBEL
Wed, February 6, 2008
Swinging's their thing ...

We should all pile in the family wagon and see what the heck is going on down in Viagra, I mean Niagara, Falls.

The Cheese Capital of Canada never fails to amaze.

Where else in the world can you imagine a daredevil in a barrel surviving the plunge only to drown in a heart-shaped bathtub?

Where else are wax figures and whack-a-moles the biggest ethnic groups?

Where else could an army of swingers, and I don't mean Tarzan, take over a major hotel and convention centre?

Charles Blondin, meet Sexyboots.

Both acrobats, but in different ways.

Blondin walked a tightrope across the Falls.

Sexyboots, well, she just walks a tightrope.

"There's a fine line between love and lust," she tells me down the line from her home in Barrie.

"I can love my husband, but lust after someone else."

And vice versa.

Sexyboots is not her real name.

"We're where gays were 50 years ago, when if you admitted it, your career and family and social life were ruined." So, Sexyboots it is. Let me guess.

"It'd be obvious if you saw me in a club," she says. "I have a large collection of 'hooker boots.' "
I hope the carpets at a certain Niagara Falls hotel are up to the challenge.

Two hundred couples will convene for a Valentine's Day weekend called Take A Bite Of The Apple (TABOTA).

This is not for the faint of heart.

The exact location is hush-hush.

(I'm sworn. But it's not Motel Sex ... um, Six.)

And single men are NOT welcome.

"It may seem like a double standard," says Sexyboots, 37, "but we find single men far too pushy. A lot of couples don't like that. They feel pressured.

"There's also the 'creep' factor. They're single for a reason."

By the by, don't call it "wife-swapping" or risk a face-slapping.

"Swinging" is still okay, but "The Lifestyle" and "lifestyler" are preferred. Rita DeMontis will be tickled, I'm sure.

The bumph from TABOTA organizers says this is the first hotel "takeover" by swingers in Canada.

A Super Bowl of group sex, with teams from the many clubs that dot Ontario, even bedroom communities like Barrie.

"A whole hotel works better," says Sexyboots. "Otherwise you might have a floor of swingers next to a floor of peewee hockey players.

"What I do in my bedroom is my business, but I have no right to expose my lifestyle to others.
"We won't be making out in the halls."

Mind you, the promo does promise "a hedonistic and sexually charged atmosphere."
Seminars include erotic photography and tantric sex.

The pool parties, speed-dating and theme dances sound like fun.

So do the group sex and bondage rooms. Gives "smoking floor" a whole new meaning.

Sexyboots will be there with her hubby, a computer guy who goes by Mr. Boots.

They were college sweethearts and have two kids.

She works for Queen's Park.

Five years ago, after he'd been hinting for months, she said, "Let's do it," and they went to a swingers' Halloween party dressed in army fatigues.

Isn't this adultery, Sexyboots?

"My definition of cheating is doing it behind your spouse's back.

"But I'm not. He's right there with me."

"Playing," swingers call it. As in: Listen, I'll play with Buffy over there, you play with Lars and Sven, and later we'll play Simon Says with Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice, play a little Flying Burrito Brothers on the hi-fi and if we have any energy left, maybe play some Scrabble.

As the promo says: "What do committed couples do to relieve the seven-year itch? Scratch it together!!"

"Wha...?!" says Niagara Falls Mayor Ted Salci, just back from a chili cook-off.
Your honour, that's a real swingin' town you got down there.

"This is the first I've heard of it." He laughs.

"They're local people!?"

From all over. The hotel's not exactly broadcasting it.

"If they're law-abiding, I suppose it's fine."

Even in a God-fearing place like the Falls?

"Well, I won't be cutting any ribbons for them."

Too bad. There goes the swing vote.

Let's Visit A Swinger's Party

2008-02-06T09:48:00.000-08:00

So here we are. It’s the Halloween Bash at Club H and the place is packed. There are at least 300 people here and the atmosphere is hauntingly sensuous!!! A hand taps me on the shoulder - as I turn around my eyes are fixated on a lovely woman dressed in a tight catsuit “trick or treat!” she purrs. Oh how I wanted to give her a piece of my “candy”!!! Well, I settled for buying a drink for her and her husband.

As we sat down and began to converse, I found out it was their second Club H party. “We were so nervous when we were here the first time, but it only took a little while before we felt right at home” she went on to say. “Oh, I’m sorry, my name is Cathy and this is Mark. Mark, a tall gentleman with shoulder length hair and old fashioned shyness, smiled, stood up and shook my hand. “Ya know, even if we never party, just being here and feeling so free is taking me away from my shyness... as you can guess, Cathy is more outgoing than I am.” As we continued to converse, I found out that Mark and Cathy had initially been looking for a single female, but have since changed their sights to meet with a couple. “I think I am ready now” Mark said, I felt a little self conscious and wondered if we would be what people are looking for”. I thought “what a nice, genuine couple”, then I looked at his broad shoulders and deep brown eyes and said “I don’t think you’ll have a problem”. Mark said, “We discussed this all week and we plan to look for a couple (or two) to meet for dinner with next week. Of course, with all the after parties going on after the dance, we are ready to go for it”!!! Our conversation continued until a couple whom they obviously met before came up and began to exchange wet kisses. I thought I’d walk, I was getting excited!!!

I walked around and gazed at the dance floor... ooooooh!!! the Ladies Dance! Ladies were already up close and personal. A Ladies Dance Chain was building quickly with hot grinding, rubbing and bouncing! I stopped to watch... (wouldn’t you???).

As the music faded into a slow song I saw people make their way to the dance floor for a little “bump and grind”. In the far corner, I saw a crowd that seemed to be very “enthusiastic”. Time to take a walk!

As I reached over, I saw what the enthusiasm was all about... There were two couples who had been out of town for about 6 months... people were welcoming them back!! The hugs, kisses and “We missed you” were so warm and genuine that I walked up to them and said “This is Terrific!!!” The group laughed and introduced themselves. What I found so fun, was that even though they did not know me, I was welcomed, invited to sit down and even given a glass of champagne!!! Definitely a friendly party!!!

I was again watching the dance floor and I quickly spun around to go to the restroom. That’s when I bumped into Toni. The embarrassing part was that my hand brushed her left breast. She gave me a wide, sensuous smile and said “Now you have to do the same thing to the right one... they get jealous, you know.” Now I am blushing. Toni is clad in leather and I would bend over for her anytime!!! She shook my hand, gave me a hug and walked me over to introduce me to her husband Glen, who was in deep conversation with another new couple that had lot’s of questions. I said a brief hello and walked around with Toni.

People walked up to her, hugged, kissed, (there was a lot of that) and talked, invited her and Glen to an after party, drinks, etc. Many people just came up to say what a great job they were doing with the Club.

The DJs were working everyone into a frenzy now. This is definitely the most fun you can have with your clothes on! The costumes were delectable, sensuous, scary and downright erotic!!! It was the Best Costume Contest and it was obvious that Club H members were as creative as they were horny!!! Ghouls, goblins, slinky witches, angelic vixens, even Little Bo Peep!!!

Couples and groups were pairing up, making party plans and exchanging phone numbers. It looks like a wild evening is in the works. I’ve got several parties to go to myself!!!

Halloween (and any other nite) at Club H is hot, sensuous and filled with fun, friendly people who want to party! We plan to be back for the Halloween Bash - join us!!

The 10 Commandments of Swinging!

2008-02-04T21:45:00.000-08:00

Never attempt to break up a marriage.

Always keep dates unless you give ample notice of changing circumstances.

Always keep the first meeting on a "no strings attached" basis, but be prepared to swing if it is mutually agreeable or to give an honest answer if something doesn't click.

Never, under any circumstances exert pressure on a partner to swing.

Restrict discussions of swinging to known swingers and interested persons seeking information.

Protect the anonymity of other swingers by refraining from unauthorized "name dropping."

Always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance.

Do not engage in any unlawful activity that would discredit swingers as a group.

Be friendly and warm with your swing partners, but understand that there is a type of emotional involvement, which is properly reserved for a spouse or "primary significant other."

Always show respect for the personal attitudes, feelings and "hang-ups" of other swingers.

Are You A Swinger?

2008-02-03T21:04:00.000-08:00

Are you a Swinger?

by http://www.thirdpath.com/articles.htm

The date…1971 you walk into a room of people dressed in tight mini skirts and polyester leisure suits. The gold chains around the neck while showing off their hairy chests, point out how cool they really are. If they are lucky, they will end the evening “swapping” and going home with another persons spouse… Is this you? Chances are, this is the image that most of us, along with the general public, have imbedded in our minds about what swingers are like.

Welcome to 2003! Who are today’s Swingers? Would you believe that Vice Presidents of major corporations, Politicians, Teachers and even Clergy are sharing their most intimate relationships? People that may have just met on the Internet or in person, thanks to thousands of swing clubs, private house parties and personal magazine ads, many are taking the average friendship and going the next step. Some are even meeting at the work place or college dorms.

The big difference now is that it is no longer a lifestyle set aside for dark hidden bars in the tucked away shadows of the inner cities. Lost with this are the Gold chains, Miniskirts and Polyester leisure suits. Amen!

Through our 10 years of observing and/or counseling over 5000 couples within the alternative lifestyles…we have noticed the following:

- Most are middle to upper income

- Most have college educations

- Most have chosen this lifestyle to enhance (Not substitute) their primary relationship.

- Most have very stable and secure primary relationships and would not consider cheating on their significant other…or have the need.

- Almost all are very considerate of others wishes and needs and know what “no thank you” means

- Almost all take major precautions to prevent sexually transmitted diseases.

- We find that a major percentage (better than 80%) are NON-smokers.

- Swingers tend to take care of their bodies more than non-swingers, but than again…this lifestyle is like dating.

- Surprisingly enough over 90% of all women are bi-sexual or bi-curious where only about 40% of the men are orally bi in any given group situation. (About 10% in a non group environment…one on one)

- We find the average age to be 34-40 contrast with the 70’s, the average age was more like 45-50.

What is swinging? Well lets start with the definition given by The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language (fourth edition. 2000), where a swinger is defined as “A person who engages freely in promiscuous sex” and/or “A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners” After 10 years of counseling, educating and working with the “modern day swinger” a better stated definition would be:

“Any person or persons engaging in any form of sexual activity in the presents of any one or more individuals other than or in addition to his or her primary partner.” (as defined by Third Path)

We find that previous older definitions do not follow the modern approach of many within the swinging communities. The first and most obvious change in swinging is the fact that a very large percentage of swingers do not and never intend to “swap partners”. We have found that for many in the past, “swapping” was a means of satisfying something that was missing in the relationship that they were locked into. Many were unsatisfied with what they had, but did not want to divorce for reasons that varied from family values to religion. At the same time that this was occurring, many other non swingers were judging them for there sexual deviance even though consensual and in open of there partners. Meanwhile those judging were out cheating on their spouses as their means of satisfying themselves in their lacking relationship.

Today, at least 8 out of 10 couples are in this lifestyle for the “enhancement” of their relationship and NOT for the “replacement” of their relationship. Many couples are finding a new dimension to their already exciting sex life. Just because they are sharing sex with one or more individuals, that does not necessarily mean that they are having intercourse or even physical contact with these other individuals or couples. We find couples or individuals that simply share photos or enjoy the excitement of someone watching while they and their partner arouse each other to the point of total ecstasy and ultimately orgasm. Just the thought of their erection being shared visually by another couple getting aroused right next to them, even though there is no physical contact with anyone other than their primary partner, sends them into an orgasmic state that has not been experienced since their first sexual encounter with their own honey.

We find that there are many levels of swingers and to be definitive as possible, we have attempted to create a scale that might help you determine were you are and where you may want to be.

We call this scale, the “TP” Scale. Why “TP”? Well a TeePee is a circular shaped unit containing a cover, which tends to be flexible and doors that are not locked. Within the swinging environment, we tend to see “circles” or groups that tend to converge based upon common interests. When becoming part of a circle, we know where we are at the time, but as time goes on we may want the flexibility to change or expand circles to meet with our new and ever changing experiences. You might note that in most cases within your circle…the door is never locked. You may opt out of one circle and possibly enter another that is better suited for your new desires. Also note that a teepee looks like a triangle regardless of you view. This too explains the fact that in order to be a swinger…there must be at least a third party or direction aside from you and your primary partner. Hence “Third Path”, which is the Alternative Lifestyle counseling organization that originated this method of being able to share and understand where you and those around you fit and to what circle you belong or have a longing to belong. The following are the various levels of the TP Scale:

“TP” ONE SWINGER:

This is a couple that enjoys sharing sexuality at a safe distance such as over the phone or via e-mail. You may talk dirty and do things to each other by request of your “pen pal” couple or individual.

“TP” TWO SWINGER:

This is a couple that enjoys either being present and watching another couple or individual performs a sexual act or performing a sexual act while being watched or watching while being watched. Maybe you share a hotel room with two queen size beds right next to each other.

“TP” THREE SWINGER:

This is a couple that Has pre set rules and limits as to how far they will go with another couple or individual while sharing sexual activities. This will usually include touching outside of there primary partner. It may also include sexual massage licking and kissing…but never penetration. Usually at this level, a bond or friendship is the goal of all, and is usually not intended as a one-night stand.

“TP” FOUR SWINGER:

This is a couple set aside the rules and limits as to how far they will go with another couple or individual while sharing sexual activities. This will usually includes not only touching outside of there primary partner but, It may also include sexual massage licking and kissing and even intercourse. This grade is usually with an individual or couple that has created a common bond and attraction with the intention of an ongoing relationship and friendship.

“TP” FIVE SWINGER:

This is a couple that shares sexuality with another couple or individual to the extent that they do not have limits other than protection (condoms) as long as they are in the presents of there primary partner and usually sharing each other at the same time (threesomes or for sums). There is not expectation or obligation for long term friendships or relationships…just fun sex. This level, as in any of the levels, does not rule out the possibility of a long-term relationship between any or all of the parties involved.

“TP” SIX SWINGER:

At this level, a couple enjoys meeting people that want to have sex…Plane and simple. Attraction may or may not be important. Safety from disease is usually the only rule of thumb at this level…however, primary partners are still part of these encounters and even though they may have all the fun they want…the primaries always go home or to bed (to sleep) together.

“TP” SEVEN SWINGER:

The grade seven is no longer considered elementary swinging…this is the hard-core swap. I’ll take yours; you take mine…see you tomorrow. We find this a lot with “open relationships”. The hard part with this for of swinging is the Unknown factor of your primary. This is a topic of its own! However…there usually still needs to be somewhat of an attraction to the other individuals involved.

“TP” EIGHT SWINGER:

This is easy…any time, any where with (almost) anyone. If this is you…please be careful!
It is very important to note that even though the “TP” scale provides a base for not only determining where you are, and sharing with others were you are, but there are many variances to all of the “TP’s" above. You may find yourself somewhere in the middle. Remember…they are flexible!

So what about swinging in this society… as we are well aware, almost all religions and most social organizations, highly frown on any such activities…even though cheating is the most common cause of demise in a failed marriage…it’s almost considered “normal”. Many therapists can understand why one would cheat, but being a swinger is judged to be “BAD”! Well, at least according to our society. Contrast swinging, in which partners openly share their sexuality and expression of love in front of the one they call their primary partner, and you can see why swinging has changed and grown over the years. Imagine never cheating or having to lie to the one you love ever again! More and more couples are adding this new dimension to their intimate side of there relationship, while at the same time maintaining their conservative appearance in there work and residential community.

Maybe you have thought about what level of swinger you are…Maybe you’ve not thought about it to this level of detail. Either way, the “TP” Scale is one way for swingers to identify where their boundaries are and make it easier for other swingers to understand their relative experience and preference for involvement.

For further information or counseling on this, or other alternative lifestyles, please feel free to contact Judy J Emerson, PhD. and Nicholas Olevsky, DD.

Duncanville files countersuit over swingers club

2008-02-02T16:30:00.000-08:00

Duncanville files countersuit over swingers club
Duncanville calls Cherry Pit a nuisance, asks judge to close it
12:00 AM CST on Wednesday, January 9, 2008

By ELIZABETH LANGTON / The Dallas Morning News elangton@dallasnews.com

http://www.dallasnews.com/sharedcontent/dws/news/localnews/stories/DN-cherrypit_09met.ART.State.Edition1.374ae54.html

The city of Duncanville wants a judge to declare the Cherry Pit swingers club a public nuisance and close it down.

Jim Trulock, who runs the club in his home, sued the city Dec. 12 over a new ordinance that bans sex clubs. Duncanville filed its answer Monday and countersued Mr. Trulock.

On weekends, the 59-year-old and his partner, 29-year-old Julie M. Norris, turn their home near Cedar Ridge Drive and Interstate 20 into the Cherry Pit, where guests can mingle, dance and have sex.

The City Council unanimously adopted the ordinance in November. City officials say they were acting in response to complaints about the Cherry Pit.

The ordinance classifies sex clubs as a public nuisance. City officials also contend that the Cherry Pit is an unlicensed sexually oriented business operating in a residential area. Mr. Trulock denies that the club is a business; he has said he accepted donations but didn't have a cover charge.

Mr. Trulock's "use of the premises as a sex club is detrimental to the health, safety and welfare of the citizens of the city of Duncanville," the city's filing says. Mr. Trulock "does not have any policy or measures in place to safeguard against the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, and thus the activities at the premises pose a risk to the public health."

Mr. Trulock's attorney, Ed Klein, said the city is trying to regulate private acts in a private home. The ordinance violates his client's privacy and due process rights, he said.

Mr. Klein also contends that the ordinance is so broad and vague that it could criminalize the sexual behavior of almost everyone in Duncanville.

The city's countersuit asks that the court order the Cherry Pit to close and fine Mr. Trulock $1,000 a day if he refuses. A judge has not set a hearing on the request.

City officials have cited Mr. Trulock four times for violating the new ordinance, as well as the city's sexually oriented business and zoning ordinances. Mr. Trulock is fighting the citations in municipal court.

County takes aim at swingers

2008-02-02T16:15:00.000-08:00

County takes aim at swingers
New definitions of sex businesses means regulation could follow.
By DAVID DECAMP, Times Staff WriterPublished January 23, 2008

http://www.sptimes.com/2008/01/23/Pasco/County_takes_aim_at_s.shtml

NEW PORT RICHEY - One by one, people opined Tuesday about the proposed stricter definitions for sexually oriented businesses in Pasco, avoiding the impetus for the discussion like it was an elephant in the room.

Or in this case, like it was a Port Richey swingers club named Club Elite.
"I think we all know what the issues are," former Port Richey Mayor Mark Abbott told the County Commission. "Just make the wise decisions."

After a short public hearing with the commentary ranging from nudist resorts to community morality, the County Commission voted 5-0, with little debate, to approve the new definitions.
The blush-inducing language includes new definitions to better identify what constitutes a "sexually oriented business," a distinction that means the county can regulate where the establishment is located. The proposed definitions identify exposure of specific body parts and specific sexual activities.

But nobody on Tuesday mentioned Club Elite, which is above a bakery, a deli and a dentist in a U.S. 19 commercial strip. Its Web site openly promotes its activities for swingers, though its attorney has said Club Elite is not a sexually oriented business - legally speaking.

After it opened last year, neighbors complained and authorities investigated. But they said they couldn't shut down the club under Pasco's code unless something illegal was seen.
The code limits new adult businesses to industrial areas, but the county has to prove a business is sexually oriented before it can be restricted.

When the new definitions were unveiled in December, county officials acknowledged they were targeted at Club Elite. But this month, assistant county attorney Kristi Wooden and County Commissioner Jack Mariano, whose district includes the club, wouldn't say so. Wooden only said Tuesday the changes allowed the county to enforce its ordinance.

Nor would Commission Chairman Ted Schrader or other officials say they were keeping quiet to perhaps avoid legal stickiness over passing a law that singles out a specific business.

And while Schrader acknowledged the public knowledge of Club Elite, the explicit nature of the new definitions made a discussion inappropriate, he said afterward.

"Fortunately, we didn't have to go into detail," he said.

Wooden and Commissioner Pat Mulieri stressed that the new definitions of prohibited activities would not apply to nudist communities and resorts, which are allowed in county code.

Swingers make love, not war, at Vimy Ridge

2008-02-02T15:43:00.000-08:00

TU THANH HAFrom Tuesday's Globe and Mail

January 22, 2008 at 2:23 AM EST

Exhibitionism. Cruising in the woods. Swinging couples.

The Canadian National Vimy Memorial in northern France has become a gathering place for some French citizens looking for kinky sex.

Monday, a French couple appeared at the courthouse in nearby Arras on charges of sexual exhibitionism at the First World War memorial.

Another woman, who describes herself as being 35, appears on an “amateurs” website, which features 10 photos of her in various states of undress, which she boasts were snapped at the Vimy monument.

On the first picture, the woman, in a miniskirt and showing her bra, is leaning against a stone rampart where the names of missing First World War Canadian soldiers are etched.

The rest of the explicit pictures accompany the woman's flashing episode, which she said concluded with her having sex with two men.

On another website, the monument's parking lot is described as a place for cruising and for swingers.

A spokesman for Veterans Affairs Minister Greg Thompson said the Canadian government hopes Monday's court appearance will send a message.

“At this point, our participation in the French legal system will be enough of a deterrent,” said Richard Roik. “Inappropriate behaviour will not be tolerated.

”The memorial's size and remote location might explain its popularity with sexual thrill-seekers.

About two hours drive north of Paris, the site sprawls across an isolated area, removed from any neighbouring villages and still crisscrossed by trenches and gullies.

On asexyblog.com, a French site that advertises “naughty places” and “swingers' meeting places,” Vimy is one of several listed locations.

Driving directions to Vimy are given in one posting from Jan. 8, guiding aficionados to the memorial's parking lot.

“There's cruising in the woods behind the parking lot. In the evening it's directly in the parking,” the site says. “Watch out in the evening, there are also swinging couples.”

According to the local paper La Voix du Nord, the man and woman who appeared in court Monday are in their 40s and had been charged in October.

The married couple was identified by a police unit specializing in cyber-surveillance, even though the woman's face had been electronically smudged.

The couple's court hearing unfolded behind closed doors. A ruling is expected on Monday.

La Voix du Nord noted the thoughtlessness of people indulging in sex acts on such hallowed grounds.

“In the minds of Canadians, the historical site of Vimy nearly marks the birth of their country. If we dare sully the memory of those soldiers who died during World War I, it's the whole country that we sully,” the paper said on its website Monday.

The four-day battle at Vimy in 1917 cost 3,598 Canadian lives and left thousands wounded, marking a coming of age for Canada's military.

Swingers sex club planned for Woolloongabba

2008-02-02T15:20:00.000-08:00

by http://www.questnews.com.au/article/2008/01/16/23807_latest_news.html

WOOLLOONGABBA: A swingers' club is operating four nights a week out of a converted garage without planning approval.

Couples International, with four bedrooms and a bondage area, opened at 5 Holden St in August 2006.

In November last year club owners Bryan and Leesa Horn submitted an application for a ``BYO nightclub-style venue’’ after a visit from Brisbane City Council.

They had operated a similar club at 5 Hubert St, Woolloongabba.

If the council does approve the club, the Horns said it would be a first for Queensland. The couple claimed there were ``house parties’’ in Brisbane, including one at West End and one at Calamvale, that operated without approval.

Despite their failure to lodge a development application until November, the Horns said they would rather operate in a regulated environment.

`` We’re keen to make a real success of the business and to do that you need the i’s dotted and the t’s crossed,’’ Mr Horn said.

The Horns won’t face objections from their immediate neighbours, who said the club’s late-night hours helped reduce property damage at night and traffic congestion during the day.

The couple argued the club enhanced relationships for confident and self-assured couples by providing a spark.

``The idea that people have of the lifestyle is one that’s been promoted by 60s movies, dirty picture magazines and the cliche of keys in the bowl . . . in 15 years I’ve never seen any of those things,’’ Mr Horn said.

Councillor Catherine Bermingham (East Brisbane) declined to comment for legal reasons. The cuncil is still assessing the application.

What do you think? Should Couples International receive Council approval to operate a swingers’ club in Woolloongabba? Email your thoughts to letters@southeastadvertiser.com.au

Oh My God, I did it!

2008-02-01T16:44:00.000-08:00

by Toni and Glen

http://SexySwingClubs.com

So you’ve made the move! You’ve decided you want to meet other couples and you have had your first experience. You look in the mirror and wonder what your partner sees.

You think to yourself… “have I changed? Am I still a good wife, mother, lover etc.? My partner watched me “do the nasty” to someone else last night! How does he see me? Am I a slut? Am I a bad person, does he still love me?”

As Glen and I have always said… it is usually the man who brings the woman in the lifestyle and it is the woman who keeps the couple in the lifestyle. You need to ask yourself a few questions. Did you enjoy meeting new people? Did you enjoy the socialization? Did you enjoy the sex? When you looked over at your partner while in the embrace of another did you feel like you were on the beginning of a wondrous journey together?

Take another look in the mirror. You are still the same person. You are still a good wife/partner/lover. You embarked on a trip to paradise together. That feeling of uncertainty is the beginning of the “Unlearning Process”. Do you remember when you were just a child? That funny tingling feeling began to emerge. Depending on your upbringing, you were coming of age, sick or possessed by Satan. It’s usually harder on young girls because there is always the fear of an unwanted teen pregnancy or the terror of being labeled the neighborhood slut! At any rate you are made to feel that it is something to be hidden. Because you are unsure of this new person budding through, it should be something dealt with using the utmost delicacy, however, it is not a situation most adults are comfortable in discussing and you probably did not get the answers to your many questions; either because you were too ashamed to ask them or your parents were to afraid to answer them.

And here you are a woman full grown. You may have had sexual experiences before you met your partner, you may have not. You have been brought up that “good girls” only have one partner. “Good girls are not sexually open. Those that are get negative labels pinned on them. Keep looking in the mirror.

If monogamy is supposed to be the “norm”, why do you find yourself forcing not to look at that handsome stranger in the grocery line? Why does your partners eyes waver when a lovely lady walks by? Why is there such a high rate of divorce in the US? If it’s so normal, why does society have to drill it in our heads that this is how we are to be? Because it’s not We are sexual creatures, it cannot be denied! To deny yourself pleasure because of an uptight anal society makes no sense. Those limp dicked, non vaginal bureaucrats only want you to be as miserable as they are. They want to control what is good and what is not. While I agree that there are certain laws that are put in place to protect, there are so many that make no sense at all! Authorities spend unnecessary time and money bothering swing clubs, when there are rapists, murderers and child molesters operating freely!

So what should you do if you feel happy and complete after your encounter? Share that feeling with your mate. Ask him/her how they felt about it. Discuss the erotic feeling it brought, it will probably land you both in bed reliving the experience or making your own experience.

On the other hand. If you feel bad, you should do the same thing. Discuss it with your partner. What exactly made you feel bad. Was it the experience itself (was your swinging partner not what you expected sexually?) Was it that you felt uncomfortable with your partner seeing you this way? Or are you still “unlearning” that “good girls do”? Let you partner know these feelings. Come totally clean “Honey, I felt uncomfortable when I saw you watching us”. Honesty truly is best, even if it makes the hearer uncomfortable. Talk about what you can do to make it better the next time. Some things get better as you do it more, some things make require adjustments. As long as you both are comfortable with any changes, it’s all good!

101 Signs That You're A Swinger

2008-01-29T17:47:00.000-08:00

You are wearing wristbands in most of your vacation photos.
Half of the numbers on your cellphone are listed only by screen names.
You are running out of reasons to tell your coworkers why you can't go out with them this weekend.
You have over 100,000 frequent flyer miles on Air Jamaica.
You know most of your friends' names only as couples (Rich and Joy, Frank and Jen) but you don't know their last names.
You go to a convention with three huge suitcases, yet are wearing the same outfit when you return as you did when you left.
You had already seen pictures of your friends naked before you ever met them in person.
You position the computer screen in your home office in such a way that your children can't possibly sneak up on you.
You can't remember the last time you had pubic hair.
Before traveling somewhere on business or to visit relatives you look up couples in the area.
You worry about explaining to the neighbors why 10 couples show up on a Saturday night carrying over night bags and don't leave until Sunday afternoon...
You never open your garage door until you're in the car with the doors closed.
Your gynecologist wonders why you're asking for birth control when he knows that your husband has had a vasectomy.
Your hot tub has never had a bathing suit worn in it.
Your sex toy collection costs more than your china set.
Your wife has a shirt that says: "I Like Girls Too."
You have a strippers pole in the middle of your den.
You giggle at the golf course when someone asks if they can join your foursome.
The last thing you typically do at a party is search for your wife's thong.
You've hugged your friends goodnight while naked.
You hear the word "Playmate" and your first thought is not "Playboy"
The word "slut" has become a term of endearment.
You carry lube as often as lipstick.
Your choice in new carpeting is heavily based on which type won't give you rug burns.
You've taken your Liberator with you to a dinner party.
The term Vanilla isn't just a flavor to you anymore.
You have a full-length mirror in your bedroom... On your ceiling.
You are constantly encouraging your kids to spend the weekend at friends' houses.
You don't think twice about wearing a short skirt, high heels and fishnets when there is three feet of snow on the ground.
Your wedding reception has an after party.
You go to Las Vegas, but never gamble or leave the hotel.
You panic when your friend's digital camera goes missing.
You've invited friends over and watched porn.
You've invited friends over and made porn.
You've watched someone do a tequila shot off of your wife's bare ass.
Your friends know what brand of condom you prefer.
You wake up in the morning and find that half of the cloths on the floor don't fit you or your wife.
Your kids think it's normal for adults to have sleepovers.
A hot tub is considered a necessity not a luxury.
You believe in Unicorns... Because you've actually ridden one.
You leave the kids at home when you go to the toy store.
You've taken photos of yourself with your head out of frame; And it was on purpose.
You can't decide which of your three naughty schoolgirl outfits you should wear this weekend.
You always keep a supply of condoms, lube and clean hand towels by your bed... And your guest bed... And your couch in the living room.
The employees fight to take your order at the One Hour Photo.
You frequently use the term "Friends of friends" when explaining how you know certain people.
You know which of your outfits looks best under a black light.
You have an entire closet devoted just to themed outfits.
You place a want ad that reads: "Wanted: Reliable babysitter who is willing to stay till sunrise and doesn't ask any questions."
You ask the sales man at the furniture store which type of upholstery best repels semen stains.
The staff of Hedonism resorts sends you birthday cards.
You come home with that, "There's Something About Sally" hairstyle.
The babysitter wonders why you are always already wearing your full-length coat when she arrives.
In the gym shower you're the only guy with shaved balls.
You know the most flattering angle at which to photograph your genitals.
Half of your vacation photos were taken in your hotel room and the other half you can't show to your family.
You have a free place to stay in almost all the fifty states and several cities in Europe.
You've closed your e-mails with "Bi Bi".
You can expertly identify the tactile differences between every type of breast implant ever created.
On Christmas, there are certain presents that can't be opened in front of your family.
You know exactly which of your friends are allergic to latex.
Your vanilla friends ask why they are never invited to your parties.
The movie "Swingers" was a huge disappointment to you.
It's an unwritten law that you can't call any of your friends on Saturday or Sunday until at least 3 p.m. so you don't wake them up.
You've become especially good at operating your digital camera with one hand.
At your "normal" parties no one can go into the basement because you're afraid someone will notice the sex-swing.
Your grandson discovers the "swing" and he wants to know why it isn't outside.
You're constantly afraid that visiting relatives will pop-in one of your home videos that you forgot to hide.
You make bets with other swinger friends about how long it will take to corrupt your cute vanilla girlfriend.
You're in a public place and you swear you hear someone shout your screen name.
Before introducing them to your visiting family, you pull your friends aside and say, "OK, here's how we know each other..."
You start having withdrawals after two days without internet access.
When someone asks where you're staying on your trip to Cancun, you pretend that you can't remember the name of the resort.
You ask a girlfriend to teach you: "That thing you do with your tongue that my husband enjoys so much."
In the middle of sex with your spouse, you ask someone else to take over for a minute while you go to the restroom.
You are more concerned about a pimple on your privates than on your face.
You come back from vacation and you have a tan, but no tan lines.
The first thing you do checking into a hotel is to ask for a lot of extra towels.
All the men bring their wives to your bachelor party.
Making it an early night means getting home before 3 a.m.
You've handed out business cards to people, but the cards have nothing to do with your occupation.
Your sexual fantasies never last very long... Because they keep coming true!
You are hanging around vanilla friends and you absentmindedly squeeze their butts.
You erase your computer's browser history and cache every time you leave your office.
You buy lap dances for your wife... And vice versa.
You own a double-headed dildo.
You're still smiling on Monday morning about something you did on Saturday night.
You're at the market, and the only things in your basket are condoms, breath mints and Red Bull.
On vacation you set aside time to stage a bunch of photos that are acceptable to show to your family.
After 25 years, people still ask if you're newlyweds.
You've had sex with more people since you've been married than you did when you were single.
Going to vanilla bars ranks right up there with a root canal.
The only time you go out with your vanilla friends is when you're on your period.
Your husband has lipstick on his collar and he smells like another woman's perfume and it brings a smile to your face.
On Monday morning you are glad to go back to work so you can get some rest.
You spend the whole week before your parents arrive calling all you friends telling them not to call your answering machine while your parents are in town.
You get really tired of not making it to McDonalds before they quit serving breakfast Sunday morning (on your way home).
You have an entire external hard-drive devoted to nothing but your party photos.
You spouse is having an orgasm, while you are busy in the other room discussing the stock market.
You spent twice as long on your online profile than you did on your resume.
If you are reading this and laughing because many of these describe you...That's a pretty good sign that you are a swinger!

If you have anymore to add, please click on the Comment and add it.

Respect in Swinging

2008-01-28T18:46:00.000-08:00

By Toni and Glen, http://FriendshipExpress.com

Respect!!! Not very difficult to do for most of us. Be nice to your family; say please and thank you; don’t piss in your neighbors rose bushes, etc. Pretty basic huh? Well it also lends credence to the Swinger Community.

I know you, like myself have come upon people who, for some reason don’t seem to understand the meaning of respect (see Webster’s Dictionary if you don’t know the meaning). It is not something that is only a problem with single men. It, unfortunately is sometimes a problem with single ladies, couples, and even some club owners!

It’s unfortunate that some people have the idea that just because you are a swinger that you are automatically public (or is that pubic) property. It’s horrible to hear from club leaders that have the “stereotypical single male mentality”. I say “stereotypical” because not all single men are bad. I am referring to the club owners who in their writing are crystal clear in their lack of respect for women; to the couples who force themselves on new people to satisfy their “craving for fresh meat”, because they know that these new attendees are not fully comfortable as yet, saying no, and also to club owners who have no respect for other people and their property and think they are above others just because they are club owners!

We must understand that not everyone is at the same level in the Swinger Community as we may be. When first meeting someone, they may not welcome a wide open, sloppy kiss or your hands all over their bodies. This goes for men as well as ladies. This may even go for someone you may have known for awhile. Learn to read and react to signals. If a woman rears back as you come into her face with your mouth wide open and your tongue wagging in circles, it’s a good idea to close your mouth and give her a nice kiss on the cheek or lips. Just because you want your tongue down their throat doesn’t mean they want it there!!! RESPECT!!!

Being a Club Owner, we find occasion to meet lots of people. Some of these people have had experiences where they had to have sex with the club owners to attend their functions. This is NOT right. Everyone deserves respect! If a club owner forces him or herself on you, with the attitude that you have to “do” them, you’re in the wrong club, get out FAST!!!!

I recently ran across the most disgusting piece of so-called literature I have seen since this person last wrote an article. Women were referred to as “pussy”, “hoe”, etc. The sad fact is that is came from a club owner! Now those in their club may understand this useless bantering, but to those who are not in this “Pussy and Hoe Klan”, this is very disturbing. We all sometimes play sexual games with name calling, but just imagine a new person coming in to this arena and hearing something like this. They do not understand; they are new and nervous and need to be treated with… here’s the word again… RESPECT!

We all have our own jokes that we share with close friends that may not be “politically correct”, but if you are in the public eye, you need to remember that what you say can be taken literally by someone new.

Ladies and gentlemen, never forget what it was like to be new—the butterflies in your stomach, not knowing if someone is interested or not— getting signals crossed because you just don’t understand how the game is played. If you see a couple clutching to each other or a single with that bewildered look in their eyes, don’t see it as an opportunity to take advantage of them. Talk to them as people, let them know it is OK to be nervous and do what you can to help. Yes, you are a swinger and it is OK to make an invitation, but don’t make them feel as if it is mandatory. , whether it is straight, bisexual, B/D, R/P etc., we can treat each other with RESPECT and still enjoy the wondrous beauty that this Community provides.